BougieBirdie @ Bougie_Birdie @lemmy.blahaj.zone

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No joke, I opened this thread to comment on it last night and forgot until I saw it in my feed again today.

I started keeping a diary, and I found that helps. Something about writing things down helps encode memories, but then if you do forget you have a reminder.

In particular my gratitude journal is helpful. I often find myself in a state where I can't think of a single good thing going on in my life. But then going through it I read about how a stray cat came to sit in my lap in the garden, and while I didn't remember that before I read it the memories come flooding back.

Your gaming experience sounds similar to mine. I used to love MMOs (probably to the point of addiction tbh) but wouldn't talk to people if I could help it. I don't really play MMOs anymore, but now that also means I can avoid public matchmaking like poison.

It's something about the anonymity of the internet, the unlikelihood of encountering each other again, or just the frustration present in some games which turns people into the nastiest sort of keyboard warrior.

And now I'm on Lemmy. The irony mounts.

It seems there's a trend of pushing games towards community. And I'm sure that's great for the people who like that sort of thing. But typically I want to play in a private lobby with my friends, and not have strangers running around goofing on me in public zones.

That's not to say I don't appreciate a good goof, I just want to goof on my terms

A lot of people are in here saying propaganda and manipulation are inherently bad. And while I agree that in the current media landscape it's used in an overwhelmingly negative way, it doesn't have to be.

Consider that everyone is a victim of propaganda. Literally. Everyone. You probably don't realize all of your own biases because that's how the system works.

Imagine you see two posters / articles / memes or whatever side by side about vaccines. One says "vaccines cause autism, protect your loved ones," and the other says, "get vaccinated, protect your loved ones." They're both propaganda. However, the latter is much more grounded in truth than the other.

If a doctor offers a child a lollipop if they're brave during their vaccination, that's manipulation. But it's still a good thing because the kid gets vaccinated.

Anyhow, manipulation and propaganda (particularly in the modern sense of the word) are typically used as the tools of bad people. And if people become very entrenched in their views, they no longer listen to reason. Sometimes propaganda and manipulation might be the only way to get someone to change their harmful views.

I'd obviously prefer to live in a world where people do the right thing because it's the right thing, and not because they've been tricked into it. But sadly that isn't the world we live in.

I do think there's nuance to be had. "Vaccines protect against disease," is a truthful statement and will stand up to scrutiny. "Vaccines add two inches to your dick," might be a more effective way to get people to try a vaccine. But when an antivaxxer tries it and discovers that their unit did not, in fact, double in length, then they'll turn back around to antivaxxing with a new fervour.

Anyway, I prefer that my biases are grounded in truth. Show me the data, teach me the science, reach out and help me. Unfortunately, for many people they prefer their biases to be grounded in social inclusion. Peer pressure is a hell of a drug.

God, that's a mood and a half.

When my depression advanced, I was hopeful that not having feelings would mean not being sad anymore. I was disappointed, turns out feeling something is better than feeling nothing. Talk about a devil's bargain.

Good luck out there, stranger. Tomorrow's another day

Ah, well that's some additional context. I'd be disappointed in him too then.

But I guess it's his house and his first time doing the gathering, so he's totally in his rights to make it family only. I can't speak for his state of mind, but I'd find the whole thing nerve-wracking. Inviting an extra person might be perceived as a throwing a wrench in the machine.

I'm with you. I don't really agree with his decision, but I respect it. But if you really want to blow off Christmas then I'd make sure to be prepared for the consequences. That kind of thing can have fallout within the family, even if your heart is in the right place.

I don't think your BIL's behaviour is inherently shitty. I wouldn't let a strange person into my house for a major holiday just because one of my in-laws vouched for them. Then again, I have some monster in-laws and that colours my opinion.

I think it's great that you want to support your friend. I probably wouldn't want to be alone on the big day either. But if I was your friend I wouldn't want to go somewhere that I didn't feel welcomed either. I also wonder if being around a strange family's celebration would make me feel worse about being alone the rest of the holiday.

You could always meet halfway and duck out for a bit to visit your friend. I don't think anyone gets to have a monopoly on how you spend your day, even if it is Christmas.

Sure. It's terrible.

There's no shortage of terrible MS products. But that doesn't mean we can only poke fun at the worst ones.

The exact protections will vary depending on your jurisdiction, but generally speaking employees aren't liable for theft, damages, losses, spoilage, shrink, etc. Those are all the cost of doing business and that's carried by the employer. Otherwise, arguably they'd have no claim on the profits from their business since the employees are the ones carrying the risk.

Imagine you work in a kitchen and drop an egg on the floor. Well that sucks, but accidents happen. The kitchen eats the cost and you get a fresh egg. If our legal framework allowed the employer to bill the employee for the cost of the egg, before you know it people will be scooping yolks off the floor to save money.

Know your rights. Even if you are protected by your labour board, that won't stop an unscrupulous employer from intimidating you into waiving your rights.

If your employer is trying to intimidate you into preventing theft and that's not your job, fuck them. Interfering with crime when you have no training to do so is a great way to incur personal injury.

Gotcha. I was prepared to make an allowance that maybe he just wasn't interested in the finances and therefore didn't want to talk about them. But it sounds like you've asked him about them point-blank and he's refusing to discuss.

We often make allowances for our upbringing, but these are huge red flags. Honestly, if my partner was hiding their finances, then I'd be worried about what else they were hiding.

It sounds like you've got turbulent times ahead. I wish you the strength to move forward.

Reading the post title made me think "well, I guess it depends on the allegations and gravity of the corruption." You know, some things I wouldn't find earth shattering like shoplifting, or maybe accepting bribes which don't hurt anyone (ex that's probably no longer relevant: giving the cable guy $100 to get free cable)

Then I read the post body, and yikes, this is on a whole other level. And I still believe anyone is entitled the benefit of the doubt and that allegations aren't convictions. But he's a judge so allegations of corruption are probably the worst allegations that someone in his office could receive. Especially when you consider that he's in a position to make other people allegations turn into acquittals, so I'd be wondering who's doing the same for him.

And again, I don't know enough about the situation. But if I was in your shoes I imagine I'd be equally suspicious.

You say you're dark on the finances, would you say that together you share a lavish lifestyle? While not exactly a nail in the coffin, wealth is often an indicator of corruption.

Just to play devil's advocate, if a group of people come together with allegations that still doesn't mean he did it. However, if I asked him about it I couldn't take his answer at face value either because these are serious allegations being corroborated by others. I'd imagine you're too close to be impartial, and I'd reserve judgement until he receives... well, judgement.

Honestly though, if a judge is facing complaints of corruption then they kind of have to address them or else it indicates their corruption. If he's been sitting on these complaints or turning them away, then I'd be highly suspicious of him.

Anyway, it sounds like these allegations have already impacted your relationship. Maybe if they were proven unfounded that might be something you could reconcile about. But if the allegations are based on truth, I'd be very careful. I wouldn't feel safe being around someone like that personally, especially if he knew I had a low opinion of him

CEO is usually my answer as well when people ask

Like, honestly too. The humans running the show are outrageously expensive, cause huge ecological harm, make their decisions based on vibes with no understanding of their domain, and their purposes are inscrutable to the average worker. They're honestly the perfect target for AI because they already behave like AI.

I don't think I actually want to live in a world where AI is running the show, but I'm not sure it'd be any worse than the current system of letting the most parasitic bloodsucking class of human being call the shots. Maybe we ought to try something else first.

But make sure to tell the board of directors and shareholders how much more profitable they'd be if they didn't have to buy golden parachutes

My wife prefers the popcorn button and I prefer to mash +30secs. You have to hit the popcorn button three times to get the right setting, but then they're both cooking for two minutes.

She gets there in four presses and it takes me five, but +30s is right next to Start so I'm not sure one is better than the other. I guess she's causing less wear on the button

Don't buy a microwave with just a dial. My last one had an actual keypad of buttons, I could just press 2 + Start and it was wonderful. Nowadays I have to scroll over hells creation to get the right setting, or change the clock, and it's awful

"Hustler's University"

I'm sure the intention is a play on Hustle culture and it's supposed to teach you that grindset mindset, but it wasn't too long ago that "Hustler" meant "con artist" and, well, it's his university

Surely that's not what paragon of humanity and alleged sex trafficker Andrew Taint meant when naming it. He's got the ego, but I'm not sure he's clever enough to flaunt it

You've found a way to sum up how I feel. I haven't been able to put it in words, but the place definitely has a different vibe post-ressurection

That's not to say I'm not happy to see more activity. I just miss the "fantasy retro" computers

Oh yeah, sure thing!

https://bougiebirdie.itch.io/

The golden pupper still seems pleased with the arrangement

"Oh boy! If they got such a big bed for the cat, I CAN'T WAIT to see what mine's going to look like!"

Sure, I suppose any public record is a public record. And you're right, as much as I'd love to see it and it'd be good for the world, I don't imagine it happening in my lifetime.

I suppose either way an unscrupulous person might find a way to launder their money.

The world needs more safe spaces for violence.

Otherwise we'll have unsafe violence, and that's really unpleasant

Yeah, my original thought was that you could see a record to show that a public works contract put forth by Politician Joe and awarded to ABC Roadwork Inc, and then later you'd see that most of the contract money ended up in Joe's cousin's investment account.

And again, I don't think it's foolproof because ABC would just immediately convert everything into cash to pay their vendors. But it's still nice to think about alternatives even if we know they might be impractical because hey, that's how we come up with better alternatives.

Yeah, I feel like I'm pretty entrenched into Spotify. It works with just about any device I might try to connect to. Plus discovery is made fairly simple, even if it is driven largely by opaque algorithms.

They keep raising the rates though, and the artists aren't making any more as a result, so I'm keeping an eye out for alternatives