My parents were of the mindset : we are not your friends, we are your parents the whole time we were growing up. That's not to say they didn't have fun with us, we did every day, but they were a lot more concerned with raising us than they were with us liking them. It has been an absolute joy getting to know who they are as people as adults. Now they are among my best friends. I know so much of their preferences, likes, dislikes, dreams, regrets, their history and what makes them laugh.
My husband's dad was his "best friend" the whole time, while his mom had to play both parents. His dad has passed, and his relationship with his mom is strained. He doesn't really know anything about either of them. He never knows what to get his mom as a gift, or their medical histories. They are strangers to him.
He may not have been bullied, but he may have missed out on bonding and closeness that his peers enjoyed. There was a study that showed life is way better for kids if they don't have a phone, but only if their peers also don't have phones
And I have literally never heard a girl in real life say she wouldn't date a guy if he's not above 6 ft. I see guys say it about women, but none of the women I know actually care about height. I have heard women say they'd prefer if their partner is taller than them, but even this is a preference, not a deal breaker. If you've actually heard the height thing from real women in your life, you just need to start hanging out with different women because that's a shallow requirement.
I set a lot of alarms. A LOT. And I'm not allowed to dismiss them until the action is actually done. If I have an alarm to change the laundry into the dryer, I hit snooze until the dryer is running. Not on my way to change it over. Not once the clothes are in the dryer. Once the dryer is running.
You're only as strong as your systems!
I don't try to make systems that I like or that I wish / hope I can follow, I make systems that I know will work with my habits. Once I know where I drop my clothes on the floor, that's where the laundry basket lives. I use a bookcase instead of a dresser for my clothes, that way I can see everything and I can actually keep things folded cause I'm not digging through looking for something. I don't have coffee tables anymore because they are just stuff collectors! We use foldable TV trays that get put away at the end of the day. They can only collect a manageable amount of stuff to put away.
My husband (also ADHD) gets very ambitious with systems and routines, and then fails. Make systems that work with what you'll actually keep up with!
There are free 10 finger typing classes online. Frankly it's a bit fun, similar to learning an instrument! I did one during downtime at work because I was a 6/7 finger typer, and always had to look for numbers or punctuation other than . , ! ?
Actually McDonald's sandwich prices are literally an economic measure. The big Mac has specifically been used by economists to measure purchase power over time
In my neighborhood a house just burned down. Just the concrete parts are left. It's listed for 250k. You can't find a starter home for 250k in my city. Just saying.
I'm assuming he means health insurance, which for a family can be very expensive, and isn't really negotiable if you have kids
Yup. My low wage job made me ineligible for assistance. With normal medical bills rising, it was more fiscally responsible for me to quit and be fully unemployed with free healthcare than to continue employment but go into big medical debt.
Maybe judge the city based on council members over time if you need to bend over backwards to feel good about this progress. The over all ratio is still not 50/50.
We'd need exclusively female presidents for about 2 1/2 centuries for us to meet any kind of "equality" there, and that would seem uneven too. This is not all women just because it's all women today.
You don't need an excuse to not be retired. Plenty of people just don't have the means to retire so are still working. Or plenty of boomers are housing or at least helping their millennial kids with bills and therefore don't retire. Why should a 69 year old who is still totally active leave their job, which puts their mental and physical health at risk all while moving to a smaller, fixed income at a time of crazy price increases just to make room for other people to make more? They're getting screwed by grocery prices and insurance spikes too
When Glenn was murdered with the baseball bat - the picture and him saying Ma- Mag- Ma
It was just too intense for me. I just closed the book and walked away for a long time.
When my husband saw that part in the show he just stopped watching. Also too intense for him
I'm one of five and we're all close. Our ages are 27-35. We have 3 active group chats (with parents and spouses) and at least 1 of them is used every single day. There are times when we go a few weeks without seeing each other in person but I always miss them when that happens. We have one sister who is less close , the self proclaimed black sheep, who is much more conservative than us and married someone who is a bad fit with our whole family, but we still see her many times a year and she's on the group chats of course. My brother is more aloof, but my two other sisters are my legitimate best friends who I would love to see weekly if schedules allowed.
I am so glad my parents didn't allow us to be very mean to each other. My husband's parents let his sister act like a real brat towards him, and now they have a strained relationship at best. She is passive aggressive and sometimes downright mean to him, and yet he's the bad guy for not coming around more. Friendship is earned! It takes work and upkeep!
My parents were of the mindset : we are not your friends, we are your parents the whole time we were growing up. That's not to say they didn't have fun with us, we did every day, but they were a lot more concerned with raising us than they were with us liking them. It has been an absolute joy getting to know who they are as people as adults. Now they are among my best friends. I know so much of their preferences, likes, dislikes, dreams, regrets, their history and what makes them laugh.
My husband's dad was his "best friend" the whole time, while his mom had to play both parents. His dad has passed, and his relationship with his mom is strained. He doesn't really know anything about either of them. He never knows what to get his mom as a gift, or their medical histories. They are strangers to him.