1mo ago

Which communities are good for finding some people to talk to whether its out of boredom, loneliness, or a need to vent?

I used to be in r/lonely and similar subs on reddit but I've been shadowbanned for no good reason.

Where can I find some people here to talk with me when things get rough?

Thanks :)

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Most comms are focused on a subject, I'm not aware of any /c/lonely/.
I know that beehaw has a comm for random chat, but you can't reach !chat@beehaw.org from lemmy.world.
lemmy.one also has one it seems
!chat@lemmy.one
- Beehaw needs to reconnect with LW badly. I miss them. I have an account there but never use it any more.
  
  An option for you is to move to an instance that isn't defederated with beehaw, f.e. sopuli.xyz.
- Lemmy.one is shutting down in 2 months or so, sadly
Well, it depends. Often I see people ask for this who want to take but not give, which can get you banned in the best case and destroys a community in the worst case.
Loneliness often comes from particular experiences like not being able to share good things or rant about bad things.
But that is a symptom, not the cause. The cause is missing connection. There are possible neurological reasons for connections deteriorating (i would know) but if one makes themselves aware of this, they can try to counter this.
If you want to be listened to, related to, helped and understood, you need to do that for others. The rest will mostly come on its own. If that does not come naturally (again, i would know) you have to make an effort to do it.
After that is clear, I would suggest chat groups, not forums as forums are much more loose and dont allow for a deep connection imo. Depending on your personal identity, you can find chats which takes a thing you all share and makes it a topic to connect about. I suppose participating for a month will get you decent connections to share outside experiences with. Again, it needs to be mutual to work.
I hope this helps. Have a nice day.
- Thanks for your insightful comment. Yes, there are probably some better places to talk. I have been considering psychology recently to help with my problems.
  However, sometimes at ungodly hours in the morning, I just need someone to talk to who is there and awake. I was hoping to find a community here for that while reddit has me shadowbanned.
  
  First of all, good idea to get help on tackling issues. Second, i still think you might benefit much more from a chat than a forum. A safe space where your opnion does not need to be "well rounded" to be engaged in a respectful manner will do much more good than a public thread. Again, in my opinon.
  In any case, good luck.
!casualconversation@lemmy.world ?
- That moved to lemm.ee and lemm.ee moved to !casualconversation@piefed.social
  
  Ah, the pifed communities don't auto suggest on Voyager so I keep forgetting.
Honestly I use discord for this because of the more immediate responses when I'm feeling lonely. I'm in a couple of medium-sized communities that have members around the world so there's pretty much always someone on.
Discord. I mostly post in an Ultima 7 modding community and helped out a bit but we also just talk about video games and stuff.
It's hard to find the smaller servers where you can actually have a decent discussion though, just like IRC back in the day.

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