Not gonna lie. This is the kind of tech illiteracy people are talking about.
In the specific case of setting up Jellyfin, it takes about 10 minutes, you do it once, never have to do it again, and it has no programming skill requirement to it.
These services google offer thrive on ignorance of alternatives, they're not any easier to use than the alternatives.
It's just time. Might suck for a little time or a long time though.
If you want to make it suck for as little as possible just go no contact and don't snoop. It really is as simple as that. Although I'm very aware it's a hard thing to do.
loved my time in Classic but in retrospect, my fondness was just for my guild.
The social aspect and the game being slower are intrinsically tied together. Having to run to the dungeon and then wait 15 min til a straggler shows up lets you know the people you are playing with in ways that modern MMOs and their gogogo playstyle just don't allow.
Classic was full of systems that intentionally put the social aspect of the game front and center.
How long did it take for it to click for you? I tried for about a year and it never did to me.
I ended up quite fast at it but it never became natural.