AquaTofana @ AquaTofana @lemmy.world

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Also in Texas, also desperate to leave, but currently still Active Duty. I hope you get somewhere safe, not because I think you should have to, but because this state is a literal fucking hellhole for anyone not straight, white, and Christian.

God speed and safe travels, my friend.

This is a beautiful comment.

I'm still trying to have a relationship with my parents despite their love of Trump. My mother, she'll go out of her way to avoid politics with me and my husband, and I asked for a family photo with my nieces and nephews for Christmas, and she made sure all their Trump paraphernalia was removed. I still havent talked to her since the election as I'm still processing the fact that she voted for that fucker.

My dad on the other hand...the last time I spoke to him ended in a screaming match that he initiated, where he hung up on me because I called him racist due to him UNIRONICALLY believing that immigrants ate dogs and cats.

They want to homeschool my niece and nephew, and that terrifies me. That was ANOTHER huge argument that we had over the 2021-2022 Christmas period. I really didnt think Id ever go back after that. But Im so scared that if I dont try, those kids will never be exposed to ANYTHING other than my parents hateful views. I grew up in that environment. I had some views that Im not proud of today until I left home @ 19. I know how fucking convincing they are/how much they push the "fAmIlY oVeR eVeRyThInG" narrative.

That being said, I dont live anywhere near them, and I only see them once, maybe twice in a year, so Im not sure exactly how much affect I can even have on my niece and nephew. But I feel guilty not trying.

Deleted prior comment because the comment didnt add to the conversation and I got lost in my own spiral.

But Squid, I think its admirable to put your daughter first. Everyone with half a brain knows that decisions like this, uprooting an established family and everything you know, isnt made lightly/on a whim. You're showing your support of her well-being, and every time you talk about her on here, you come off as such a loving parent. We should all be so lucky. And, youve talked about having chronic illness before and it sounds like youre headed to a place with socialized health care. I wish you and yours all the luck in the world.

As for my husband and I, we're childfree by choice, so we're the best kinda people to stay behind. The kind who can weigh decisions against our own well being and decide what we can/cant handle exposing ourselves to without mixing up a child in this mess.

Fuckin' not staying in Texas tho.

Are you not even trying to understand how toxic masculinity has forced men to shut up and swallow their feelings, has prevented them from pursuing passions for being "too girly"/not lucrative enough to provide for their family? How its pushed "strongman" narratives, and anything less than that is seen as "weaker/less than"? You cant see how male rape/abuse victims are treated differently than female rape/abuse victims?

Like, if you really cant open your eyes to how that may really affect someones mental health/quality of life, then I think you should do some work on learning empathy.

The 25 year old dude working at the gas station is not the reason the patriarchy is an issue. He's struggling along with the rest of us, and we're telling him he has nothing to complain about and has it easier. Thats not okay.

I dont think men *don't * extend empathy to us. I think Ive seen a hard shift from my parents (Gen X, they were young when they had me), to my Millenial husband and my friends. The vast majority (that Ive met, admittedly), seem like they're on our side.

But it feels like theyre also trying to be like "Hey, we're dealing with shit too", and we're turning around and being like "Not right now" and its been "Not Right Now" for 30+ years.

Are men perfect? Nah, but neither are we, and we have to make space for them to be validated as victims/people with struggles too. And we can also remind them to call out each other when theyre incorrect, and we need to do the same thing for each other which is what Im trying to do now.

Dont be the reason that Lib women get an even worse rep than we already have. We can discuss both perspectives!

I agree, as a woman who very much cares about inclusive feminism. By silencing men who talk about their issues/pains, we push them further away. By pretending like men don't have worries/fears/needs/wants, we're doing them a disservice.

The Patriarchy hurts everyone. Men need to know that if theyre abused by a woman, it doesnt make them "less of a man", nor is it "their fault". No one deserves abuse. They, as victims deserve to be acknowledged and handled with care, and have their abuse investigated/taken seriously just as much as a woman does.

There's room enough for us all to be equal.

Reading that anyone could think Bell's Two Hearted is "fruity" is fucking wild.

I'm guessing he hadn't actually tried it at the time.

Yeah I'm in Texas and my spam filter looks just like OPs and others who have posted in this thread.

Im starting to think this is a general American issue and not a swing state-vs-solid state issue

Less than mid troll 🥱

Anyone who is not an able-bodied straight white Christian male with money should be concerned about this user's viewpoints.

Another two here cast for Allred today!

Honestly, while I'm watching the Presidential election with bated breath along with everyone else, I'm more invested in Ted Cruz and those 3 fuckwad Republican State Justices who are up for re election as well!

Fuck you Cruz, Blacklock, Bland, and Devine! LFG Allred, Weems, Jones, and Goldstein! Uproot those fascist fucks!

I've never seen a gif mirror my reaction before.

Someone on here posted a glowing review of Fields of Mistria. I downloaded the game and I can't stop playing it!

It's that perfect cozy farm Sim game, mimicking the best parts of Stardew Valley and minimizing the worst parts. I cannot wait for the full release, and I'm so glad I happened upon that review!

I'm AFAB, cisgendered/feminine af, and I've used so many all-gendered bathrooms. With men. "Manly men", even! They were going pee in a urinal while I was peeing in a stall! At the same time! (This was on a very LGBTQ+ friendly cruise at the time, and only one bathroom on each floor had gender designations for those who really couldnt wrap their minds around the concept). Additionally, in the hipster areas of my major metro area, a lot of the cool bars/restaurants are all gendered as well!

Guess how many times Ive been raped/assaulted/harassed in a bathroom? Guess, Texas? Ill give you a hint: It was zero. Zero times.

Fuck, I hate this state.

I think OP and I just have the same issue with similar looking faces, because I also thought this was Gob from Arrested Development.

Yup. Stuck to my guns for over a year, and Lemmy didnt grow like I thought it would. Started using Reddit more regularly again in September.

Now, I do still only use it in the browser, no app, so my usage of Lemmy still far surpasses Reddit.

But there are some communities that either never made the migration or faced active hostility, so, gotta go to Reddit to be a part of them 🤷‍♀️.

Dawwwww I bet he loved it!

And you did pet him, right?

Bruh, if I got out and fulfilled my IRR honorably and whatnot, and then I was recalled years later, I would promptly smoke all the pot in reasonable distance from me the moment I received that recall notice.