I am not a current or ex incel—I came from the front page out of curiosity—but I feel the need to weigh in on this.
I have a black belt in a mixed martial art, I’ve been active in it for many years as a student and as a teacher, and I strongly feel that martial arts can offer a positive improvement to just about every person.
I joined martial arts because I was severely depressed going through a divorce and custody battle; I was going from work to the bar and then home. My life felt meaningless and I very literally woke up one day and realized that if I didn’t change something I was going to kill myself. I joined a local dojo that day.
Martial arts is special. It certainly gives you a place to vent out some frustrations in a safe, productive way… but if you find yourself a good dojo it can be so much more.
Martial arts boosted my confidence massively; it made me feel better about myself and who I am by giving me regular positive interactions with many other people. Belts are earned from hard work, and the experience of being handed that next rank provides a measurable improvement to guide you.
Eventually you start to be the upper belt and get to guide newer people through the same benefits you’ve seen, which feels great. If you go as far as me you may get to stand in front of the class as an expert and feel the healthy respect of a group of people, earned through dedication and the relationships you have formed with them.
Martial arts made me a better person, and better man, a better father, and helped me live a more well rounded and happy life.
Normally I end this little rant there, but if you are an incel and you are looking to get out I will add one more benefit: women go to class too, and if you want positive role model women to help break you out of a cycle of negativity I can think of no better example than an upper-belt woman who you can interact with in a structured environment. Most people in a dojo are pretty chill and happy to help, they also tend to have high confidence in the upper ranks and aren’t looking to prove anything anymore. It’s a pretty fantastic way to form new friendships that will challenge everything the incel community has convinced you is true.
Unfortunately the SD has a weird gimped version of Arch that doesn’t come with build tools (like make), otherwise I’d be using it as a hobby dev machine too.
I don’t think KDE has a native way to do this, I’ve also heard of Koi for this but I haven’t used it. I’m mostly a Mac user where this is just a default option.
Do you think that Trump’s secret service people are there because they’re loyalists? I doubt they get to choose their details.
It’s only leapords meme worthy if it’s someone who was gladly supportive of (in this case) sexism against others beforehand… we have no evidence of that here.
CNN? The channel that recently spent hours dissecting every stutter and stumble Biden made and just plain refused to talk about the vicious lies and ad hom attacks Trump spent the entire debate spewing, and just didn’t find it worth mentioning how he avoided answering several super important questions? That’s who they think the left gets news from?
I’m not thrilled about this by any means, but what Firefox is doing is not what chrome is doing (which is what the op posted thread is claiming). Conflating them serves no one.
I know you’re going to get downvoted to oblivion, so I’m reaching out to say that I am with you on this completely.
The edgelord “I’m a 90’s kid look how sarcastic and obnoxious I can be I don’t even care (but actually I deeply fucking care)” marketing is terrible. I refuse to buy anything from them on general principle.
All good reasons to make a decision, I’m not trying to sway anyone in a direction.
I just feel bad when people see drama in a community and wonder if that thing is “safe”. I’ve seen this kind of thing many times before in other communities—PERL, Python, Ruby, Rust, etc—and it never seems to lead to sweeping changes the normal user would notice. It’s pretty safe to assume that day-to-day users of thing can just carry on if they don’t care about the community upset.
Nate Cox @ natecox @programming.dev Posts 1Comments 437Joined 2 yr. ago
Don’t let the feedback here get you down. Some of the comments are overly negative; you’ve got the start of a cool stand going, keep it up.