I spent a bit of time going through your post history to get an understanding of your background
In short I think your life experiences mean you've lost all trust in men. Not just your direct experiences but what you've observed in others.
As a result you enter each interaction assuming the worst. Every male social worker you engage with will confirm this pattern because that's what you're looking for. The - ah fuck here we go again - feeling.
For them, and I don't expect you to have empathy for them, this is what they live - the outcomes of other mens behaviours. But - they were there and they tried. That is something.
You have changed quite a lot of your original post.
During a conversation amongst friends the topic of male on female violence came up. there was recently a stabbing attack in Australia where a schizophrenic man stabbed and killed multiple women in a Sydney shopping centre.
A female friend raised the statistic that 26 women had been killed in the first 114 days of 2024. She made a point of saying Every 4.38 days a woman is violently killed
I asked - because I didn't know - Is that like heaps more than last year?how many people would normally die in the same period?
She said "that's a pretty misogynistic thing to say”
So I googled it and I can't even find the homicide rate in Australia for 2024.
I am really fucking irritated about this. I assume she had assumed from my question that I was waving off the importance of gender in gendered violence but how that translates into misogyny is beyond me
"OK so she must've bleached the full head then done the green side first, then the black side. Man her scalp must be itchy as fuck. What did I used to use to stop the burn? Coconut oil? Yeah that's right. Smelt like Malibu for a week or so, and had to throw out that set of pillow cases. Man that sucks, I loved those pillow cases, perfect for winter. I wonder if you can still get them?"
....turns out the latest upgrade to your c and c software was stolen from the enemy by cyber squad, and most of your assets on the southern front are now controlled by five primary school cs:go players in Fulham.
I've never read anything quite like it. I picked it up in a second hand store for a couple of bucks while travelling, read it the first time and was completely confused, thn re read it a second and third time.
My takeaway is that it's an exercise in suspension of disbelief. The third time through I'd accepted that it was just...weird...and it became a grimy unsettling story about complex people with complex motivations.
Over what time scale? Incremental change is also change, and don't require violence. You might not have noticed the beneficial change because it's happened over so long and society has been managed through the change.
The other side to that question is - how frequently does violence achieve beneficial change? As opposed to violence which doesn't effect change at all, or changes things for the worse?
Completely agree, but mate half the fun is watching generations gradually understand the multi layered perfection of life stage related Simpsons clips.
Oh BTW everyone you're due to listen to cat Stevens father and son again to see if it has changed meaning
Yeah seconded.. That worked for me.