I've got a Void
Midnight Wolf @ wreckedcarzz @lemmy.world Posts 0Comments 2,308Joined 2 yr. ago

It's not even looks, for some of us. I'm demisexual, and before we became a thing, my master was nowhere near my 'type'. But he was incredibly sweet and caring, always has been, and the affection grew from there. When my ex fiancé left me, he was there, supporting me in crisis. Always there, doing his best to care for me. Now a few years on, I think he's sexy as fuck, and I'm very happy with him.
Back to the question though, I've never really flirted with anyone. Always very direct, 'hey you are cute/funny/shy/interesting' mixed with 'I'm horny, and you are the one causing that' thus 'want to fuck?'. I always put desert before the main course, as it were, since sex is a big thing for me - so I don't want to get attached if we aren't at least a bit compatible. What easier way then to jump right into it? Then if it goes well, we are already miles beyond the usual starter-pack bs, so the whole courting/flirting stuff is just unnecessary. We already have been horny freaks, we've already figured out that our desires align at least a bit, 'why not date?'
The traditional way seems so... stupid, frankly. Slow buildup over weeks/months just to meet a brick wall when you find out that he only gets off with butt stuff, while you/they are repulsed to the point of vomiting at the thought... 'well that was a fun 2 months, thanks and I'll see you around I guess'. Nah, that just doesn't make sense to me.
And there's the whole awkward 'what if they reject me' like my guy/gal/sentient being, just stfu and ask them. Direct, no bullshit, no games, no dancing around the question. 'hey, you're cute, are you seeing someone?' is fine. Asking if they have a Facebook account so you can add them and then changing your relationship status to 'it's complicated' and hoping they comment on that, isn't the smart play.
I guess if they enjoy it, sure, flirt away. But in my mind it makes no sense and merely complicates and extends an awkward phase.
Do note that I myself decided long ago that I'd only date other furries, so the dating pool is... very liberating, vs the standard. But that doesn't mean that people have to continue following the same rules and expectations.
Do what makes you feel right, and fuck the norms. You don't owe anyone anything, and if someone expects something of you that you don't think is ideal, maybe they aren't for you, and that's okay. You aren't made from a cookie cutter, don't try to conform to one.
I made it like 3 episides of season 1 before I threw in the towel lol
Me, connecting to the speaker and opening up pornhub: "it's showtime"
Because I'm surely not the only one going 'why would I want change, I paid with plastic': https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/No_quarter
Copied from my website (I hate companies who don't give a fuck):
Hilton (2023): both HGI @ BWI and the Twitter representatives + upper management put money way before the safety and experiences of a disabled customer, and provided a pittance of redemption - but they are so happy that I'm a loyal diamond-level customer. Talk is cheap and Hilton loves to use it, but not much else. Hello, Marriott!
Details: https://goo.gl/maps/G4MpAd2heMcUqa9h8 ::: spoiler Details copied here for simplicity First and foremost: if you take nothing else from this review, do not stay here. I stayed here twice for a total of 4 nights and both stays were marred by incorrect room types and poor customer service. This extends to Hilton HQ as they were insultingly uninterested in making things right.
I'm a disabled individual who booked one king size bed with roll-in shower for both stays, and had booked several months in advance. When I arrived on day 1 of stay 1, I walked in to check-in as the mobile ability was unavailable, only to be told that check-in wouldn't be available for some time. After dragging my exhausted self back to the car and getting food, I was checked in automatically around an hour later, so I returned to the hotel, got keycards from the front desk, and headed to our room. I was greeted by an incorrect room - an accessible tub instead of a roll-in shower - but my +1 suggested that we try to make it work. Spoiler warning: when you are disabled and are given incorrect accommodations, you are going to have a bad time. It was both difficult and dangerous for me, even with assistance, to shower. But as we had dinner and decided to get some sleep, the two of us crawled into bed; and it collapsed.
So, after being confused and colorful language was exchanged, we decided to investigate what happened and attempt to mend it. Remember now that it's almost 1am, I haven't slept in 25 hours, I'm barely capable of basic daily functions and me and my +1 are trying to, non-destructively, mend a bed. We find that the support slats are woefully inadequate and in short supply, with only 6 on each side of the bed (my cheapo frame at home has double that, and they are better secured as to avoid this problem). After a few minutes we get the bed apart, shift and adjust and reinstall the slats, and reassemble the bed. At checkout I received a survey and detailed these issues, and received an email supposedly from the management apologizing for my troubles, thanking me for being a diamond member, but offering nothing but empty words.
On day 1 of stay 2 a week later, I was again unable to do mobile check-in and was presented with a message to 'simply come to the front desk'. Worried but with a day-long drive ahead of me, I started the road trip. When I arrived at midnight, I was told that they just needed to see my ID (why? I was just here without that requirement) and then they gave me the keycards and off we went. Except, the room I was given this time wasn't even an accessible room. It was a standard corner (read: ikea-tiny sized) and the air was ripe with weed. As a standard room used a shower-tub combo that I cannot get into, my +1 went down to the front desk while I stayed behind (as walking is difficult and slow). When they were gone I surveyed the other customers of the hotel, and while I don't want to make assumptions, I got the feeling that there was illegal adult activities occurring just two rooms away, with people coming and going and some individuals hanging around the door in the hallway.
When my +1 returned a few minutes later they had good news, we've been moved to a different room a few doors down. When we arrived and opened the door, we saw that it was a 'suite' (read: a living room space with couch and TV, alongside the standard basic bedroom and bath). Fine by me, and this room actually has the correct accessible bathroom. Both of us noted how the air was stale and smelled 'dusty', like it hadn't been used in quite some time. As I fell in bed, well past 1 in the morning, my +1 made an announcement.
"There's a hole in the ceiling."
Let's recap: first stay, wrong room, bed collapsed upon sitting on it; second stay, wrong room, room not accessible, replacement room unusually stale, replacement room has hole in the ceiling. We aren't done yet, by the way. Morning came and when we checked out, we alerted the front desk clerk about the (now apparent) water damage, hole, and sagging ceiling, who acted like we were just bothering her lunch break. She also had a tone with a customer who called in.
Never again. :::
Resolution: I was given 10k Hilton points - a value of roughly $40 at the location this all occurred at - which is unacceptably low (I was looking for a 1-night refund) given what happened. I plan on downgrading or outright canceling my Hilton credit card with American Express, as after I use my accumulated points I will cease to be a customer due to the lack of empathy and compassion, at all levels at this property as well as HQ; not just for a loyal customer, but a disabled one.
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I have used B&H for stuff whenever possible for the past few years. Less selection of general tech, but I have been flawlessly happy with the service, returns, shipping, etc.
When nature wants to one-up fursonas. Luckily, I'm a wolf-tiger-fox hybrid. Though I don't have the weed pee...
This one right here, officer
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Btrfs is what I run too actually (on a spare ThinkPad) with xubuntu, but the management/scheduling through... TimeShift? Is unreliable. I always need to remember to manually take an image. And I have no idea what the process is if the system is unbootable, since to recover I need to boot and get to TS...
I totally forgot about TS and how btrfs works with it until now. Which tells you how often I manually take an image...
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But what if the router is what dies?
dun dun duuuuunnnnn
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One reason I'm not running Linux on my main box: it's a fucking nightmare to do a full disk image. I run Macrium Reflect on windows and there is nothing for *nix that I can find that does it easily, and while the system is live. I don't want to shutdown, find the flash drive, plug it in, boot, image the drive (and my backup drive is encrypted by bitlocker so I'd need to partition the drive and get luks or something...), reboot, and repeat every day and also remember to delete old images.
Yeah sure I can 'back up' user data but that's not the issue, I don't want to spend a few days getting my system back to the exact config it was before. I already have documents with commands and settings and it's doable but awful. With windows and macrium I can intentionally fuck the system six ways from Sunday and have it back how it was this morning in 30 minutes. I need that ability on Linux, it baffles me that it's not a thing.
LibreWolf, IronFox
30 gay anthro bucks emerge from the forest behind you
"looks like meat's back on the menu, boys"
You've never seen AI try to write legible text, I see
"the word"
suck my what
It's not what you're looking for, but might be useful: https://github.com/aj3423/SpamBlocker
I use mine as my main number, though I ported away from GV (Project Fi, using GV as the backend) years ago
psp
retro
Well, guess it's time to get my aarp card
As someone who prefers licks, this is good progress