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  • Yeah they beamed with pride when asked about their work. They were so observant and laser focused and we hit the mark every time while they were here. It was pretty obvious they'd make waves when they quit. Still, no one expected it.

  • It's friction with the air.

    You've experienced a strong guest of wind, now multiply that by 700x. At some point the temperature of the air is meaningless. The impact of you on those air particles gives them soo much energy they get white hot and radiate heat as energy, thereby heating you up. Like standing next to a fire.

  • The desktop environment is just the graphical interface. The OS doesn't handle the GUI(not directly), some people run Linux without a GUI at all, opting for life in the command line. (Don't do that) Plasma is just a flavor of it that looks more windows like (but customizable beyond a windows user's wildest imagination). Gnome looks more Mac like.

    You might run across the term Compositor, this sits between the OS and the DE. IT handles graphical input(mouse, game controllers) and display. Wayland is newer with modern features, Xorg is technically more reliable but legacy and missing some modern elements. You don't have to worry about this unless it comes up in a prompt when you install your distro. If it does, go with the suggested option in the prompt. Otherwise default to Wayland.

  • I suggest revisiting dual boot, despite your history. You want to have grub/Linux on it's own hard drive, in a Linux style filesystem (I think i used ext4) and default to it in bios. Then get the windows boot registered in grub.

    Windows won't know about grub that way, no way to mess with it.

    Windows 10 EOL doesn't mean it will stop working. If sims has trouble just use win.

    Mint or a gaming focused distro. Not arch/endeavor/manjaro unless you're comfortable with Linux CLI already

    I've used this config with win11 for a year now, zero issues. This way your partner can have less of a headache over your antics.

  • 2 requirements for arch:

    1. Not fearful of CLI
    2. Able to RTFM.
    3. Willing to spend a whole day on your first install

    that's it. That's also not MOST PC users. Just suggest popos or mint or that one "gaming" distro and let them enjoy it.

    If they want to nerd out after they're used to Linux they will learn the CLI. If they want to, they'll find Arch or whatever DIY/rolling whatever distro.

  • Speaking from US context, and referencing your other post.

    "Hey do you want to go on a coffee date?"

    There's little words or statements that can act as indicators which are direct/specific yet not pushy. You need to take the risk and be at least a little direct. You also need to be able to receive and handle rejection well.

    Social setting means a place you are both at voluntarily and not as a course of daily needs such as a party, concert, book club, barbeque, club, etc. Anything not income/job-related for either party. Not the grocery store, not the bus, not the DMV.

    Reading signs of interest in you:

    • Someone stays physically near you (e.g. within arms reach) for the majority of the night at a social gathering.
    • someone keeps focusing on you over multiple gatherings
    • Someone is electing to talk specifically to you significantly more than to other people in a social setting.
    • not a strong an indicator: They're smiling, making lots if eye contact, etc...
    • Touch is a pretty uncommon but big indicator when paired with the above. (Hugs, sitting against you, etc.)

    These are signs, not invitations. You still need to ask about their intentions, and express yours in some way. Always form enthusiastic consent. If they're not clearly enthusiastic then either ask their intentions very directly or move on.

    I am not providing advice on sex at all here, too complicated and situational especially around consent.

    e: formatting

  • Yeah you definitely want to be around supportive and emotionally reliable and safe people your first time. Set and setting are extremely important.

    Also just dip your toes in. You don't need to leave the planet. If the people you're with are pushing you to take them in the first place they're the wrong people.

    Unless you have symptoms of schizophrenia or similar you're pretty safe with those guidelines.

  • A therapist that claims to know it all or makes promises that they can help you (esp. Short term) is just a licensed grifter. Can that fucker and find one that gives a shit.

    The most significant factor for success in therapy is that the therapist has a similar condition to yours and they're engaging in therapies that worked for them. Next it's important they look like you (share your demographic somehow). Your dedication comes immediately after that.

  • Honestly, if you're in the US especially, mutual aid might at least be interesting. You can try Food Not Bombs or MADR or a regional/local org.

    There's pscilocybin or MDMA for a break from the shitshow or even a guiding light.

    Therapy is kind of difficult since it's expensive and you need to sift through multiple therapists to find one that clicks with you. It's the most likely thing to benefit you as long as you find the right one. Maybe antidepressants will help?

    At the end of the day you have to choose something to do for meaning. Change is going to take months or years. Silver bullets are the rare exception.

  • Trusting the float on the back makes sense to be a hard one. It's counterintuitive, the water comes over your face when you start, and you can't hold on to anything. Might be worth getting a personal coach for a session just for that if you haven't already. Someone supporting you might help with the anxiety as long as they're encouraging and not pushy.