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  • If you go into someone else's house, you need to be respectful of their space.

    Many Chinese and Indian tourists regularly trample the alpine flower fields at Mt. Rainier National Park for selfies or just as a shortcut when they get tired of walking on the hiking paths.

    When confronted, instead of being apologetic, they get defensive and diminish the impact of their actions by demeaning American culture and spaces.

    "It's just some flowers. They'll grow back!"

    Yeah, maybe. But that will take eighty years and it may not even happen due to climate change.

    These kind of behaviors are what sours locals against tourism, especially when it is consistent across a cultural tourist groups.

    We all need to do better when visiting each other's spaces, and that starts by owning our cultural shortfalls and poor behavior, with the goal of personally improving our own.

    Ironically, I've never heard any complaints about Japanese tourists, as they often arrived well-educated about local customs and behave respectfully.

  • It's nuanced due to the nature of the work, so the gravity of the situation would only really stand out to those in the public accounting industry.

    For example, we provided payroll services for dozens of construction companies in the area receiving federal grant money, and that payroll could not be completed in time without me.

    Before I created the database, client contacts, client billing, project status, and client login credentials to reporting portals & financial institutions were being tracked in an unsecured Excel spreadsheet (as is tradition). I built a database in MS Access and it was pretty straightforward. The owner ended up hiring his nephew who was studying CS, but since he didn't have much experience or an accounting background, he was of little help.

    There was further worsening as my colleagues started leaving for other opportunities, whom he replaced with questionable people until the firm was sold about a year or two later.

    We used to refer to him as detestable Michael Scott, as he was always blundering and blaming others for problems he caused.

  • Lol, I worked for one these assholes once. He bought the small public accounting firm I started my career at.

    He loved to go on and on about "business is a warzone, you must be ruthless" bullshit, liked to make it really hard to get any PTO approved or obtain new hires.

    Before he came along, I had built an entire database for that business even though my job role did not require it, simply because I got tired of doing things the stupid way and the previous owner made it worth my while.

    One day, the asshole new owner pissed me off when I asked for time off to go camping and denied it citing business first, so I simply resigned on the spot and took off to the mountains. He was like "you can't fault me for putting the business first" and I was like "whatevs, I'm putting myself first".

    Stupid motherfucker called me all week, dozens of times each day, because nobody but me knew how the fuck you build and maintain a database.

    My coworkers, who are still my friends to this very day ten years later because they are awesome, regaled me with tales of the clusterfuck that ensued after my departure. Turns out, it's really hard to find someone with an accounting and a computer science degree.

    I still cackle to this day.

  • Try to get back into things that used to make you happy when you were young.

    Listen to music you used to be crazy about, get back into drawing and making art.

    And if you must bomb something, please go for the fascists in power, not the working class.

  • I didn't peep, you just said you had too much to drink.

    And yes, hope is what you really need right now. You can get sober and you can be happy again, you just have to connect with a support group that understands what you are going through.

    My ex rejected AA for the longest time because we are both atheists, but he found the comraderie and support there he needed to finally sober up.

  • I was in a relationship with one for nine years. It's hard to watch someone self-destruct because they feel so hopeless.

    He's been sober now for two years, and he finally seems happy. He got back into making art and his old hobbies.

  • That sounds like how I believed my memory worked, I used to think it was extraordinarily exact and I was some kind of savant.

    But out of curiosity, I set up a test where I recorded a boardgame session with my friends. After we finished playing, we sat and wrote down our memories of that time with as much detail as possible, in a different room and with no input from others, and then watched the recording.

    I was broadly correct in my recollections and able to correctly paraphrase others, but whenever I went into detail my recollections were incorrect more often than not.

    Turns out, I was gifted at bullshitting myself, lol. My friends and I had a great time executing that little test, we laughed a lot and learned about each other.

    Have you ever conducted a test on yourself like the one I conducted?

  • Hypothetically, if you were asked to describe what garments a person was wearing when they crossed your path, would you be able to recall that? Or, would it be necessary that you were actively paying attention at that time in order to recall such information?

  • It's reasonable when you are inviting others to step in to correct your response, just in case you are misremembering something.

    It's not other people's responsibility to conduct research and finding sources on our behalf, but it's fair to ask for sources because the person who initiated the conversation can share the source they are basing their information on, inviting scrutiny and dialogue.