My daughter and I had ones that were just bracelets with a retractable cord between. She could get up to around four feet from me. We did a lot of hiking since she could walk, and I can't imagine going through some places without it. She's so quick and always loved to peer right over cliff sides. No fear!
Tolerable accommodations, learning skills that can be put to use on the outside, and no fear of violence should be some of the basics of a prison system. The fact that our prison system is so fucked that slavery seems like a better deal isn't a credit to slavery, it's evidence of a horrifically broken prison system.
I used to have a cat that I was able to train to use the toilet! It took less than 6 months to transition from the litterbox, and she was around 3 when we started so she was already very set in her ways.
It requires something this This Toilet Insert and a spare bathroom that doesn't need to be used by anyone but the cat for the length of the training. (Even if you remove the insert to use the toilet, the cat will likely object to any smells that aren't their own)
Yet, I am completely unable to get my dog to stop humping men... Only ever men. Suggestions welcomed.
Congee is the ultimate squishy sick food. Cook a cup of rice in 6-8 cups of liquid, with salt to taste, until completely broken down so it's thick and smooth. It's super versatile, can be made savory or sweet depending on the liquid you use to cook and any seasoning you want to add. I like it cooked in diluted coconut milk for a dessert base, then mix in raspberries and honey. Make it savory by cooking it in broth and topping with a soft boiled egg.
I only have one child, because she tried to kill me.
Going through the complications, the hospitalizations, the stress on my marriage, the fear and the sorrow and the anxiety... At the time it was all devastating. But then I held my healthy, beautiful daughter and I knew we had both survived it all. There was, of course, the natural biological rush of hormones and happy chemicals to ease labor and promote bonding. For me though, there was also a feeling of invincibility and adrenaline, like I had survived jumping off a cliff after a long tortuous hike to the top of a mountain. I don't know how else to describe it.
Sure it could have killed me, but it didn't!
Then factor in that for any woman, people will always ask when are you having another one? Peers at Mommy and Me, family members, old ladies at the grocery store, it'a a deeply personal decision and people treat it like chatting about the weather. Other Mom's would tell me their birth stories and say but 'it was all so worth the pain' and I'd think, maybe I'm a wuss. Maybe I'm not as good of a mother as they are.
Think, too, of all the other stupid shit humans do that might kill them. Have you ever smoked a cigarette? Do you drink? Cross the street without waiting for the traffic signal? Drive or ride in a car? And if so, what did you get out of it? You could have risked your life, or someone else's, for nothing.
These women are risking their lives, but they've survived this ordeal before. And in return, they bring a new life into the world!
I still wouldn't do it again, but I can't blame any mother who does.
The most absurd thing I've seen a man refuse to do because of toxic masculinity is just scroll past an innocuous comment without replying a bunch of misogynistic bullshit.
I did cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia years ago, and at the time had the same issue with waking up and then laying in bed for hours trying to get back to sleep. It led to a horrible cycle of anxiety about whether I'd be able to sleep, which of course made it harder to sleep. The most important rules are to try to go to bed and get up at the same time every day. If you're awake in the middle of the night and can't fall back asleep after ten minutes, get out of bed and do something quiet with no screens. I recommend hand washing dishes, dusting, or folding laundry. This is productive, calm and quiet, and boring enough that you will be happy to go back to bed when your body says you're ready. When you start doing this, you're going to be even more tired during the day. Just suffer through it, don't take a nap and don't try to counteract it with caffeine or other stimulants! That will only exacerbate the cycle of insomnia. I also recommend keeping a journal of when you go to bed, every time you wake up, and when you're finally up for the day. You might find that you naturally wake up less if you give yourself a different bed time window.
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