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richieadler 🇦🇷 @ richieadler @lemmy.myserv.one
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  • With a life partner, they are your #1 priority and you are their #1 priority. You are meant to be equals. And you’re supposed to stick with each other for life. I get that it’s not necessarily a fairy book that turns out this way, but at least you have a partner in crime. It gets lonely sometimes to be alone.

    Well, but that's earned. You're not entitled to that. If you tire of people easily, have a short fuse and don't like people (or the interactions with them) in general, I don't see that you have much to offer in a way that's palatable for other people.

    Crudely said: What do you have to offer, for someone to want you as a long-term companion?

  • I can’t just flip a switch and adore someone immediately without taking forever to get to that level. It takes a long ass time for me to develop that kinship. It happens passively when you see someone often for unrelated reasons (like for me, at work…I get to know people over time without the stamina struggle of constantly forcing a relationship). But in dating, that’s the sole focus.

    Well, I'd say that's how it works for must of us. In the cases of "love at first sight", generally it's mostly lust dressed as "love". Dating should be an occasion to know a prospective partner, but it's the first step of a long road if you want to know the person enough to open to them. I don't know how many people acts like this, though.

  • You know that raising a family is not mandatory and that nobody is (or should be) forcing you to have one, right?

    I don’t even know what the hell people are supposed to do with each other.

    You're supposed to do whatever you want to do that is pleasing or interesting for both. That means that if that activity is not pleasing for you, you shouldn't do it.

    If you don't like people, you don't. Forcing yourself to interact with people you're not interested in is a bad idea.

  • I knew my first long distance gf on ICQ. I remember also having that service in Miranda IM along Yahoo Chat, MSN, Google Chat (back when it was based on XMPP) and Jabber.

    Messages from my current gf are announced with the classic ICQ "Uh-oh!".

  • Steven Spielberg specifically said that he would continue Kubrick vision for the movie. And the Pinocchio discussion Brian Aldiss had was with Kubrick, not with Spielberg.

    So be careful not to cut yourself with that edge. You don't seem to be handling it well.