Hey. This is the only instance so far where I've felt safe to be out. I really appreciate all the work you and the other admins have put in to making this place, it really does feel special. That being said, putting yourself first matters, and if it's this community or your own health, you know what to prioritize. The rest of us will be able to figure things out!
I think one of the exceptions to this is music. Of course there's top 40 and whatnot, but it's one of the areas where older hits either don't go away, or get repackaged algorithmically into let's say "stuff from that decade you like that you've never heard before."
Of course it's still being selected from a much larger sample. But I think there's something different about music.
You don't have to put rainbows on anything if you don't want. I don't even use rainbows!
The main thing is, when you hear someone in a cishet group spouting homophobia, be the one to say "hey that's not cool". Lots of people say they're allies and put it on their social media and whatnot, but where it counts is just being able to stick up for us like you would for any mate when the time comes
If I'm being honest, the only thing that would be strange to me is why wouldn't you consider yourself an ally? It sounds like there are are a lot of important people in your life who are LGBT. I guess if you're wondering about perception, someone who has a lot of queer friends but doesn't want to stand up for them usually rings alarm bells in the LGBT community. Not saying that's you, just in general.
But I will say from personal experience, allies are like gold for me. Love them all to death.
And no worries, I feel like it's a respectful question. Hope you can keep learning!
My deadname started with an "m" so I just started going by "em", which was also one of the gender neutral pronouns floating around at the time, and it just kinda stuck. Using it makes me feel agender euphoria :)
It's been that way since the redesign. Nilay went all in on building it around Twitter and then ElonGate happened, so they kinda backed themselves into a corner. Pretty good coverage of the reddit blackout though.
Hey. This is the only instance so far where I've felt safe to be out. I really appreciate all the work you and the other admins have put in to making this place, it really does feel special. That being said, putting yourself first matters, and if it's this community or your own health, you know what to prioritize. The rest of us will be able to figure things out!