starelfsc2 @ starelfsc2 @sh.itjust.works

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I think lemmy self-selects for passionate (and autistic/adhd) people, so either way you end up with those kind of responses. Lemmy.world is where all the redditors ended up, so if it happens a lot I would block that instance. Other people will say "this is totally wrong!!! but here's why" which maybe I'm just used to because I have a few autistic friends lol

just now realizing everything I have done in my life in trying to contribute less plastic and waste less is not even 0.00001% compared to the environmental damage these executive orders are going to do.

Not the one you responded to but it's a couple things, generally just lungs feeling inflamed, difficulty taking a full breath, way more sensitive to air quality / air temperature, and a bit of autonomic (I have to use a cpap to fall asleep now because sometimes I just stop breathing as I'm falling asleep)

Pretty interesting question sorry all the redditors are downvoting this and giving you fantasy land looks don't matter replies. A couple comments nailed it, if they're out of your league then improve yourself until you're in their league, or lower your standards. Looks are just one aspect of attractiveness, being an interesting/funny/enjoyable person to be around has a huge impact. Just bring something else to the table to bridge that gap.

If you don't want to do that and don't want to lower your standards, you can't really expect them to go for you. Just have to put yourself in places where maybe an opportunity comes to you or you happen to click with someone ¯(ツ)/¯

I mean while most of this is true, saying looks aren't important to long term happiness is just not the reality we live in. Living life as someone that people don't like looking at grinds you down, ask anyone who is/was overweight.

You can do a lot to improve it, by wearing nice clothes being healthy etc, and you can make up for it by being the funniest one in the group, being the most interesting etc, but you're also asking this of people who will likely have the hardest time dealing with strangers. I experienced a massive difference in how people treated me after I started going to the gym, just a lot more people smiling at me and treating me well when I hadn't said a single word.

When the world is friendly to you when you do nothing, it's a lot easier to be confident and funny and happy, and vice versa. I'm not saying to be doomer "there's nothing you can do," but just don't ignore people when they tell you it DOES impact their lives negatively, even in the long term. Not trying to be negative it's just frustrating when people take it from "this is not what's holding you back from being with good people" (true) to "this has barely any effect" (false)

How do you reconcile this with people wanting to be called longhand versions of their names? ex: John wants to be called Johnathan, we would respect that, but if John says their pronouns are Johnathan/ Johnithian, would you still call them John?

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But Trump may be willing to take a “win” on a funding deal that cuts a significant amount of what he saw as “pork,” the source continued

I'm confused as to what was left out, the rejected bill tried to increase the debt ceiling and removed funding for children's cancer research, among other things. The only change mentioned is the removal of the debt ceiling increase. Republicans finally reducing government waste by denying children's cancer research funding...?

I know you probably didn't mean it like this, but I'm one of those people who "realized" I didn't need to conform to being traditionally masculine, and this is definitely not something the average person can or should do. If you don't try your best at "being a man," When you're younger other men will bully you, most women will either think there's something wrong with you or not want to talk to you, and your parents will wonder what they're doing wrong. Even people with super accepting parents end up feeling weirded out by "non manly" people because it's not the norm. When you get older a lot of these issues get easier because you can choose who you associate with, but I still get people either commenting or treating me worse because I'm not "manly" enough, almost never the opposite.

I have no idea what to do about this, I'm just saying living as a not traditionally "manly" will have the general population treating you worse for your whole life, and you're either strong enough to deal with that and stick with only the people who don't care about it, or you go back to being "manly"

If you respond instantly at any point during the day it can mean you're not doing anything the entire day or you're actually desperate for interaction. If you don't feel secure in your relationship with someone you might want them to think you have a lot going on.

Also, some research shows being less available can make you seem more valuable. This article is related to business relationships but it's the same principle. https://www.nytimes.com/2019/05/18/smarter-living/benefits-of-being-scarce.html

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I'm glad for you that you don't have any of the republican stereotypes currently in your life.

Oh yeah I get what you mean, and I've seen that happen a lot. I just meant along with that, it's good people seem to talk more about why something is bad rather than "because I said so," since it makes it a cooperation instead of a battle.

I actually like that sometimes kids have outbursts and insubordination met with a conversation (but still keeping some form of punishment), because sometimes they're having a bad day, sometimes they just got tempted and you can talk about it, and sometimes they just weren't thinking because they're kids.

Everything else I agree with, it's hard for parents to stop their kids from being addicted to their phones when the parents are also addicted to their phones :/

I'd like to note: neurodivergent people generally only become close with other neurodivergent people (NOT ALWAYS). neurodivergent people are a much smaller portion of society, and a lot of these people will be bullied or put down growing up and lose their self worth. EVEN IF they manage to regain their self worth completely, they generally have trouble communicating with people, and will generally have mild to negative social interactions. Now the people who have the most trouble interacting have to interact with 5x as many people since they likely would only become close with other neurodivergent people. I hope that's obvious how insanely unfair that is.

Stuff like this is pretty hurtful to those people, because if this is all it takes for most people, hey I must really be worthless then because I've already done all this and I tried a hobby and I tried asking people out and none of it works! To those people, sorry you have to deal with this, you deserve someone who will be happy to be with you. I promise there are people out there that will value you specifically for who you are, even if they're more rare. You can try joining things that you think will have people you'd enjoy hanging out with, whether that be playing games at a comic book shop or joining a dnd group, a choir, a band, or any niche interest you have (for me this is learning languages, and I met two of the coolest people I've ever met through that)

This is why I use it, also the more people who use it the more accurate it is

This is 100% not true as I have personally had several times where I got ransomware (though still the thing I wanted to download somehow?) in late 2000s / 2010s. Hasn't happened a single time since, even downloading the most sketchy torrents. For a lot of younger people, if they want to torrent something they're not looking at trackers or much of anything, they just want the download. Windows defender used to be complete trash at preventing viruses so you'd need to know to download things like malwarebytes and be a lot more wary of what you download, and even if the torrent is 100% legit you'd have random registry/driver/software issues. Now these issues are rare unless you're downloading some custom software or a much older game.

The one thing I would say was a lot easier back then is it would say "xyz free download" and it actually would be the thing itself instead of random bloatware.