LadyButterfly she/her @ LadyButterfly @piefed.blahaj.zone

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They're onto us...

Delicious though

We can but hope

Yes it would have been illegal for the person to commit the assault but AFAIK filming and distributing the film is legal. Of course if the artist didn't consent to the assault during sex, then it's sexual assault. I appreciate your viewpoint and agree with a lot of what you say... sorry for the long commenf

I've worked in the field for around 20 years, and I've studied it at post grad level. A key issue with DA perps is unrealistic expectations, they expect their partner to anticipate their every need, be multi skilled, madonna and whore etc. Research shows that DA perps are heavy users of porn (including as minors), and have strange/problematic sexual practices. Link this with their unrealistic expectations and you get abusers expecting extreme sex and getting angry that their partner isn't behaving like in porn.

I'm sure you know that DA perps use coercive control to trap their partner and make them traumatically bonded. They use strangulation to control and cause fear then reconciliation to keep their partner trapped. What people often don't know is after the blow out, the perp demands sex. Victims acquiesce and IME don't see that as rape.

Which brings me to the point. Strangulation, violences and strange practices in sex have become more normalised due to porn. Anecdotally I'm seeing a lot of women doing it because they think that's what sex is, it's obliged... and far more perps demanding it because he's seen it in porn. They don't do it safely or with true consent. When he attacks them then demands sex afterwards he'll often be more extreme because he knows she'll acquiesce. That's often when the most violent and dangerous rapes are occurring... and also abusers murdering their partner and claiming it was rough sex.

Then there's all the issues with the porn industry being poorly controlled, performers not giving true consent, lack of safe words etc. Which I'm sure you agree really isn't ok. Also just fyi, absolutely never tell a victim they should leave. Leaving is the most dangerous time in DA, plus victims get told what to do enough by their spouse. Instead look at developing a safety plan

Go on

Oh haaaaii my old friend!

That's been overturned as long as it's consensual. Strangulation is a known red flag for the danger a domestic abuse perp poses. It's also in line with the UK legislation about non fatal strangulation and banning the "rough sex" defence in murders cases.

There's a few research papers showing a link. I'm a domestic abuse outreach worker and lots of perps are heavy porn users and have strange sexual practices... obviously it's not as simple as "watch porn, become violent"

I wouldn't be surprised if you're right

I see it differently but respect your point of view

It's how it's being misused. There's issues with porn regulation in general that should be looked at IMO

I posted some links above about it being used as a rough sex defence in murders, and non fatal strangulation being a stand alone criminal offence. It's online with that

No problem 😊

It's in line with their banning of the rough sex defence where dangerous men were claiming they accidentally killed their partner during sex. Non fatal strangulation is also a stand alone defence as it's a well known risk factor

Proof! Science has spoken

Yep I was devastated when I saw it was cancelled. The acting, cinematography, dialogue etc was all flawless

Fracking toasters

Patriot it's on prime and it's incredible. Not a single bad episode, outstanding tv show that nobody has watched

Seconding BSG and TNG! Both awesome

That's my childhood in a meme.