then in a sense the west is the biggest ally the islamic government can have, because they are succeeding in rallying the iranian people, even those who are oppressed, to defend their country. and that despite the ayatollahs: so far just small unrepresentative groups are calling for an uprising against the regime. even the tudeh and the toufan are condemning the israeli intervention, and they have plenty of reasons to hate the regime.
out of these things you said, so far iran is guilty of only requiring women to stay covered and, to a degree, child marriage (it's not a state policy, but marriage with girls as young as 9 years old is legal). as far as i know women in iran can drive (the last country where women were not allowed to drive was US ally saudi arabia) and are free to move around, work, study and such, notwithstanding the challenges that women face there (legal discrimination and the oppression that they suffer just by living in a capitalist country).
however, the liberation of women in iran won't come imposed by other nation states, especially the western capitalist ones, and certainly won't come as a result of a war against israel. they don't give a damn about the iranian people, be they women, queer, religious or ethnic minorities. the sionist establishment just want anyone that menace their grip over middle east off their necks, and that's what the iranian bourgeoisie are doing right now.
if you ask me what i think would be better, the working classes of both countries would team up to seize their military apparatuses and turn them against their elites. if that's not possible, anything that hurts western imperialism gives the world a small victory, regardless of whoever achieves them. we can take care of whoever punches the west later.
if the world was fair, that tract of land in the middle east would become palestine, jewish immigrants would be allowed to live there and have full citizenship and rights, but a nice chunk of territory would be carved out of central or eastern europe to make "settlerania".
i never did really care about income and property taxes (including vehicle related taxes), even though they can be a pain in the *ss. i believe they're a fair share of contribution to society, at least in the capitalist context that we live in. but it bothers me product taxes, especially those levied upon non-processed or low-processed food, medicine, basic hygiene and cleaning, basic clothing and products not produced in your country when said country doesn't have an industrial policy to encourage the production of these items internally.
in my late teens and early adulthood i'd lash out for being slightly teased about relationships or sexuality. back in my early and mid-teens i would frequently be bullied about not performing manly enough, not having a girlfriend or even having a slightly deviant (or maybe syndromic) look. even now, if i see something that passingly reminds me of these experiences, i play along, but then after i have to take sometime alone to breathe and reassure myself that these experiences are not related.
it's not a moral problem per se. it doesn't matter if members of the so called 1% are personally good or bad. if they reached those positions then they are performing roles that are prejudicial for the society.
politics is less about people's morality or intentions. it's about what they effectively do.
people in latin america have a saying: you know why there are no coups in the US? there's no US embassy in DC