Grieve. Be kind to yourself, be kind to them. Allow yourself to feel without resisting the feelings. But don't chase them either.
There isn't a right way to feel for most of this.
Part of grieving is reflection (usually). Remembering good times, bad times and wish-they-were-different times. Find a way to be with those moments and accept them as they are: moments. They aren't lost, just future ones will be different.
And that's okay. Or it will be. And you'll be okay, too.
I ruminate too. I tell myself it helps me learn, helps me grow, helps me remember not to "x". It rarely helps. It's just a conditioned response that makes me feel more control while i actually lose some.
What truly helps is healing. Learning that sometimes compatability isn't a you tho
Ing or a them thing. But it's still a thing and somebody called the spade a spade.
If you weren't up to your standards, then rise. Otherwise, coat yourself in patience. Listen to YouTube videos like Tara Brach. Be honest with yourself as you heal. We all have barbs, we all have scars.
These links (clicked and read) are not all that salacious.
Where there are like-minded people, we like to help. If we can get more like-minded people, that's better.
If it was for free market capitalism, I'd have an issue with our contribution. A lot of this is about the spread of democracy. I don't take issue with that.
Self-determination (including the rejection of democracy) seems fundamental to me. Overall, however, I think socialist democracies make the most sense. Beneficent dictatorships seem like a they're one step away from not being beneficial. Slippery slope thing.
You're changing the topic. You demanded citations for an assertion. Felt it was fair to do so. You clearly continue to do so.
When others ask you, you tell them to Google it. Even just a little more effort would be helpful - a good site for reference, author, something...
In the other thread I see your links. Thank you. Substance is good. I'll take a look and see what's up.
That so many people "follow you around" is you misreading that you're pissing off (potential) allies. They're in those communities for a reason.
Be better. No one is "stalking me." And it's not because I hold a lot of popular opinions (some are, some aren't). Why are you being "stalked" for real? It's not the opinion - it is the presentation.
If you were confident and mature, you wouldn't be glib and dismissive, you'd present clearly, with some empathy and rapport building, and you'd find some space for discussion.
Others are also bringing up your complete lack of maturity in the Taiwan thread. Glib is how you galvanize people into an opposing position. Stop being glib.
I'm not following you. You are a ubiquitous, low effort troll. You are not representing causes in any persuasive way.
Your whole argument is the West and especially the US is bad. I'm sympathetic to many points, but you broad brush people, turn dismissive, condescending and just... mean.
Don't call my stuff vapid when you're posting vomit emoji and othe glib stuff at potential allies.
That's the thing. All you see are enemies. All you make are enemies. You're safe hiding on a server that disallows downvotes but you're pissing people off - because you keep lashing out and trolling.
Groups I'd enjoy, you're killing the vibe and the discussion. We have similar interests but you've never considered it. I was a bad person for being born in the US from the first time we talked.
Checking yours is how people quickly identify the tankie who hates people for their country of origin.