scarabic @ scarabic @lemmy.world

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Your choices, as you’ve presented them, are so extreme. Cut your dad off forever and move out, or… do nothing?

Let’s set your mom’s demands aside for a second. Do you have any reaction to him cheating on his wife? How do you feel about that?

You should act based on how you feel about it. And if your mom is incredibly wounded by it, that can absolutely be a factor in how you feel. “Wow dad you really hurt mom. That sucks.”

I’d think that cheating on your mom should have SOME effect on you. You say your relationship with Dad hasn’t changed. Is that true? Or is it only true in comparison to your mom’s extreme demands?

Basically, stop playing this like it’s all black or all white and realize that you have a million ways to react to this situation that are in the middle somewhere.

You’re not a bad person for not moving out immediately. You actually might be a bad person if you have absolutely no problem with the cheating. But you can disapprove of the cheating and still have a good relationship with your dad.

I’ll tell you right now that your Dad has rediscovered sex after aging a bunch and perhaps feeling like he’d never experience it again. That is a powerful experience for him and he won’t easily cast it aside. If you value your relationship with him, I wouldn’t try to take that away from him. He’ll react like a dog when you try to take away the steak it’s eating.

But you can disapprove of the cheating and still have a good relationship with your dad. That seemed worth saying twice. He should listen to you if you think it was wrong. He should listen to you if you are upset that he hurt your mom.

If you really just absolutely don’t care about your mother or the cheating… I don’t know what to say about that. It seems pretty cold and inhuman.

It does seem like AI will be way more useful for finding security holes than preventing them.

I’m no longer all that fascinated by the fact that they will follow “their guy” in circles and then straight off a cliff. It’s just gross.

It never made any sense. Walmart famously keeps a profit margin under 3%. And Shitstain L’Orange tells them to eat a 25% tariff? How does that work? They just operate on a 22% loss???

They’re the only store in many places so they are in a good position to raise prices. The big question is if their customers can afford to buy anything anymore.

We use the word differently. In the past I think we used it more as you do, because “going to town” had the connotations of going to a big city.

“Town” in American usage can mean anything from a small urban center (like under 10k people) to an incorporated municipality that has only a post office and tons of farms around it.

Basically we don’t say “village” here. So town is the smallest word we have. But it has a big range.

It is, until you realize wow I haven’t seen that subscribed channel in a frickin year

Neither the main tab nor subscriptions really gives me what I want. The main tab is good - I do discover good things there. I’m not one of those people who says “just give me my subscriptions in chronological order.” Because that actually sucks, and that’s kinda what you get on the subscription tab.

I want a smart algorithm, I just want it to pay more respect to my subscriptions and show more of them more often. “Home” gives you some but not enough.

I use YT daily, heavily.

It’s pretty well known that their feed is optimized for engagement above all else. They will show you videos they think you’ll like and NOT show you a new video from a channel you’re subscribed to.

It’s called an “algorithm.”

It’s so extreme at times that you can even not know that you’re subscribed to a channel, because you never see them.

This is what I mean by not respecting subscriptions. There’s no stronger explicit signal I can give YT when I want to see more of a creator. But they ignore that and decide for me what I’ll like.

Yeah I think it’s a quality channel but apparently there are just SO many people out there smarter than me that they are fine catering only to them. It sucks being left behind by a publicly funded channel :(

Me: “Sam O… haha cute name. I’ve never heard of it. I’ll see if they have a YT channel. Oh they do! What?! I’m already subscribed??!”

I wish YT actually respected subscriptions. Here I am subscribed to someone and I’ve so thoroughly forgotten it that their name doesn’t even ring a bell.

Stargate SG-1 is a great example where no matter what the magic is, it’s eventually revealed to be technology underneath - just really advanced technology. If you take all limits off science, it’s easy for the two to begin blending. They even do the “only available to some people” thing as technology: certain people share a gene with the ancient ancestors who made the high-technology, and so it recognizes and activates for them and not others.

I’m a skeptic on this as well but wow you completely dismissed the entire question of loss of cultural diversity and that is a little too far for me. I think you may also be ignoring that humans are built to speak 3-4 languages without strain, and so having just one is unnecessary, and for people to have alternates is not necessarily harmful.

I think you inevitably face the whole “magic IS advanced technology” thing. If you actually want them to be different things, you have to have some answer to this.

Shyeah. These dudes tried to overthrow democracy by due process? Rubes!

I mean the kid’s penis must have shriveled up to nothing by now, making the entire case moot.

“Your honor, I move to dismiss on the grounds that the plaintiff’s penis is reduced to a blackened nub.”

“Sustained!”

Just don’t read about gutter oil afterward or you might immediately have some solids to throw at your plumbing.

I learned French and it hasn’t done much for me. Occasional use in the Middle East but I’ve spent considerable time in multiple countries there and it’s still only occasionally useful. I love the language and have no regrets. But I’d get 1000x the use out of Spanish, here in the US.

China’s economic growth was on such a steep climb for enough years that we all basically thought we’d need to know Mandarin to get by in the future. Remember in Firefly how they all cursed in Mandarin because it was basically the primary language of humanity in the future. I know white people in California that sent their kids to Mandarin language school.

But this impression has peaked. In the 80s we thought we’d all be speaking Japanese soon. And the Chinese growth miracle is over. With demographic collapse staring them in the face, I’m no longer seeing them featuring so prominently in 20 years. India has surpassed their population and are taking a lot of their business - and they speak English

Though I suppose as languages go, Mandarin is as good as any other and better than many. What are you going to do with Italian, honestly?

I just got recruited into a workgroup assigned to get AI tools together to perform one of the job functions we have in all our teams. We were told it’s on the down-low for now because people are of course concerned about job security, but this is all really to guarantee they have job security.

I was like… blink… wut.

Nothing like being told to ignore the evidence of your eyes and ears.