milicent_bystandr @ milicent_bystandr @lemm.ee

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This is rather naive. Do you think the fighting wouldn't have happened if they were kept as one big country?

I don't think they really had that chance. It's there in the docs about it: they implemented receiver accountability deliberately so European governments might be willing to accept it.

Your laser is no longer pure, straight light; it is organic and natural, and a shoot is butting out of the side, and will eventually grow into a laser tree.

Oh no! My number of superpowers has reduced from 0 to 0!

Thing is, most money is already digitised and tracked. Taler has the genius of giving (hopefully) enough accountability on the receiving end to satisfy tax and counter-fraud, whilst at the same time giving privacy and anonymity to the spender.

But you get no superpowers.

Poor Will.

Who is Will, and why did he die?
This, of all, I wonder why.
When he left I felt the surge
Of pain flow though my heart and I
Thought back to all the Wills I've known
But none of them would cause such groan
To splinter in my heart like this;
I'd barely find a little moan.
So why at last, when chance is here
Should I cry, "Will should live!" with fear?
I only met him once but now
For all he is I shed a tear.
And so I wait with baited breath
At graveside---but with terror rings
The note of balance, weighing kings
And paupers on the scale; sings
That this one's life, return'd on wings,
In recompense a great doom brings:
The rest of us will meet our death.

Perhaps the speed-up is such that they still experience a normal lifespan. As time tends to infinity, the experience speed tends to infinity.

Most of eternity, to everyone else's view, OP is an inanimate but immortal being whose reflexes are infinitely slow and can't respond to anything.

It is when we draw memes together.

Ah, the famous metered inch.

I saw one comment about baking and that reminded me....

If you let your 6 year-old bake, you don't teach them oven safety then leave them to it. You do it together.

The same is probably good for tech and internet. Do it as a together thing. And that means also cultivating good habits yourself. If you sit watching porn all day and writing hate mail on Facebook, telling your niece she's not old enough for it yet, she's going to see and want to try.

What is ((thing)) for? How do we use it? The answers are learnt in watching and in doing it together. I know the internet is famous for children learning all sorts of things by themselves (including good things). But I think for healthy development, this still applies, and when they're ready for The Great World Beyond With All Its Pitfalls And Evils, they're more ready.

It's been tough on us, most of all - as others have said - from the sleep deprivation. For a while we've often felt like roommates who happen to be parents of the same child. That's starting to change now. But, funnily, even in that time of feeling more apart it's like we work together better too - we're a better team. I think looking after the baby puts some things in perspective.

Perhaps the biggest thing I'd advise - and that I think we've done well mostly - is having a mindset of family instead of romantic relationship. The romance is something wonderful within the family, rather than the family is an extra thing that comes from the romance.

So if romance takes a back seat for a while, it's not like, "oh no, now I have all this hard work and responsibility... one day I'll be back to the thing I like." Instead, where 'couple' used to be the most important focus of relational life, now 'family' is. So all that effort going into baby, baby, baby, is every step investing goodness in your family - so that builds up your relationship too.

Sorry, maby that's a bit confusing at the end, I don't know how to write it well.

To answer some questions directly,

Does this phase eventually runs its course?

The phase of tiredness and struggle, yes... kind of. There's always new things to cope with with children! But the change in what your relationship looks like? No. You still have a good relationship, but what 'good' looks like becomes different, just like what 'attractive' looks like becomes different when you go from 20 to 50. Some people don't handle it well.

How do you find the mental fortitude to ignore the stupid bs your partner does or says?

By recognising that you do just as much stupid bs, and by being much quicker to forgive and apologize than to judge. Also by realising your partner's way of doing something is legitimate even when it's not the way you'd do it, and knowing when to step back and let them - even support them - rather than butting in with how you should do it different.

How would you describe love to your partner a year after having a baby?

Stronger. Stronger on a deep level. We've fought so hard to keep our love from being bashed around by stupid bs from outside and inside, both before our child and after. But we have some re-learning to do for how to help our closeness flourish now the baby is less ever-present and all-consuming!

Is there any way to know if you and your partner are going to make it and remain a couple after having a child?

Probably not for certain, but there's many things you can do / look for.

• be a Family not a Couple. Is life just about sex and the pleasure you get from your partner? Make life about pouring your love and creative expression into your family.
• Are you married? What holds you together in the hard times? Be truly committed to each other, "for better or for worse," having absolutely no place for thinking about cheating or breaking up. That clear mindset of faithfulness and together-to-the-end will help you through the hard times.
• be humble, quick to apologize, quick to forgive, quick to think your partner's perspective is important even when it seems dumb to you at first glance.
• how well do you make up when you argue? Can you go to bed after, even during, an argument, and know you love them? Or do you fight and break up until they admit they were wrong? Do you feel together again afterwards, or after each argument do you feel more like it's time to leave?
• do you have people around you? Community? Family? Does your partner have friends they can go to and bitch to, to let off steam when things in your little family of you/them/baby feel too intense? Do you have such friends? That's often more important for women.
• are your finances ready? And can you talk together about them? Stress from finances often causes big stress in the relationship. But even if you're poor and financially struggling it doesn't have to, if you know how to feel together about budgeting, and respect each others' decisions.

...well, I've rambled on long enough! Hope some of that is helpful.

28 feet by 1 million inches

From that snippet, it looks like they basically primed it to try blackmail, to see if it would.

Raising Elephants Is So Utterly Boring

Oh, I'm quite aware. My own accent is pretty RP.

It's the weed room.

"I'll be right down, in a few minutes; I'm going to take the "stairs"."

Something-something trees are an invasive species so add --no-preserve-root

I see the diagram: the first knife is for cutting bread. The second is for cutting fillets. The third is for cutting... chefs?