Pennomi @ pennomi @lemmy.world

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The context makes it even more heartbreaking.

Pretty sure that’s how it works in a lot of fiction. You draw the circle then activate it by putting in mana.

What, you’ve never written markdown?

Forget monogamy, I just need a mathematical relationship!

Monogamy? In THIS economy?

So non-monogamy is generally looked down upon because a lot of people have bad outcomes from it.

In the vast majority of these situations, the couple has decided to see other people because they are trying to avoid or alleviate the problems they are currently dealing with. If you or your spouse are not mature enough to handle one relationship, there’s no way in hell that the exponential complexity of a polyamorous relationship will work.

That being said, it sounds like you ARE one of the few people who are considering non-monogamy for the right reasons. Some of the most important things you need to do to make this successful:

• Great communication. No games, no bottling up your feelings. You need to be able to clearly express what your hopes and fears are, and then listen to those from each other person.
• Handle jealousy and loneliness. If you’re a jealous-type person, best to stop now. You need to be comfortable with your partners spending a significant amount of time together, without you. And you need to use that time doing things you want to do, not feeling left out.
• Secure in your self. Don’t base your self-worth on what your partner thinks about you. Successful non-monogamous people are not dependent on their partners as their sole source of happiness.
• Flexibility. You need to be adaptable to new situations, because a lot of things will be changing rapidly. Successful polyamorous people embrace the ever-changing nature of life rather than try to stop it.
• Be able to handle loss. All relationships end at some point. With non-monogamy, that happens far more often than with just two people. Remember that a relationship ending doesn’t invalidate the goodness it brought to your life in the past. You need to be prepared to process events like this.

One great book on non-monogamy is More Than Two. I highly recommend everybody giving it a read before moving forward.

Having a polyamorous relationship can be very fulfilling! If you can navigate the complexity, it’s a wonderful way to maximize life.

He’s just trying to win some more bread for Europe. Eventually everything will be fully subsidized by fines on American companies.

Part cost is estimated to be under $5000 and take a week for a novice roboticist to build. Very cool, but me and my kids will probably skip this one.

Isn’t banning AfD a sign that they’re taking steps to correct the far-right problem?

They used to be a non-profit. Doubly fucking hypocrites.

OpenAI’s core message was “we can’t release our GPT model because people will try to use it for war”.

Fucking hypocrites.

The Onion is usually good, but this headline is perfection. 🤌

Sorry fam, I don’t negotiate with game theorists.

Even the cheap ones accelerate faster, ride smoother, and are quieter. You don’t have to get oil changes, and the brakes don’t wear down as fast. Plus I can recharge at home, which is loads cheaper than buying gasoline.

And this is all with a relatively ancient Nissan Leaf, the new vehicles are all far better.

Oh, and let’s not forget that even very small air quality improvements have noticeable improvements in lung health! Humans were not meant to be breathing gasoline fumes or combustion exhaust.

Those “heavy duty” tents are so expensive because they’re made entirely of $20 bills sewn together.

Totally agree. Make a game, not a game engine!

Though as an unrelated counterexample, Kitten Space Agency is doing a custom game engine and development is scary fast right now. They’re doing all the work in public and it’s wild how good the dev team is.

It really is. Iran got their tit for tat. This is actually the best possible response, as long as Trump exits the fight now.

Because these are short to medium range ground fired missiles? They don’t reach that far. Feel free to correct me if I’m wrong but I don’t think they have submarines that can get close and fire missiles at the United States proper.

I’m sure they had to do this because they had too many people asking “how much for 3 books”.

That or just because funny.

All that would do is get Jeff Bezos to hire a hitman to take out Trump.