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No that's the thing. Plex can also use their infra as a tunneling system. You can have remote streaming without exposing Plex publicly and without VPN. It is slow though.

Well, as an application it has a huge attack surface, it's also able to download stuff from internet (e.g., subs) and many people run it on NAS. I run jellyfin in docker, I didn't do a security assessment yet, but for sure it needs volume mounts, not sure about what capabilities it runs with (surely NET_BIND, and I think DAC_READ_SEARCH to avoid file ownership issues with downloaders?). Either way, I would never expose a service like that on the internet.

Not to be "achtuallying" bit VPN is not a way to remote stream, it's a way to bring remote clients in the local network.

Likewise exposing services on the internet...not really going to happen esepcially for people - like me - that run plex/jellyfin on their NAS.

I don't have a horse in this race, i don't use remote streaming, I only ever streamed from my nas to my 2 TVs, and I am experimenting with jellyfin. But for those who do need remote streaming, jellyfin is going to be problematic.

Oh, I guess different school systems, so that didn't even come to mind to me. At least in my country high school is from 15 to 19, I think lots of people thankfully mature and change after teenage years.

1. Yes
2. Generally yes, but it depends. If I feel like my intervention can actually be useful, sure. For example, if anybody in my acquaintances would be doing that or be a victim of that. "Intervene" also would most likely be reporting or providing shelter, I am not Batman.

Note that both the answers are independent on whether the stalker is a man or not.

Yes, because "men" is such a stringent definition for a hedgemonic class. Half the population on earth, across different social statuses, nationalities, wealth, race, age, and so on. Honestly, claiming this is the "group in power" is absurd.

A completely poor analysis, what there is to reflect on?

Ironically that poster is an Israel supporter. By their own logic every Israeli should be victim of default "suspicion" and be treated like an IDF war criminal, since everyone has the "potential" to be one.

Actually, this argument would be even more compelling since Israel does have elections and you can emigrate/renounce to your citizenship, both not possible in case of manhood.

It's bizarre that someone could come up with such a poor argument that ultimately boils down to: "people should be accountable for the actions of other people in the same demographic", without realising there are tons of way you can divide people in demographics.

What places do you go? My pool is super chill, I have seen all kind of uplifting moments. Maybe certain gyms have a selection bias? I don't know.

Precisely. It's completely different from doing that in your group of friends, where confrontation is a way to establish common values, and in an internet cesspool where anyway I am going to be moderated out.

Just yesterday I was reading a great article about how social medias compare to TV when it comes to feeling part of a group. "Calling out" people in such places wouldn't be anything else that virtue signaling (to yourself) to reaffirm your own identity (I stand up to sexism), and at the same time allow those people to reaffirm themselves (I get confronted because I am speaking truth).

Basically it would be at most a performance.

So you need a coordinated effort of thousands of people who will get continuously moderated, banned or censored. OK, I admit that it's possible, but I think I'd rather invest my time in other ways...

because at least all men share the potential to act out problematic gender roles

Everyone (literally) has the potential to act out problematic gender roles, women included.

protect other men from female criticism because "they are different"

This sentence is legit incoherent. If a criticism doesn't apply to someone, protecting against said criticism is quite literally preventing discrimination.

If men want to get rid of the collective suspicions

Or maybe we can criticize unfair collective suspicion in the same way summary judgments based on other categories are crticizised. I really can't see how this argument does not lead to racism, sexism, etc. Being a man is not being part of a club, you don't decide to join, you don't subscribe to any value, you don't have a steering committee that decides how "manhood" is by vote. Why tf anybody should be responsible to change a group that they are part of simply for biological reasons?

Several studies also describe the backfire effect, I.e., people getting more entrenched in their position when confronted with opposing arguments. I doubt I can ever succeed where a decade+ of education system failed.

Also why would I ever recognize a space like that and not run away. "Calling out" is still participation, and why would I want to participate (incl. from the legal perspective). I have the moral obligation to do that because...I am man? As if being a man was being part of a club.

While the podcast is great, maybe not great enough to learn a new language for it! Although Spanish is very close!

English only? Asking because the Barbero podcast (in Italian) is great. As a person who hated studying history in school I can spend hours listening this.

Worth adding that yesterday morning the national alert system was used to broadcast a message to every phone in Rome, with some informatin about the disruption.

what "held to a higher standard" might actually mean?

What do you mean, what can actually mean? It means that women are held to a higher standard, which means that to achieve a given result, they need to perform at a higher level compared to people not held to the same standard (males). There is no standard that women are expected to meet to sign up to - say - computer engineering, exactly like there is no standard for males to sign up to -say- psychology. In both cases though there are social pressures that make sure that the people within the spectrum of "I have vague interest in this" will be pushed one side or another depending on their gender.

In the specific case, the frame of the discussion was the women studying subjects which are male dominated (I am generalising from the specific context of computer engineering). I don't believe "higher standards" play a role here (in general), because otherwise we could not explain many data points.

What in your opinion means being held to a higher standard in this context? And if that's the case, how do you explain the fact that women seem to make plenty of independent educational choices in many (most, in fact) other fields, and that they generally have a higher success than men? Is this standard only applied for male dominated fields? Does it mean that males are held to a higher standard in psychology, medicine, literature etc.? Because if that's the case, then I find this concept of standard really redundant to what I consider social pressure to adhere to gender roles.

because that's exactly what you are doing.

Contesting the general validity of one's experience is not at all talking about that experience, let alone contesting it. So no, I am not doing it and I don't have any interest in doing that.

unless you're really just tellin a woman "this unrelated data doesn't match your life experience"

I am saying that the very relevant data (ironically, gathered as part of the respect-stop violence project) indeed doesn't match that lived experience. Which means that perhaps that experience cannot be generalized?

If someone claims that women are held to a higher standard, I think asking "how is it possible that on average, at all levels, they get higher grades and they are the majority of students?" is a fair question. The hypothesis that women are held to a higher standard in this context would imply the obvious conclusion that only the "best" would make it, which is in direct opposition with the data that women are a substantial majority of students everywhere.

On the other hand I perfectly acknowledged that gender stereotypes exist and these do explain both sides of the equation that I presented with "unrelated data": they explain both having a mere 13% of females in IT faculties and having 8% of males in education faculties. The same exact dynamic applies to males and females, which both - due to peer pressure, and fixed gender roles - end up being discouraged to pursue certain careers.

If "women get discouraged their whole life" was a generally valid statement, then asking "why then they are the majority of medicine students, a faculty with the toughest admission exam, a scientific faculty and also a long and hard one - 11 years in total" is also a valid question in my opinion.

So yeah, despite what you might think, while I have no interest to debate or invalidate one's experience, maybe this cannot be generalized if there are quite glaring issues with statistical data. Why would you consider data about gender distribution in the education sector in Italy irrelevant in the context of gender dynamics in education (in Italy, since that's what my comment discussed), is a mystery to me. It's even more of a mystery considering that that very same data was gathered specifically within the contest of a project about women equality.

That genuinely sucks. I think that school is far from perfect even in my experience, and yet reading this I can't help but feeling so disconnected from it. My experience has been so different.

To give some different anecdotal experience:

• scientific school in suburb of Rome
• majority males

My class of 31 in first grade saw 5 new students over the course of the 5 years. 10 people graduated. In the class, 2 female students were genuinely encouraged to be point of almost be privileged in subjects like technical drawing or math. They are the only ones that ended up leaving school with the highest grade (both of them Physics PhD now). In comparison a male student was objectively brilliant. The kind of guy who could figure out physics formulas on his own, great at math Olympics etc. Didn't pass the last year, among other reason due to absences. No teacher ever encouraged him, and he was treated like just a guy who didn't want to do anything. Had a strange family situation, but anyway, ultimately now works in the family bar (which is nothing bad, of course, but a massive waste of potential).

I think despite all the limitations, all the problems, my school experience was not one where these kinds of stereotypes were present. Our study groups have always been mixed etc. All our math, physics, biology, chemistry teachers have been female but one.

But what you are saying doesn't match much the data (at least in Italy). In Italy females consistently get higher grades than miles, in all levels of school, and they do that from other women teachers (including STEM subjects).

How this matches "being held to a different standard", for example?

They are the vast majority of schools in humanities (languages, classical studies, etc.) and all "licei" (=high schools created with the purpose of forming the ruling class back in 1920s) and they are the minority only in technical schools (which are generally lower quality schools more oriented toward professions than university) and in the scientific high school.

This also doesn't seem to suggest any encouragement or discouragement in one direction or another, BUT it does match perfectly the culturally rigid gender stereotypes about women being more creative and fitting roles of care.

Also worth noting that women attend university in a higher % (56%) compared to men (also a result of gender stereotypes IMHO) and with higher grades on average. They are also the majority of PhD students (59%).

So my question I guess would be: why medicine and psychology are mostly and overwhelmingly women faculties, while engineering etc. are the opposite?

any interest or persuasion being dismantled and/or dismissed for decades before uni.

I wouldn't say "any", but I would absolutely say that interests in fields that are traditionally male-dominated are discouraged for women and viceversa (I have written in another comment, the imbalance in educational science is even higher than the one in engineering).

So I do see gender roles, I do see cultural influences about what is " for men" and "for women", I don't see the different standard women are held up to.