My main distro these days is Gentoo, but I definitely feel the same. I'll write an ebuild anytime it's feasible, and Gentoo has some pretty great tools for helping me keep up with updates for things.
I usually spin up a distrobox container of Arch for anything I need that I don't want to, or can't compile myself. Both CLI and GUI programs work, and you can use podman as the backend.
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