DrainKikoLake @ DrainKikoLake @lemmy.ca

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Similar here. My DND runs automatically between 10pm and 7am, but I have a small number of people whitelisted whose calls will come through. Mine also has a setting where it will let someone through if they call twice within fifteen minutes. I don't think anyone's ever actually phoned during that time block but it gives me peace of mind to know I can still be reached in an emergency.

Yeah I have no idea what this is talking about. 38 here, I've owned a printer for 15 years at least. We switched to a Brother laser printer a few years back and it's the tits.

I also own a minivan, AMA.

Eight classes a semester! Our universities must run on a very different model. For me (humanities degree), a full course load was five courses at once, each of which had three instructional hours per week. So I was normally in class for 15 hours a week, and probably spent about the same amount of time studying/reading. Going from five classes to four effectively meant going from 30 hours a week spent on school stuff to 24. It was much easier (especially since I was also working p/t).

It's still Minecraft and Terraria.

Pomodoro timers, as someone else mentioned, are great. It was a lot easier to start when I could tell myself "ok, I only have to do this for fifteen minutes" -- and most of the time when that first timer went off I'd gotten into a groove and kept going anyway.

For writing assignments, I found starting with a blank page really difficult, so I'd paste in a paragraph or two of lorem ipsum or some other nonsense text and go from there. Having words on the page, even though they were irrelevant and I knew I'd have to delete them later, tricked my brain into thinking "oh, I've already started this; carry on, then!"

The habit of doing even just a little bit every day was more sustainable and more effective for me than infrequent big cram/study/writing sessions.

I had probably the most success with using musical cueing. Whenever I sat down to write or study, I listened to one of the same two albums on repeat. (I like classical; one was Handel's Messiah and the other was a two-disc set of Thomas Tallis choral works.) Even now, almost a decade later, when I put either of those on it instantly snaps me into work mode. Creating that kind of association is really helpful! And having only one or two choices also meant I couldn't distract myself by trying to figure out what to listen to: it was A or B, end of.

You might also consider how/whether you could spread out your course load. Most years in undergrad I did five classes a semester, but one or twice I did four only (plus a summer class to stay on track) and being at only 80% of a full load made a huge difference.

Good luck!

Lovely!

Late 30s here, I would descibe how I feel as "settled". I feel steady in who I am and what I do; my youngest child is five and so I'm out of the most intense hands-on parenting years. Looking forward to my forties!

An ultrasound tech once told me that I have a cute spleen.

So... the dishes were important enough for your partner to berate you about them multiple times, but not important enough for them to do the washing-up while you were out? Are they always your responsibility? Did you have a mutual conversation and understanding about chore division, or has your partner implicitly or explicitly assigned certain chores to you?

What measures of responsibility does your partner take for their own sleep? Sleep mask? Ear plugs? White noise? Weighted blanket? Other measures? Or is it all on you to accommodate them?

Would offering to sleep on the couch if you come home after they're asleep feel like a reasonable compromise for you?

Does having a curfew set for you by your partner seem like a normal thing to you? Are you surprised that people here think it's not normal?

Does your partner regularly use belittling or derogatory language towards you as you've detailed here? Does it feel to you that using such language is justified by your ADHD?

Does this situation seem like a one-off thing, or is it often a problem that you have not read your partner's mind?

I think you've got some important questions to ask yourself here.

Every time I head to the second-hand store I pick up a couple new CDs and DVDs. It's great! I'm paying max $3.99 apiece and I'll own them forever.

I get a lot of use out of glass screen protectors. I'm quite clumsy and they've saved my screen many times! I've used a couple of different brands and they sometimes take more than one try for me to line up correctly, but $10 and a few minutes of mild annoyance is a very small price to pay compared to replacing a whole phone screen.

It's opportunity costs all the way down, baby!

Heat to 69 in the winter, cool to 74-76 in the summer.

What did they censor? The b word?

Specifically, as Brunt, right?

Yes, because if you don't do it every time, eventually you'll forget when it really matters.

It also provides clarity to other drivers. People do dumb things in cars. If someone's in the turning lane ahead of me without their signal, there's part of me that's watching to see if they're confused and about to do something foolish. Signals = clear intentions = peace of mind.

Bathing my children, obviously.

But like... why a toilet? You could use the baking soda and vinegar in a bowl just as easily.

It feels like this is an elaborate troll. Are they hoping people will accidentally clog their toilets with eggs?

Honestly I find all of the covid years kind of hard to remember, and I know a lot of people who feel the same. I bet that Trump 1 mostly gets wrapped up and suppressed with all the rest of the general trauma.