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oh i’ve definitely heard of people doing this too, i think it’s a super neat and cute idea! i’m glad you were able to find happiness with one that was already special to your parents too :)

okay, that’s actually TRAGIC to hear :( but i’m glad that you can still think back about it positively in some regard, with how the fandom allowed you to open up your mind and just be able to play around with that world and its characters. that sounds sweet as least :)

this one’s actually really funny lol. when you took her name, did you also steal all her cool attributes you were jealous of?? 🫢 /j

okay, i think i see what you mean. i have a similar internal pendulum of femininity and androgyny despite being cis, so i can relate. your wording of “picking” is what threw me off, since it sounded like you mean that nb people pick their gender lol, but i understand that you meant that with presentation now instead, which i agree with.

i can go first, though again i’m not trans to be clear hahaha

for context: i’ve honestly never really liked my name, and have gone by a shortened nickname for a few years now with most of my friends. i can actually remember thinking about how i didn’t like it very much when i was probably as young as 7ish, but going by my nickname has helped me feel better about it overall in recent years.

earlier this year though, probably around january, it really just dawned on me that i don’t feel particularly connected to either my nickname or my legal name. like, even though the nick is better, it’s still just a way to try and get distance from my full name, and i realized it was a possibility for me to just pick another name altogether if i wanted to. so i started searching.

i didn’t have anything particularly in mind, and i tend to be a bit analytical with things like these, so i came up with some criteria (starting letter, syllables, nickname-able, etc), looked up baby name lists, and got to work. after looking, asking for opinions from friends, and sitting on it for a couple months, one of my friends made a suggestion for one that really “fit” me, and i’ve been pretty attached to it since- max/maxine. it’s cool, a bit masculine, has a more elegant and feminine full version, and is just generally a good fit i think.

i’ve been going by it online for a few months now and think i really like it, and would like to start going by it when i start at a new college in the fall, but am just nervous about still about if it’s really right for me or not. i’m sure it’ll be fine, but just a thought that’s been sitting in my mind awhile, making me a little anxious.

ok wait, i know what nb is but think somethings going over my head here haha. i’m just a bit confused- can you just elaborate on what you mean by “you could pick where it sat each day”? or is that just meant to be part of it being a simplified version of nb?

that this would differ from community to community is a good point, and that spaces for teens and adults is important. that’s part of why i brought up cafes, and also because i think they could be a friendly and comfortable environment for people to meet without having the romantic/sexual implications that a bar might.

i think that the introduction of technology and social media has also made it far more difficult than ever for communities or any sort to form in real life, which relates to what you’ve mentioned with the arcades and such closing down as well. there just tends to be less places overall to meet others in your area in general, which i think is also an issue even outside of lesbians or queer spaces specifically.

good shit, i love the sketch and lore/worldbuilding! definitely post the finished version if your planning on making one :)

the question moving forward would be, what kinds of community areas specifically can replace these spaces? cafes? i can’t really think of many options even

seconded! this one was excellent