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Super cool, thanks for sharing this! So many samples you don't even realize are from something you know well 🤯

It's incredible just how bad Microsoft is at product design 😳

Every time I visit with parents, or other older-gen acquaintances, I'm the go-to "help me fix this tiny issue with my [software]", and invariably it will be Outlook or Word or some other flavor of Office software, and I just want to scream. Even just looking at that nightmare top bar in Word triggers nausea.

I know I'm just not the target audience, and that there is some degree of obfuscation-by-design going on to enable their meaty underbelly of third party support companies (an entire fucking industry just to deal with their software, which in turn need certification, and so forth). It's still difficult to understand how people can interact with the overwhelming horribleness of it all, day in and day out, and not go on a rage-fueled rampage.

Slightly unrelated, if not tangential — I mentioned in a comment somewhere yesterday that I love MacOS, but I wouldn't touch an iPhone with a ten foot pole.

Look at my shiny iPhone! someone will say, and then shove it in your face. It's the new 2023 edition!

That's nice, you'll reply, but why are the icons so big?

Well you see...

Couldn't you make them smaller, and increase the grid size a bit? 4x6 seems a bit wasteful.

Yeah well the thing is...

Why did you place all the apps at the top of the screen? Isn't that where they'll be the most difficult to reach on a screen that big? Move that app to the bottom of the screen, would you, just to try it out?

Yes, uhm, that's not compatible with Apple's design principles. They've been the bleeding edge of mobile phones since the first iPhone, and I'm sure they know best!

You know, now that you mention it, it does look almost identical to the original iPhone screen layout! Imagine that, being right on your first try! Very impressive. Oh well, no problem, I'm happy you enjoy your phone ❤️

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Good point! Same for me 🙂👌

Best of luck guys, and thank you all for all the hard work ❤️ Sent a little contribution, nothing much but hopefully helps a bit.

Makes total sense, and I respect you and the team's decision on the matter 😊

I hadn't really thought the 'bad advice' angle through, thank you for the clarification.

I wrote a rather long comment a little while back about my experience with getting diagnosed last year, with emphasis on getting medicated.

I've included the link below, but having skimmed it just now, here's some context that might make it more relevant for your specific question:

Thought there was something "off" for years, but couldn't put my finger on it. Last year, one of my wife's relatives got an adult ADHD diagnosis, and his description of his symptoms made something click into place for her. She found an online self-test and sent me the link.

I was mildly insulted. I didn't like that she thought there might be something wrong with my brain, but on the other hand she's rather good at reading people, and I wasn't about to brush off her suspicion just because I didn't like the implications.

Adult ADHD Self-Report Scale (ASRS-v1.1) (PDF)

Took the test, and I rated very high in most sections, although not the ones about not being able to sit still, feeling restless, etc. I started reading up on ADHD, and everything just made total sense. Everything that felt "off" my entire life was textbook AD(H)D.

I printed out the test and the evaluation key (the one I linked above is the same as the one I took, but formatted slightly differently), did the test again. Then I wrote a bullet point list of the things I had issues with, basically a comprehensive list of my symptoms and their effects on my daily life. I should probably mention at this point that I live in Denmark, and YMMV with the following, depending on where you're located. It's also worth mentioning that psychiatrists (and not psychologists) are the only ones that are allowed to give the diagnosis in Denmark.

Took the papers to my doctor, explained my suspicions about ADHD, showed him the test results and my list of symptoms. He referred me to a psychiatrist for evaluation. Had to wait 6 weeks for my first meeting — apparently, a large portion of my generation is getting evaluated in Denmark right now, because almost none of us were as kids. Basically, if you weren't bouncing off the walls (I wasn't), or if you were a girl (I'm not, but relevant later), there was nothing wrong with you.

Finally got to my first psychiatrist appointment. Talked about myself, she asked questions about different things, growing up, school, jobs, fault life, why I thought I might have ADHD, stuff like that. She then gave me a 20 +page questionnaire to fill out for our next meeting.

Filled out the questionnaire at home. Basically a ton of questions about my current life, and then the same questions again, but in relation to my childhood. Can't remember the name of the questionnaire, sorry.

Went to my next appointment, we went over my answers, and by the end she said "Well, you have ADD." I was very, very relieved. I was worried about finally having everything fall into place, and then have a professional tell me I was wrong. Luckily, that didn't happen.

I asked about the next step. Should we talk about cognitive therapy? Coping mechanisms? "Oh no, psychiatrists only diagnose and handle meds. You need to go find a psychologist for the other stuff. Are you open to try medication?" I said yes.

This is basically where my previous comment kicks in: https://beehaw.org/comment/544089

The only thing I'd add is that if you're a woman, the symptoms of ADHD can be drastically different than those experienced by men; my understanding is that the research on female ADHD is only just beginning to catch up, and you need to read up on female ADHD specifically so you don't dismiss ADHD because you can't make the "classic" symptoms (almost exclusively based on male research) fit.

Best of luck with your journey — whether you get the diagnosis or not, finding out either way is a relief. If it turns out you don't have ADHD, you know you should probably keep digging into the alternatives (some flavor of autism being a tangential avenue, but certainly not the only one).

I hope you find some closure, and hopefully get some tools to help you improve.

Speaking of tools, have a look at this awesome (and eloquently titled!) post by fossilesque@mander.xyz: How To Unf*ck Your Life When You Have ADHD, and maybe poke around /c/neurodivergent a bit. Good advice to be found, as well as good people for sharing experiences and advice. There's also !adhd-college@mander.xyz which is quite good.

I think catering to a worldwide audience and offering options for all the available countries would be a good addition to your suggestion.

I live in Scandinavia, and the cops try really hard not to kill people here, mentally ill or otherwise.

Similarly, I don't know what 988 is and that information would be very unhelpful if I were in a situation where I needed help.

In essence, I'm all for doing some deep thinking about what information to give, and taking various national idiosyncracy into account. As long as we keep in mind that not everyone is an American.

Good job! 👏

Also, if there is some sort of feeling that legal liability could be an issue, you might try suggesting that the proposed community had an extended set of rules, such as "no medical advice", "suicide talk must be reported", etc. And maybe some guidelines with standard responses to the latter, links to prevention hotlines, that sort of thing.

A suggestion could be to peruse Reddit for a similar community, specifically to look at their rules, standard responses, etc.

Best of luck! 😃 And do report back here if you post a proposal, I'll gladly pop by for support and upvotes 👌

A thought — looking at your post, and the other comment here, it sounds like you are looking for a community with very low tolerance for trolls and the like. Sounds familiar... 🤔

Maybe ask the BeeHaw mods if there's room for the community that you're looking for: /c/mentalhealth.

I wouldn't be surprised if they'd be worried about the responsibility of such a place, both in terms of modding and I guess legal liability, but it can't hurt to ask, right? Try asking in /c/beehawsupport.

It's not the same (potential) can of worms, but we already have /c/neurodivergent.

BeeHaw is specifically a safe space; if what you're looking for could exist, I personally can't imagine a better home for it.

Hmm. I have an incredibly strong aversion to everything Microsoft, so even giving Bing a chance is difficult. However, I must admit that I can recognize the part about Google not delivering. I even went so far as to tamper with the CSS recently just to make Google's results slightly easier to parse.

Maybe it's time to try something new 🤔 I just wish the only viable alternative wasn't made by Microsoft 😓🤢

Dark timeline, indeed! 😔

Serious question — you think any amount of AI will make people use Bing? 🤔

I'm OK with that 👍

Something funny about ruining his "legacy" — wouldn't that only be possible by taking his fortune and doing something amazingly altruistic and good with it? 😅

Shame the speculators can't vote for something more useful with their money 😓 You'd think they'd have a moral interest in balancing the scales a bit, what with the money laundering pyramid scheme and all 😅 /s

Thank you, I'll put it on the list! 😃👍

I actually haven't, but I remember hearing that it was loosely based on him and his spawn.

A thought — instead of doing worthless math, couldn't it be something useful like protein folding? Remember Folding@Home? Or cancer research or something?

I mean I know it's probably too late, proof of stake bring replaced by that other thing (or was it the other way around?), and maybe the useless math was something that had to do with calculating the blockchain or whatever; I just don't understand why someone couldn't have come up with a way to make it have actual value.

Or maybe they did and I just don't know about it, honestly couldn't be bothered to jump on the bandwagon.

Isn't he the one that has children, even more horrible than himself, lined up to take over his "legacy" when he kicks the bucket?

Guess we can only hope that they're incompetent 😓

Honestly, it's so damned hard to understand. Granted, I'm somewhat biased, hailing from a "socialist" Nordic country, but I just can't wrap my head around how these nauseating unique sales propositions are palatable to, let alone desired by, anyone.

We should take women's rights away! cheering

We should make it easier for arms merchants to make more money by facilitating more efficient killing! heavy applause

People who love other people than those dictated to be loveable by either ancient superstitious nonsense or machismo-fueled ignorance are evil! the crowd goes wild

I will fight for your right to sell your organs if your personal situation becomes so abysmally dire that you have no other options (and I will make sure to facilitate the further ruination of the economy and funneling of money to the wealthy so that you'll get there faster)! erections abound

I'll make sure that healthcare becomes a luxury most can't afford! pure rapture

With your precious votes, I'll cut the funding to schools and make sure that by the time you realise what a hell-scape you've helped me create, your kids will be too dumb to get rid of me and my kind, and will rebel against you by perpetuating my abuse! every single person climaxes

Wait, that last one was actually from a speech my predecessors have been handing down for generations! nobody hears because they're too stupid, passed out from excessive orgasming, or a combination of the two

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Seriously, what is the appeal?? 😓

Thank you! 😃👍

"How Reddit Beat a Rebellion"? Did they win? 😣

Must admit I haven't been keeping tabs, but after 15 years on my account + lurking, I was kinda rooting for them to go down in flames.

Feels akin to trusting and supporting someone, having their back, and then they turn around and stab you in yours.

I don't regret leaving — should have done it a lot sooner (but the alternatives weren't really viable) — but I was kinda hoping they would be... punished? for fucking up so badly.

Guess I'll have to listen to that episode now 🙄

I've heard about that, sometimes they stay in even longer! 😅