Everyone makes choices for themselves. That's an attempt at a childish hedonistic argument ("bro, YOLO, why so serious?"). Marriage is nothing more and nothing less than publicly asserting your decision to be a couple and start a family unit, with the assent of your community. Today there are rites and legal documents to sign but it's the same at its core, which is why cohabitation laws making some sense. If you've met the in laws and take your partnership seriously, that's it. But many people today are pure unthinking hedonists and way past the age of discovery (+25, c'mon, even your brain is fully formed!), or too fearful to start a relationship with another human being in earnest, and that's it I guess.
I have a feeling that signing a whole legal document/ screaming to the four winds (both families included) you will be having sex with this person did a lot for consent. But I understand, marital rape. Divorce is a thing though, and always should have been, but some cultures have been historically more brutally misogynistic than others...
I was replying with the "what would you do with the information?" with that "I don't take personally etc etc"! 😅 As in, I won't take offence to 'weird' and seemingly antisocial behaviour, because I understand there's some differences in personality between tribes (meaning whatever they're giving me I need to reprocess accordingly). Perhaps, they have the tiniest bit of a genetic component (and are even harder/impossible to fully change, and hence why some of these differences and characteristics have been there seemingly forever). I mean, would that be that bad? Or does it really seem that far fetched?
He got violently assaulted by a seagull and had a gut reaction with a seagull. I know you wanna equate it semantically to people being problematic with people but, again, unless you're even more peaceful and selfless than Aang from ATLA, you're just being emotionally hypocritical. Had he eaten the seagull or composted it to reduce waste, what would the problem be?
I don't take it personally that the further North I go, the more spaced out people are at bus stations and the further South I go, the louder people will talk, I guess.😅 But you're right, we aren't ready for it.
Yep, I hate it too. At least the places I eat at (by myself, not with my wife) barely give you a napkin, you just get the meal and accompanying grease, but still.
Western Europeans (Americans are displaced Europeans just like apartheid South Africans and genocidal Israelis), for being such a small group of people in an even smaller land, have managed to cruelly oppress the world since at least the days of Jesus til this day. The consistency (the Romans, the Crusades, Francisco Pizarro and Hernan Cortez, King Leopold's Congo, the Dutch East India Company, the native Australian genocide by the Brits, every American conflict including proxy wars, etc.) is, at the very least, curious. Has chattle slavery even been a thing outside of the Western world?! The most destructive conflicts in recent history were just Western Europeans Vs Western Europeans with displaced Europeans joining in later and some extras! Believe what you wanna believe ("we're just better at it!", yeah because you're consistently heartless at times, lol), but if I were you, I'd take the history of my people a little more seriously and consider the suffering of others due to my ancestors' crimes, idk.
What if it accounted for a little bit, the tiniest bit, of our psychological makeup? Would it be so terrible or dangerous of an idea? Not for clear minds and kind hearts, surely. I mean, everyone can swim and everyone can run but you know who's gotta have at least the smallest of edges everything else being equal, right? That's easy to accept, maybe this is just the next frontier, that we're not just tabula rasa, but we have some innate tendencies towards/eases and difficulties regarding A or B the more we have of this or another tribe in us. It's not something I will "die on a hill" for, simply because my evidence is all anecdotal, but 🤷.
It's almost entirely cultural, of course, but I do think (I can't prove it, it's just travel and observation) that there are innate psychological differences to people of different tribes. The Congolese, the Austrian and the Nepali are different in a deeper way than nurture can account for, I think.
Funnily enough, I agree with the sentiment, lol. Life is supposed to be responsibly enjoyable, where you draw the lines is what matters.