As someone on lemmy who had never had to pick an instance before, it's not that hard. The instances have descriptions similar to subreddits. You just pick one that sounds friendly. The problem is lack of content diversity. I'm still on reddit for niche topics, some of which are actually not that niche.
Edit: to be clear, chatgpt's censorship of musk talk. A lot of people get information from chatgpt now the same way they get information from any other internet source. I think it's an appropriate discussion.
Even the difference between standing in shade and standing in direct sunlight on a sunny day is noticeable.