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I came to contact with the darker side during my teens (nothing too extreme), and the moment when I woke up from it and realized what I was doing was one of scariest moments of my life. In a weird way, it also gave me a bit of confidence as "awakening" was something that I felt with such a clarity. I really felt the wrongness, the empathy and the disgust, and I really felt the immeasurable (both tiny and large) gap between my "normal" self and my "darker" self.

On the other hand, playing violent games like Doom, Duke Nukem, Mortal Kombat was just fun, and being attracted and fascinated with the violent parts was somewhat weird but not so serious as in real life.

In the end, teens are age of self-discovery, and correlation is not causation.

Teenagers are kids and kids need to be watched over. Not just directly, but by equipping them with the right tools, a bit of wisdom and the knowledge of being loved. They know too little of the world to be left alone on the journey. What are the odds that they will deal with the necessary horrors of life, let alone the unnecessary ones, in a healthy way?

The fact that one of my parents made it impossible for me to respect him, and thus impossible to be really watched over by him (except for some twisted form of "reverse psychology" which I had not even realized) was not a cause, but a poor setting in which I, as any human ever, just had to meet my darker side and learn to manage it. (Not that he had any better equipment than me, probably even worse!)

To be honest, there is a class of problems that are extremely common, like maintaining installations, deployment scripts, logging, argument parsing. Apparently you tool belongs to this "really common" problems.

There is also a class of people who tend to solve problems by programming, and prefer doing so before doing some sort of exhaustive research for existing solution. Apparently you belong to this class of people.

I love that this class of people is here (hey, I'm part of it!), having this creative mindset is superb for learning and growing, and for keeping it fun (that's really important! it's dangerous to go without fun!).

I say, if you really get joy from solving problems this way then definitely keep this. Perks of being in this "class" is that we often grow attached to our projects and watching it not succeed can be painful.

So just remember to not put all the eggs into one basket: it's good to realize when you're in a domain where lots of mature solutions exist so success requires (sans impossible luck) being way much better than the existing ones. Because it can mean that getting people to try out your solution can be disproportionately harder than it "should be" given quality of it. You might need to prepare yourself for a long season of being the only user. On the other hand, looking for beta testers or reviewers, can be a different thing.

Just to make clear, I don't want this to sound discouraging in any way -- it's just personal experience and failure that might be good for others to not repeat.

I think the fact that, eg. on pypi there are tons of logging and argument parsing libraries shows the overlap between these classes of problems. Another thing is that most of these libraries is going to be abandoned. Again, I think that overall it's a good way -- it means that lots of people love coding and are trying -- it's humanity's way of getting awesome things.

Looks good. Anyone knows if there are .deb's somewhere?

TBH, I'm not likely to use flatpak untill I absolutely have to, and with $meta+= exec htop in my .i3/config I'm not exactly the primary audience.

(By the way, that's nothing against the author's decision to go "flatpak first", I fully support whatever choice they make as long as the project is F/LOSS. I don't have the resources to help so I'm happy to wait until the project grows enough until the deb appears..)

feels like their home

This is actually sad as it reminds me of why people stay in countries with violent authoritative regimes.

I know, it's different, but there's also lot of parallels.

Which group of easily offended people is going to be the largest?

• Those who get offended and therefore leave,
• or those who get offended but stay, because their curiosity won't let them go,
• or those who get offended and stay to troll and throw 💩 around and watch the world burn.

when I can buy complete version of the game for like 10-20 bucks 1-3 years later

...or, for like 1-3 bucks 10-20 years later.

Life is short, but not that short.

Looks like we're going to switch from plates back to bricks.

Big deal? Not sure... 🙃

Seems related, if not the same.

Some consumers (especially those who don't appreciate world burning around their kids) don't want to buy a new device every 1-3 years just because of batteries.

The hard part is which one will you remember. (I already had 43 different ages.)

Front left. Front right is keys, handkerchiefs and change (in the special smaller pocket-in-pocket thing).

Back right, slim leather wallet. Back left, usually nothing or "clean junk" that I want to throw out soon such as bills, tickets, etc.

dog-2.0

On the other hand, it would feel pretty normal to us.

Perhaps even our time perception would be probably a bit different. As someone coming from world where bodies require about 8-9 hours of sleep, the perception of time is naturally affected (if not dictated) by having series of waking periods of about the same length every day.

If there was no such thing as sleep (which might be a bit different than just "not requiring sleep" as you suggest) then we'd just be conscious in one continuous chunk from birth to death. Given what problems our brains solve by sleep (learning, sorting memories / feelings), if the brains were to do these things continuously, the consciousness itself would probably be at least quite a bit different experience.

We may have an uphill battle though, like biology

I'm afraid the joke's on you on this one. The biology simply is not that simple as we were taught in kindergarten.

There's lot about this on the nets, my favorite is this episode on Huberman Lab.

Well the past does not exist in any meaningful way, does it? Maybe the past painter was "stupid" (I would not express it in that way) but doesn't it mean that the present one is smarter?

I am not a doctor, professional psychologist or anything even remotely close. As far as I know, having strong (especially negative, such as shame or hate) feelings towards your (past) self can be a residue of a normal reaction to abnormal circumstances, otherwise known as psychological trauma.

It's worth knowing that psychological trauma is really common. When I say "common", I don't mean to diminish it -- quite opposite, psychological trauma can be pretty debilitating. What I mean is that many aspects of psychological trauma have been known and studied for a long time, and lot of methods have been developed to explore it and help people deal with it -- or even heal it. I suggest you try and find someone safe to talk to.

Trained therapists are excellent for this, because, well, they know lot of effective methods on how to help people speak, and second, they are normally from outside of our close circles, which is a surprisingly huge advantage. I've experienced this myself: as soon as I sat into that comfy chair, I've realized that this nice person was not ever going to judge me (she's probably heard sh*t i can't even imagine). Within first five minutes of conversation I've already noticed myself, how I put away a mask I didn't even know I was wearing. If only for this single realization, it was worth it.

🤔

But pockets at seem to force me to have some sort of system.

I feel that if I had to wear a bag it would be a holy mess.

Emperor Tickles

Again, perhaps with more clarity:

With imapfilter you can

1. choose where you will host your "actual" e-mail, let's say you choose according to best spam filter.
2. choose where you will store your e-mail long-term.
3. choose where you will access the e-mail for everyday use (this could be several separate accounts if you wanted to eg. use one on your phone and another one on your workstation)
4. choose where you will run imapfilter and any script hooks
5. start building your rules.

1-3 could be same provider or different providers, including your custom dovecot instance, you will simply choose based on convenience and limits. If you ever need to change one of the endpoints (providers), you just need to rewrite them in your ~/.imapfilter/config.lua. (And migrate, which can be done using imapfilter or manually using any sane client, eg. Claws Mail...)

Whatever hosting service you're going to use, if you're not afraid of a little bit of Lua coding, consider using imapfilter -- it's a swiss knife for backups, pre-sorting, hooks and migration.

imapfilter is a (criminally underrated, IMO) tool for writing e-mail rules in Lua, which allow you to do tons of things, but my favorite is migrating e-mail, regardless of account.

See, unlike most filtering/sorting systems which are either completely proprietary or limited to single account (exportable as Sieve, if you're lucky), imapfilter does not care where each "end" of the rule is: you can write rule that migrates from account1/folder1 to account2/folder3.

This allows you to completely decouple any sorting, pre-processing, hook or backup system from the actual locations or providers you happen to be using, as well as it allows you to combine any number of locations in any simple or complex way you need. Whatever system you will end up creating will stay with you as long (as you can use IMAP locations), so you can really focus on making it work long-term and have it fit into the big picture.

I've been using it for almost 10 years and ever since it has changed my whole world of e-mail. I have constant set of rules that take e-mails from set of inboxes (each box for different purpose, each on different provider, for reasons) and sort them to folders on my "actual" account, where I get to read them on my terms. I also have several of rules that run custom scripts exporting CSV's, etc. (The rules are Lua programs, after all, so sky is the limit.) If I ever need to migrate my domain to another service (believe it or not, happened more than once in 10 years), all I need to do is set up the new account as base for the rules, but all of my rules are always going to be preserved.

In my past work I actually used imapfilter to move all IMAP from company Gmail to a locally maintained (on company laptop) Dovecot instance so that I could eventually use a sane client to get my work done. (And because the instance was local, I could access my e-mail offline with best possible speed.) One could do a similar thing with personal/freelance e-mail -- just run Dovecot somewhere at a trusted place (you won't be sending/receiving e-mails here, you will be only using IMAP to IMAP commands, so none of the horrors of self-hosting e-mail apply) and use imapfilter to route all email there, then back up your dovecot folder and you're all set.

Except for need of coding, the disadvantage is that, I need an independent machine that runs 24/7 in order to keep sorting the e-mail (I do it cron-based but you can also do it continually) but that has not been a problem for me as I'm the self-hosting-nerd that's going to have such machine anyway.