2y ago

Polyamory rule - helpful infographic

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I'm totally cool with polyamory and its variants, but this infographic definitely paints monoamory as a lesser choice which is cringe (it also says "idealized monoamory" instead of just monoamory which I don't get).
Don't judge other's choices, doesn't matter if their choice is polyamory or monoamory.
- I don't see how any of that is objective aside from it being the most commonly accepted, or "pushed" in your words.
  A successful two person relationship requires a significant amount of compromise and sacrifice. How does having more partners lessen that?
Cringe
- None of it works long term for the vast majority of people. Cheating or sleeping around with or without permission will lead to deep jealousy problems 99% of the time.
This post reeks of incel fantasy.
- Why? Wtf
  
  Passive aggressively dismissive of standard relationships while fantasizing about having multiple interested partners.
  Very much seems like someone's "sour grapes" attempt at explaining why they're alone.
  i.e. "I don't have a SO because my views on relationships are incompatible with most, totally not because of my personality, or lack thereof."
  Every dynamic depicted here is shown with positive labels and imagery except the normal monoamorous relationship. Monoamory is depicted as neglectful and harmful, and labeled "idealized" as if the idea is absurd or unattainable.
  Hell, CHEATING is depicted with less negative imagery than monoamory.
- They are just people living their lives and doing it with consent, except for the cheating part, but that is just shitty behaviour.
- It may be terrible for some people. If both partners are committed to a union based on undivided devotion, it's a powerful thing indeed.

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