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  • Not one of those who downvoted you. But I have a question. This is obviously cringy and immoral on so many levels. But would it be considered harassment if:

    1. The FIL is sending this as a one off and never bringing it up again
    2. He's not getting mad or otherwise being offended at OP

    Basically, my question is what makes this harassment as opposed to an unwelcome sexual advance?

  • Since you mentioned it - organ donation should be opt out, not opt in. It wouldn't even be controversial, everybody still has freedom of choice.

    Edit: I'm really curious what those downvoting me are objecting to. At least leave a comment or something!

  • if people have a choice to interpret something as 1) that a question about fashion is in fact an innocuous question about fashion, or 2) that he’s obviously a rapist and victim blaming and I’m going to call him a rapist (when the entire tone of the thread and community is not serious)

    That's on the assumption that the reader sees both possible meanings, though. Most people don't do that, the first meaning that comes to mind is the one we go with. It's a very rare person that will, without external prompting, go 'I wonder if he meant something else?'.

    And oddly enough, he was the person to escalate with that explanation, and I was the one to explain it.

    From his POV, you had already escalated. Yeah it was due to his misunderstanding. But at that point you were the one with a choice as to whether to nicely explain your actual original meaning, (and maybe edit the confusing line?) or just rage about everybody on Lemmy being quick to assume the worst. Nobody's the asshole here, it was a misunderstanding, but you could have chosen to make it better :)

  • Looking at the comments, I can see how your comment got misinterpreted. I do believe you had no such intention, but the way it was worded (especially the last word, 'anyway') makes it sound out of context as if you were victim blaming. And from the number of votes, it's obvious many see it that way. Rather than get mad at randos on the internet, why not just reflect that you might have written that in a somewhat confusing way, and clarify it? Without escalating.

  • I was honestly about to say “Maybe I was wrong about him? Maybe Kamala losing won’t be so bad…”

    And this is why democracy sucks. Voters have the memory of a flea and the emotions of a toddler.

    "Democracy is the worst form of govt except for all the other ones that have been tried"