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  • Reddit is scary after this whole thing started. You have people calling for outright genocide being upvoted to the sky. People saying the old disproven zionist claims (Palestinians are not native to Palestine, etc) are getting extreme support too.

    I surely hope this is bot propaganda because, if not, we're about to witness one of the biggest crimes against humanity.

    This just contributed for me to steer ever more towards Lemmy where the opinions are more...human.

  • As a guy your looks aren't worth much if your confidence is shot (and it usually is after being dumped). That's one of the reasons girls toss themselves at you when you're taken but the moment you're dumped and your self-esteems plummets they vanish.

    The way you talk, the way you walk, your whole posture changes. And women have a sixth sense for that.

    In my case, I had a girl who had already showed interest in me before (I said no because I was taken) so it was a no brainer. After that it was a matter of not trying too hard. Don't talk a girl trying to get in her pants. Just talk to her, share interests, like you would do with a guy. When you're not trying, you're not afraid to fail and you become more confident. Be open minded. Chances are she'll start throwing signs she's interested and that's when you take her queue.

    The most good-looking women I was with in that time were both women I told myself from day 1 "she's out of my league, I'll just enjoy her friendship". I was cool with myself and it just happened eventually. One broke my heart though, and the other was a psycho so...there's that XD

    If you still can't do it, just try what most men have done since time immemorial. Lower your standards. It will help to regain your confidence.

  • This is also exactly how I remember my only time under the knife. I remember feeling that cold in my veins and "this is it, I'm passing out any moment now". Then I don't remember anything until I was in the recovery section even though I regained conscience in the operating block as expected. I just remember waking up with the oxygen mask covering my mouth and feeling extremely claustrophobic.

  • And cry. It sounds weird, but crying, like big super wailing tears of ugly crying, will help you feel better. Crying for like 20 minutes will make you feel a lot better than holding it in for 2 days.

    This. Crying is a pressure release and you should cry often. It's when the crying stops helping that you should be worried and look into therapy.

  • I promptly got myself inside a lady friend. And then another. And acted like it didn't hurt. Two months later I was crying myself to sleep and into a major depressive episode.

    I don't know what the proper course of action should be. Just power through it and be on the lookout for depression signs. It slowly gets better but if you find yourself stuck in a hole, don't be afraid to ask for professional help.

    It was the worst time of my life but hey...it's been almost 5 years and here I am breathing. My life utterly collapsed but you just build a new one.

  • I don't think Flea is better than Les, but I can totally understand such an opinion. They're both awesome but, in my opinion, Les Claypool is (even) more unique and innovative than Flea.

    About Tim Henson...I disagree 200% even though he's not exactly my preference.