Agreed, but what I wrote wasn't intended to imply that at all. I posited two scenarios, both of which would require full knowledge and consent of all parties: OP has three boyfriends who know about one another but are not permitted to have other partners of their own (harem), and one in which they know about each other and are free to date other people (polyamory).
Are you saying you want three boyfriends but for them to not be allowed to date anyone besides you? Because that's called a harem and I don't know anyone...male, female, or otherwise...who would be interested in something so inequitable.
If you'd not have a problem with your three boyfriends having other partners, then that is literally being polyamorous.
There was a show on a local access cable channel in Austin back in the late 90s/early 00s called The Show With Know Name. It was hosted by Charlie Sotelo and his mysterious sidekick "Cinco" in the booth, and they'd just shoot the shit in between showing fun videos (the precursor to YouTubers reacting to viral videos). I discovered it one day while flipping channels, and I learned it was their second to last show after a ten year run. I had a sad.
Side note: Charlie Sotelo manages the SXSW Comedy festival, and he once punched Alex Jones in the fucking face.
If I may, out of curiosity, you say it "might turn monogamous soon"; when you first started dating, what were each of your dating styles? Has one of you been more monogamously-minded than the other? Is one person more interested in monogamy than the other?
It's absolutely true. I'm polyamorous, and various women I've dated over the years have shared their dating app situations with me. Not one of them didn't have 999+ likes and/or a dozen messages from new men on that day alone (depending upon the app).
I prefer apps like Hinge and OKCupid. They allow me to tell more about what I'm about, and I get to learn more about them as well before I attempt to reach out. I've had fairly good success with both.
I dated a woman for a year while she was in the middle of a legal battle. Her husband (they were separated pending divorce) was in jail awaiting trial for having sexually molested her daughter for three years at night, from ages 11 to 14. His defense was sexsomnia. He ended up getting a 40-year sentence without parole. He's incarcerated in a state prison south of Houston until May 2058.
Honestly...I don't know what to think because I wasn't there. If he really truly does have a sleepwalking form of sexsomnia and never would have hurt his stepdaughter otherwise, then I feel really bad for him.
On the other hand...c'mon...three years? The woman I dated did say that he tried to sex her up in the middle of the night every now and then, and that she'd just push him off and tell him no it's sleepytime right now. I dunno.
This summer, I am taking my Master's in Math along with my 17 years of experience as a secondary math teacher and college instructor and moving to Portland with my trans teen. Sorry y'all, but we're just fucking done. She is going to be happy, god damnit, and I won't rest until she is.
Every Republican supports everything that takes away every right for anyone who is not a wealthy, white, able-bodied, heterosexual, cisgender, Christian, male American citizen.
There, saved you from ever again having to ask stupid-ass questions of literal fucking Nazis. I'd sooner vote for a boil on my ass giving way to MRSA than to even consider pissing on one of these rat fuck's jellyfish sting, let alone vote for one of them.
Friendly reminder that YouTube Music laid off an entire team of 43 unionized workers the very moment two of them went before the Austin City Council to ask them to help pressure Google execs to come to the bargaining table to provide them with fair pay and benefits.
"I'm not implying that taco eaters are responsible for the pandemic, mind you...
But there was always a line around the block at Taco Bell in the early days of the pandemic."
The moment you say "I'm not equating benign X with problematic Y", you immediately put the idea in people's head that X and Y have a strong correlation which serves to further skepticism and judgment of benign X.
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Agreed, but what I wrote wasn't intended to imply that at all. I posited two scenarios, both of which would require full knowledge and consent of all parties: OP has three boyfriends who know about one another but are not permitted to have other partners of their own (harem), and one in which they know about each other and are free to date other people (polyamory).