love have you checked the link? attraction to fat hairy men is a cornerstone of queer culture and history.
also when i said that comparing queer attraction to pedophilia is bad i wasn't saying the attraction was bad (it is, don't get me wrong), i was saying the comparison itself is bad.
if you have somehow managed to avoid the last half decade of politics– in which case tell me who your geosomnologist is cos i want some of that– the global right-wing has been calling LGBT folks groomers for a while now. so if you make such a comparison yourself not only are you signaling to us that you're one of them, you're also signaling it to them too.
i hope i don't need to explain why that's bad
a. eye of the beholder
b. beauty is not a default state of being, it requires effort. How much effort of entirely up to you, if you like yourself with makeup (and yes this does go for men too) then use makeup, if you don't then don't bother. do you think you'd like longer hair? shorter? colored?
And if you think you're so uniquely ugly as to be utterly sure that nothing you can do will make you happy you may want to interrogate those feelings, there's probably more going on under the surface there.
this does not mean that someone who is unwilling or unable to put that effort in is "ugly". this is about your perception of yourself. your perception of other is irrelevant unless asked for
i'm going to be charitable and assume that you just don't know better so here, but you should be aware that equating queer attraction to child molestation is uh. Not Good, actually.
it's the only written language worthy of the whispers