I've noticed that sometimes he gets very close quickly but then drifts away to other questions that seem less relevant. But I don't mind this myself. \
The excitement stays, whether he will guess what I think about or not - I don't mind answering 60 questions or even 100.
There's someone for everybody. Sometimes you need to look hard and long, sometimes it takes a chance to just walk on you by surprise. A good attitude and an open mind helps a lot in this stuff. It took maybe 200-400 different dating profiles for me to go through before I got lucky myself. Been happily with her for more than a year now.
I would probably think about the things I enjoy doing by myself. Then, little by little, trying to add space for that someone to do that same thing with you. Then learning, what hobby/activity works OK, fine or even very well while socializing with someone and what doesn't, and how much time you can actually give for someone before you get (close to) exhausting yourself. And forgetting to keep in touch through messages cos that's not gonna work out for you but rather giving a call to that someone when you feel like meeting up, face to face.
Then it's down to more experimenting, of what you can do, they can do, you together, how often, and if you guys become something bigger, then delve into that matter slowly. Talking is the key here, so both get chances to learn something out of yourself and the other.
I don't think it's a good idea for you to go too far out of your comfort zone. I believe that little steps just out of that circle can train you and teach you something valuable, and going too far just gets you burned or broken down, needing lots of time to regain your energy. Choose your own pace, choose ways to try out new things and explain to that someone, how your brain works so they can decide, is it worth it to start with you. If it's not, keep trying until someone thinks it is.
I think that anyone who wants to contribute somehow in a positive way to their society, environment or country, should get enough money to have their basic needs fulfilled. Being it full-time or part-time work, volunteering or just helping out random people from time to time (pick trash alone somewhere and stuff).
I don't approve ending people's lives because they create harm to others. Of course it's a whole different thing when you compare a feared dictator who hates humankind versus someone who spends all their time trolling people out of their minds in the Internet just because of the lulz. But I don't know, what would be a good solution in these or any other cases.
Yup...no matter how good a tool is, if there are no users to it, it might be as good as it never existed (unless if someone takes ideas from said tool and implements them to a user service, growing their quality, which is still better than nothing). Sad but true.
Maybe different in America, but here in Finland I've never been asked to pay myself so I could volunteer. And I've been in few different places. And I also haven't needed to provide any kind of CV to do volunteering (nobody has asked for such information).
Sometimes I'm offered free food, free products, free fun time and even one-time payments (they pay me - which I still find strange since I haven't gotten used to it!).
Damaskox @ Damaskox @lemmy.world Posts 18Comments 208Joined 2 yr. ago
I've noticed that sometimes he gets very close quickly but then drifts away to other questions that seem less relevant. But I don't mind this myself.
\ The excitement stays, whether he will guess what I think about or not - I don't mind answering 60 questions or even 100.