pmk @ pmk @lemmy.sdf.org

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Only for a while, because I heard that it's the year of Linux on the desktop this year, so.. I guess the rest of the world will join us pretty soon.

True, I don't have to dress plain, but if clothes make no difference for her, I just wear what I feel most comfortable in. I know how I react when I see her in yoga pants, and I wish I had the option to affect her similarly through clothing.

As a man, I wish clothes would make me feel desirable. I have asked my girlfriend which clothes she would like to see me in, but she says it's not about the clothes. That it doesn't matter. It's more about what I do. So I just dress in plain, comfortable, practical clothes which makes me, well, practical. Useful. I often wish I had options to just be desired for my body, without the pressure to achieve this or that to be desirable. It's a source of sadness for me.

Didn't they just get like a million dollars from the Sovereign Tech Fund?

Let's start saying "rajtan-tajtan" as some weird anglicism?

Assisted Living (aka Äldreomsorgen i Övre Kågedalen) by Nikanor Teratologen. It's a very bleak and horrible story about a boy who is in an incestuous relationship with his nazi philosopher grandfather. Together the go around committing murder, rape, and other crimes, while relating everything to obscure authors and texts. The original is written entirely in a swedish dialect which is hard to understand, and it didn't translate that well into other languages I think. Despite all this, it is very well written and has won prizes and been made into a play and radio reading etc.

Are you able to see the fnords yet?

One time I figured out why a strange dependency was needed in a LaTeX book. It's part of the official documentation of a project and the author had opened an issue about it. I dug deep into the package code and figured out why, came up with a fix, and contacted the author about the solution. That was two years ago and they have not replied or fixed it, but just worked on different things. I don't demand anything, but I haven't felt motivated to help out since then in that documentation project.

This reminds me of Rob Pikes paper from the year 2000.
http://doc.cat-v.org/bell_labs/utah2000/utah2000.html

The danish people will maybe say a lot of things about us swedes, but don't believe the lies.

Arguably arch has the same problem, but they call it a feature.

Fedora has the same problem with Timeshift iirc?

Have you considered contributing to openstreetmap instead?

In my work I have followed the process of maybe a hundred people dying of various things that we in everyday language sort of collectively call "dying of old age". Usually there's a couple of serious conditions underlying, and a general physical frailty. This is anecdotal, but my experience is that people make a conscious effort to get up in the morning and eat food and move around in the ways they can, until they enter a downward spiral where they for example eat less than they should, which means they get tired, they then stay more in bed, leading to less eating, etc. Something relatively minor like a cold, an aching tooth, a fall, a UTI, etc, can accelerate this quickly. Until they have shorter time awake and more time drifting in and out of consciousness, if they are in pain they will get something for the pain, which usually makes them even less responsive. Then eventually the body starts shutting down, they stop urinating etc, and some days later they die.

In this overall process, there's a time when making an effort to eat and to be active will prolong life, but it seems so easy for them to just... let go, and soon they will be dead. We (the patient + the health care team) usually talk about this at least once, to know what their wishes are. What surprised me in the beginning was that most old people I've talked to say that they are done, so for example if the heart stops they don't want attempts to save them.

All this together, I think old frail people can "hang in there" for a while if they feel motivated, but of course anything can happen at any time anyways.

If we want to do something radically different, there's always gopher and gemini browsers.

ed is sadly not installed by default on some modern distros. Even vi is often a symlink to vim in vi-mode.

I see it as: mv is just renaming a file, in this case a directory file, with a different full name (path)

I learned the proper meaning of tar flags a long time ago, but then I accidentally saw a post somewhere describing "czf" and "xzf" as acronyms in german accent: "Create Ze File!" and "Xtract Ze File!" and now everytime I use tar in the simpler ways I hear in my head a german voice shouting these words as I type the flags.

It's intuitive if your previous editor was ed(1) and you're using an ADM-3A-like keyboard.

I like your example with that song. If we interpret the scene as both acting out the behaviour the've been taught, they are both reinforcing each others behaviours. Assuming that both wanted to be together but there was an established "dance" around it. They can only work together. What if one (and only one) of them had not done their part? If he hadn't, she would have left, possibly feeling that he didn't really want her to stay. If she hadn't, she risks being labeled "easy". In both cases, again if we assume they both actually wanted to stay and feel good about it, they don't both get what they want.
So... if we now, as a conscious effort from society, are trying to get away from this bad system, it seems to me that the only way is a gradual de-escalation from both sides. It also seems to me that if we only tell men to never "pursue", but do nothing about the "hard to get"-behaviour, then men who follow the new instructions or script will be left with no chance to meet someone.
What I think is missing from the discourse today is that it's a hard sell to young men to change their behaviour, if doing so is punished by the same people asking them to change. We're caught in a stalemate where we need to help each other simultaneously, with mutual understanding, trust, and care. In that very sensitive process, trying to move it forward by telling someone they are a potential rapist is probably just making men dig deeper trenches and refuse to listen. Some people want this, I believe. The conflict that lets you feel righteous anger and resentment. But it's not helping.