I don’t think your distro choice matters for your desktop ease of use…
If I were to choose distros, I’d choose NixOS… but that’s because I’m a NixOS user :P
I only have prime because it’s VERY cheap in poland - it costs ~ $10/YEAR.
I don’t even really buy stuff on amazon, it’s just for prime video and the gaming rewards.
On the other side - not standalone - people often use Home Assistant for this, you can configure the dashboard on a different device, write custom widgets, it’s interactive, etc.
Honestly, I’ve been using Discord since 2018, and I’ve met many people who have been using custom clients, and I don’t think I’ve heard of one getting banned. You should be safe unless you start doing some bad stuff, like spamming the API, or recovering deleted messages.
You can use https://github.com/SpacingBat3/WebCord as a replacement for the official Discord client, it runs with the system Electron and can run in wayland natively.
I don’t think your distro choice matters for your desktop ease of use… If I were to choose distros, I’d choose NixOS… but that’s because I’m a NixOS user :P