thisisnotgoingwell @ thisisnotgoingwell @programming.dev

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The nice thing in Lemmy is that even when the posts have a lot of comments, you get good engagement. And I haven't come across many of the bad attitudes from reddit

Bro me too LMAO. I've posted a few thoughtful, well thought out comments to bring some perspective to a conversation... No replies, no comments, nothing. I was beginning to think Lemmy was dead

You really spent all that time just to say "I agree with the application of what you're saying on most cases, however, there are some cases where that's not applicable"

What made you think I ever meant that my findings could be applied with 100% success rate?

I imagine if your book got translated into hundreds of different languages, eventually people would add numbers to the verses. Sometimes the translated version is not a great translation to the original languages intent, so it's easy to reference the verse number across other translations or compare it across languages

There's a silver lining of good intentions here... Immigration court is different from state to state. Texas only approves 35% of asylum seekers. Meaning if you're an illegal in Texas wanting a pathway to legal residency, you're not likely to get it there. Meanwhile, in blue states such as in NY, it's 69% or higher. I would say majority of asylum seekers are seeking asylum for legitimate reasons. My wife tells stories that are very common to her family and other people from Honduras... The drug cartels rule with impunity, they have had family kidnapped for ransom, seeing people killed by gun violence is very normal, etc.

Anyways, typically, when USCIS finishes your intake, you have to be released to the custody of a friend or relative who accepts responsibility for you and you are given to their custody in their state of residence. You can't just ask to be taken to a liberal state, you have to have family there. Republicans are being cute in how they're dealing with immigration, but for the immigrants themselves, it's a favorable outcome.

Don't be silly, there is always money for war

That's how Seinfeld is too. Seinfeld pioneered so many things in comedy but if you view it as a relic it seems lame. As a youngin I couldn't understand why anyone thinks it's funny

What I was calling your strawman is the endless fallacy of "what if"... as I said, that's the bane of any kind of intelligent conversation online that's related to things like weight loss or depression. You could recommend something like good sleep and exercise and people will come out of the woodwork to say "well what about people who have thyroid issues or sleep disorders or etc". Obviously there are fringe cases in everything but everyone thinks they're the exception to accepting good advice. Yes, there are people who suffer from chronic depression that's caused by their brains inability to produce things like endorphins, but that's a minority. You're asking me to set aside my entire argument in favor of a small subset of "what ifs"

You can strawman the argument all you like. Depression is treatable. Maybe telling people who are depressed "I agree, life sucks" isn't as noble as you think it is. If depression is a hole, all you're doing is offering a shovel. But that's the problem with depression, anytime anyone brings up things that can treat depression, the response is "Well ACKSHUALLY". Maybe you would feel better if you took better care of what you eat, or exercised, or called your loved ones more often. Maybe not. The only way to know is to try. There isn't a bandaid fix for depression, but there are certainly things that can help. Trying nothing and then throwing your hands in the air frustrated doesn't accomplish anything.

Speaking as someone who's taken prescription meds for depression in the past. But if suggestions ruin your preconceived worldly constructs then you're welcome to call me a moron... if that gives you some slight pleasure, go for it.

you're right, but if depression is an ailment, then it's the responsibility of each individual to seek treatment. A lot of people wear depression on their sleeve like a disability.

I think a lot of people think doing good things is supposed to feel good, when in reality it's more about piercing the veil. Take getting into shape for example, people often exercise for months before seeing any kind of results. In fact, a lot of time, as your body recompositions by adding muscle, you end up gaining weight. You step on the scale expecting to have lost weight and there is no progress, week after week. You have to stick through the "it sucks" part. Then when you start seeing results and health benefits, it helps your self esteem and makes you want to keep going. I worked out for 3-5 times per week for about 3 months before I started seeing results. And it sucked. It's supposed to.

There are no people out there who start doing something difficult and immediately feel reward, purpose, and fulfillment. You're always going to feel like a moron who doesn't know what they're doing. Being successful means you must be very comfortable with failure and be able to reiterate your efforts until you see results.

I say this as someone who sits in an engineering position who's applicants are expected to have 10-15 years of experience as well as a college degree. I'm a 9 year self taught engineer who runs circles around my colleagues. At this point, I've failed at more things than most people have even attempted.

That's a pretty big assumption, and as with many things in life, repetition and discipline make up 90% of success. You're never going to start looking at goals as attainable if you've resigned yourself to the mentality of "they had a better hand"

Does self esteem lead to self care or vice versa? Both are true. The only constant is action.

Yeah, that might be a good case. Isn't the weight advertised when it's frozen/before it's cooked? How can they call it a quarter pounder if half of it's weight is reduced before it's served to you?

It's dry humor. Have you ever seen Borat or Ali G? Same genre

Amazing. Thank you

Mixed feelings here, what is an "inner child?" Feelings of exercising creativity and spontnuity don't have to be "compartmentalized"... Just work that into your adult life. only thing that is different otherwise is obviously responsibility, that will never go away. You might have to answer to your wife as to why you chose to spend a whole Saturday watching cartoons, but as long as you make your needs known, that shouldn't be an issue as well.

I'm sensing you have problems communicating your desires(ideas, inspirations, etc) ... other than that, you might be feeling nostalgia. But nostalgia is mostly ignorance. It felt like good times at times because I was ignorant to how my parents struggled.

Moisturized? 🤨

You can achieve the same effect by taking a small dose of yohimbine, which is a supplement you can buy on Amazon. When I say small dose I mean I usually dump 80% of the pill ... otherwise it'll keep you up and amped for 10+ hours.

I'll take it every now and then... research on your own

What are these numbers? There's 330 million in US, are these the number of people that vote? Genuine question