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Hey, if you didn't want my cock inside you, you shouldn't have pointed your ass at me when I'm hiking.

You can. The problem is that you can never tell what the outcome will be.

You pick the right argument and the right couple : sex

You pick the wrong one : bullet

There's a lot in between those two, and you're rolling the dice

No worries :)

Let's see, I gotta think back to individual shows, and if I try to do that without writing it down as I go, I'll fuck up, so bear with the jankiness of the comment please.

In terms of real metal, as in bands that lay claim to the genre, and back that claim up. Metallica for sure, and the multiple shows I've been to of theirs backs that up.

Maiden isn't as popular with women, but I'd feel comfortable saying that have a strong fan base there, and I definitely experienced the women in the men's room thing at their shows.

Type o neg is maybe not really metal, but they sure as hell had women alll over their shows, and they're honorary metal imo, if not real metal.

While I wasn't able to go to shows by the time they came around, jinjer has a massive female fan base. And I've seen footage of their shows that supports that. Which, it's kinda cheating to point to female fronted bands, but they're still not mostly women in the crowds, it's still male dominated out there. Same with bands like spiritbox, or other woman fronted or all woman groups. Well, maybe The Warning is mostly a female fan base, but it isn't a massive majority.

If you expand into hard rock, and other metal adjacent genres, it gets even broader. All of the hair bands had a ton of women or girls in their fan base. Poison in particular was batshit in that way. You could have trouble seeing other guys in their crowds lol. And they do still draw women to shows in numbers, as does Brett solo. Ratt, Cinderella, Great White, all those bands that got right to the edge of being metal sometimes, but didn't quite abandon hard rock drew that audience in as well. Def Leppard was never even close to metal, and never claimed otherwise, but holy shit, were their shows estrogen heavy. Still are.

Now, the heavier you get, the less it becomes a thing. Even in melodic death metal, it's a sausage fest. Amon Amarth can barely draw enough women to shows to crowd the ladies' room supposedly, and they're as accessible as melodeath gets. You get info stuff like dying fetus, and you won't see many women at all, much less enough to crowd into the men's room.

But, beyond those, I've been to metal shows for corrosion of conformity and seen women in the men's room. Saw that happen with a7x, HIM, and whatever that one band was that has bullet in the name. It's easier to run into smaller venues, so I've seen it with regional and local bands more often, but it was still a cubicle visible and obvious chunk in the audience, not just a handful that all had to pee at the same time.

Shit, I went to a Marilyn Manson show with my cousin once, and not only were there women lined up in the men's room, they were lined up, peeing outside because there just weren't enough stalls for the hundreds of women in line.

And I wanna say it was COC that was at a mid sized venue where the stalls had no doors in the men's room, so a bunch of us ran the line for men about three feet in front, with everyone facing the other way so that the women could have the illusion of privacy. Might have been a different band, but it was one of the metal shows I saw with my cousin when I visited him. The guys that organized it stayed in the line the rest of the show, with a couple of us meatier dudes making sure everyone stayed eyes front and didn't pull any bullshit. I know there were enough women at that show that the line kept moving in there for the last half of a set that was over an hour. There was a line of men like that too, but it was a lot of women.

Had to have been three hundred women total, and iirc, that venue only holds maybe 1500 seats, and there was also ladies room that was working.

Women are definitely a minority at metal and hard rock shows, but not as minor as people think.

Fuck! Side story!

I met a lady at a Metallica show back in the late nineties. Same deal there, women lined up in the men's room.

One of the women was about 3 feet tall. She came out while I was zipping up, and ended up kinda catching the movement as she was walking by. Got super embarrassed, blushed and ran out.

I exit the lavatory, and she's on the ground. Ran into someone, ended up busting her ass. Asked her if she was injured, and she wasn't. Offered to play bulldozer for her, if she wanted. Kinda walk slow and make sure there was space behind me so she wouldn't get slammed. She asked if I was hitting on her, and I said nah, but if she wanted to wait at the exit after the show, I would then.

She waited!

Nice lady. We hung out for a while.

Totally tangential, but it was a woman in the men's room at a metal show.

Wait until you take in a metal show with a band that has a big following of women.

There's going to be lines at both, but there's also going to be a line of women in the men's room waiting for stalls.

That's the big benefit of urinals; you can cram more of them into the same space. Ngl, if I was a woman and going to shows, I'd carry one of those "porta jane" funnels and use the damn urinals instead of waiting for my bladder to pop

Sir, I'm afraid to inform you that your cat has swallowed a dog, and is trying to poop it out on your furniture.

Either that, or mating season got weird

A side note!

If this kind of question isn't okay in this community, I do keep !morbidquestions@sh.itjust.works around as an alternative to the original reddit sub. So far, nobody here has objected to dark or ugly questions, but just in case

Not a firefighter, though I'm related to some and have had discussions about the morbid stuff with them.

From my end of things, I've been around burn victims, and close enough to a fire where someone was burned to death to have smelled what you're asking about.

Like others have said, during a fire, the firefighters are going to be geared up, so they won't smell it while it's happening. The lingering smell isn't as noticeable after because there's just too many other smells present. That was true for me as a bystander, and my family have said the same.

But I can't say it smells different in a way that I could sniff it on the wind and automatically know that it was a person, and not someone grilling. I might guess it was pork rather than beef, but I'd say that venison getting over cooked is closer than pork getting over cooked.

It just smells like burning meat. And it wasn't even that strong at the fire I was present for. I would have guessed it was something in a freezer or fridge at the time.

The remains that time essentially smelled like burnt meat. Damn near all meat smells the same when burnt. Only thing I can think of that stands out is really oily fish. And even that isn't so different it matters much because the burnt meat smell is still the dominant odor.

Raw human meat smells the same as raw animal meat usually. I've been wrist deep in wounds, infected or not, and I've processed freshly killed animals. Only time I could tell a difference between mammals is wild vs domesticated. A lot of game animals smell gamy, and domesticated rarely do, and won't be as strong.

Imo, if you would have a problem with the smell of burnt human being so close to the smell of burnt animal, chances are that the smell of meat cooking would have already bothered you a little. It does bother some people. But I've never known anyone that eats meat suddenly give it up after smelling burnt human. I've heard of it, but never met anyone that said it.

Now, there's a pretty damn common reaction to the immediacy of something like that. Like, don't ask me to eat a rare steak right after I pack a wound, you dig? But a well done burger? Sure. That's down to individual tolerances though, and mine is more that when I'm packing a wound, it's usually in bad shape, likely infected or with necrotic tissue.

And the smell of rotting meat, human or not, will put a lot of people off their feed for a while.

So, I'd say that, overall, it's less about the actual smell and more about how the individual copes with the knowledge that death and horror are everywhere. The more that kind of thing worries you, the more likely you are to see the connection between how much humans are just another kind of meat, and what we eat. The less it worries you, the less repulsion you'll feel from similar foods.

It's why, even when I'm trolling vegans, I ain't mad at being vegan. They just have different set of associations between meat and where it comes from. Can't be upset about that at all.

I'm kinda torn on this because it amounts to the flip side of manners. It's a very practical version of it, but it's essentially saying that where manners are there to benefit everyone via a shared, consensual set of rules; rejecting those manners as a form of protest isn't polite to others. That's a pretty big stretch it what was actually said, but it's a way of breaking the idea down to examine it.

It also misses part of the point of walking away. Engaging with bad actors is surrendering your volition to them on several levels, so walking away is refusing to give them that. It's a form of self empowerment.

All of which means that I don't know if this is actually an unpopular opinion or not. It's really the default to complain, to gripe, criticize, critique and engage. So can that really be considered unpopular?

Also, in that regard, any time a post here insults someone that has a different opinion "...just leave is incredibly stupid" isn't really an opinion as much as it is rage bait. You could express the concept without trying to manipulate the audience that way. It smacks of vote begging. Taking the time to express an unpopular opinion their insulting the audience means that the opinion itself is being presented as the thing to think about and vote on. When you include insults, you're basically saying "down vote me because I'm an asshole, don't examine anything else".

Wow. Just wow.

Drag comes back and that's who shows up. Horrible "luck".

Fwiw, while it's already been said, the threats are laughable. Who would they sue? A user name? Good luck with that lol. And they didn't suffer any harm from anything to begin with, so by standards in most of the western world, even if they could manage to file suit, they wouldn't get anything.

What's sad is that the person in question doesn't even understand why they're like that, but have talked about the indulging underlying issues that make them act like a jerk on a fairly regular basis, depending on one's threshold for what is and isn't jerk behavior.

Hope drag have better luck in avoiding the jerks of the world.

Main one is applicable to any online space.

Hang back when you check out a new place. Get a feel for things before jumping in because, like reddit, not only does lemmy have a culture, each instance does, and each community on each instance does.

You go to a meme community in one place and crack a dark joke, everyone laughs. You do it on another, you get banned. Yet another and you're in a flame war.

But it doesn't just apply to things that controversial. It can be simple things like calling someone dude. Or talking about cars, or dogs, or weather. Sometimes, in some places, there's a culture that isn't obvious until you've scrolled through for a while. Again, this isn't specific to lemmy, or even only online.

Always do a vibe check when you're new somewhere, anywhere.

You know, that sounds pretty yummy ;)

Ngl, I would buy that femboy a female.

And, no, not to spike it with ghb and run off to Mexico where I keep a secret villa with my captured exotic human variations like cat girls, hucows, fanboys, left wing rednecks, and Bob.

Not that I have a secret villa in mexico for my collection.

Not that I have a collection.

As an aside, anyone know where I could get extra large animal crates and leashes at a bulk discount?

Awesome user name.

But I can't agree. While some birds have evolved well away from their roots, others haven't changed much at all, and should realistically count. Not just the rhea either.

I have pet dinosaurs already. It's pretty fucking awesome.

That being said, Dragon. But only because my kid really likes them.

Not that I would let the kid ever touch the dragon, I just want to point and call them noob when they ask to, then do my "I have a dragon and you don't" dance, then fly into the sky with it.

If they're anything like chickens, that skin will be super soft, and you'll want to touch it, but will be pecked mercilessly if you try, and they aren't in the mood.

I think part of the problem is that it's hit or miss whether or not it's spelled/spoken with ñ or n, in advertising and labels. Here in the US anyway.

What's funny is that the ñ spelling and pronunciation has bled over into native spanish speakers. My friend's husband is from Nicaragua, and his entire family pronounces it ñ. One of my neighbors though, from Guadalajara originally, it's n only.

I'd also say that habanero is ñ friendly. It looks like it should be pronounced habañero, unlike a fairly similar word, Enero. It's easier to say habañero than eñero as well. The a leading into the n does that for some reason I can't figure out.

However! Pero and perro blows people's minds. While I don't hear it with native speakers, damn near everyone else I've run into pronounces them the same. I do, and I know better, because I can't make my tongue work right.

If that isn't a copy pasta, it should be!

All I know is that some motherfuckers fuck their own motherfucking mothers.

It can go either way tbh.

.world has some serious federation issues because of how big it is. Some communities do better after a move away because of that. Some do worse, particularly when the move isn't handled right, or the move is to a new community that's purpose made for moving to, and isn't promoted well.

In this case, I think that there's room for multiple communities with the same name. No need to actually move anything because the topic is popular enough, and this instance is stable enough to make it more reliable.

Some things aren't a job, they're a calling