Reminds me of a character from the Stormlight Archive books that is literally a bodiless spirit inhabiting a giant tower to power and control various magic utilities in the tower. Not only do they not have a gender, they see no reason to have one.
I have not (thankfully) experienced the condition in real life, but Sanderson usually does his research on portraying this kind of stuff, so he often hits close.
You need to get some professional kelp