My dad was doing some family tree genealogy, he discovered that one of our predecessors died of 'dementia' at the age of 28. He discovered that a historian had written a paper (thesis?) on a spike in the number of poisonings that happened in the area (Glasgow I think) at that time (mid-late 1800's I think). Dad reached out to the historian and she thought it was a likely case.
So my N-th great-grandma (or her beau) probably got away with murdering my N-th great-grandpa.
Her son moved to Canada, (Toronto) went to Winnipeg for work, leaving his pregnant wife in Toronto. Then he joined the army for WWI, and died in Flanders.
Allegedly when his wife (Toronto) went to claim the pension it was already being claimed by his 'widow' in Winnipeg.
The baby from the pregnant Toronto wife was my great great grandmother, so he was my GGG grandfather so N=4.
I said allegedly with respect to the pension because it's a family legend only attested to by my great-grandmother, who may have been a pathological liar. The rest of the story is reasonably verified.
I think these scenarios might be easier to analyze if we made them a bit more realistic.
This an analogy for military intervention. If we empower our military to be proactive, we can save one "good guy"TM by killing 3 bystanders. But if NATO's adversaries are participating too we lose 3 of our "good guy"TM
Thanks for the feedback, but I don't find it very useful. I did not say that the mother voted with the goal of supporting transphobic policies, I said something stronger.
It is my view that a person cannot love a trans person unconditionally AND support transphobic politicians. Ie it doesn't matter why the mother supports the politician.
If you love somebody you will not support politicians that want to unfairly discriminate against them. Even if the politicians have better policies in other areas.
Families need to understand one another and not devolve into a political shitshow
What makes you think anyone is misunderstanding their family here?
OP and everyone else is at fault for the drama
Obviously the family is dysfunctional, that's what this post is about. I don't think it's particularly useful to try to apportion blame from where we are. Could OP have more effectively lobbied her parents not to support transphobic politicians? Probably, but we don't know. Is OP trying to emotionally manipulate her mother? Maybe, we don't know. My comment was advice on how OP can end her relationship firmly, while leaving the door open to reconciliation down the road.
I wouldn't be a cis-het-white-man if I didn't feel entitled to weigh in: I think you should send a handwritten note that says something like:
I will always have room in my life for a mother who loves me unconditionally, but a mother like that would not support politicians with transphobic policies. I do have love for you, but the choices you've made break my heart, and it's not healthy for me to have that sort of negativity in my life.
When I'm lonely, I'll try to focus on the good times we had together, and not harbor bitterness. I forgive myself for not being the child you imagined. I hope you can do the same.
Make sure to sign it with "Love"
You could also list some of the positive memories you're going to try to focus on. You could ask your sister to help you come up with a list. You don't need to share the whole letter with her just say that you're trying to come up with a list of happy memories for when you're feeling down. Maybe that should be a conversation while you do something else together so you're not just staring at each other at the kitchen table while trying to think. For me that that something else would be a game of pool, for others it might be cooking or jogging or gardening or walking through an art gallery/museum.
If anybody has any feedback for me that would help me better understand OPs situation I'd love to hear it.
US politics have only relatively recently become so clearly cut along party lines, whereas in Canadian parliament votes in the house are almost always 'whipped' ie MPs are basically obligated by their party to vote the party line.
I don't like homeless encampments, tent cities, favelas etc. They are unsafe, unclean and foster destructive behavior.
Let's destroy them by building safe, permanent homes for people.
It's so strange to me that "free market capitalism" lovers can't see that encampments are a market response. There is a large supply of unenclosed space (parks, sidewalks, underpasses) and an unmet demand for shelter. They shouldn't be surprised when market participants convert the former into the latter.
How effective do they think it will be to police every unenclosed space in the region vs building adequate shelter. Building shelter has all sorts of associated benefits too.
Yeah I agree that can't keep him locked up, but could they jail him, because honestly that isn't nothing. Obviously it's career suicide for anyone involved but you know.
It seems he bought Twitter and successfully traded twitter's market cap into right wing populist influence (RWPI) [and presumably a capital gains deduction], and now RWPI into governmental influence.
The Bible is not accurate regarding Jesus' early life.
I don't think it's wrong to exercise an iota of skepticism.
Was Luke there at the circumcision? What was his source?
Wouldn't Jesus being trans and Luke being misinformed (or actually trying to avoid outting him) explain why there isn't really any testimony about Jesus's life during puberty? It was an incredibly misogynistic era right? Is it inconceivable for a person without a penis to try to pass as a man in that era?
If a person can better appreciate Jesus by understanding him as a trans-man should a christian tell them they're wrong? Does it put them in spiritual jeopardy? Is it dishonest to say "maybe"? I don't think so.
Could it be that it's using less power as it charges? ie automatically shuts off power hungry features while charging?
Good data is so hard to get.
What I'd actually care about is how many minutes of usage does 30 minutes of charging get me in both standard and ekeing out as much life as I can mode.
Jesus on the other hand 100% had a dick. [...] Jesus was 100% biologically male.
Oh did they find his body?
Wouldn't it be more reasonable to conclude that the probability of Jesus being
biologically male equals the human average of males being biologically male? Ie 99.5%.
Couldn't his radical compassion for outcasts and the downtrodden be related to personal struggles growing up with gender dysphoria?
If you believe he was conceived in a virgin, wouldn't it be MORE likely that he had XX chromosomes?
I wish I could give Elon the benefit of the doubt:
Well maybe he meant that the child's birthname is a deadname and out of respect of his child's identity he will not use it.
But he definitely didn't mean it like that. He refused to celebrate his child doing something difficult, and chose transphobia(or at least the approval of transphobes) over having a relationship with his child.
I'd probably start designing and building a rolling ball clock/ sculpture, then hit some sort of obstacle and switch to making a self recirculating eddy current tube, get frustrated and try to design and build an electronically commutated counter rotating propeller driver, get frustrated and try to build a garage sized 3d printer, get frustrated and try to build a delayed action door closer get frustrated and try to build a co-planar compound cycloidal reducer, get frustrated and then forget my wife's anniversary until 4pm the day before.
The idea behind tariffs is to increase the prices of imports so that domestic production can compete. Higher prices are definitely the point, but the idea is that at least with domestic production the price increases get circulated back into the domestic economy as jobs/wages. But, if the domestic economy can increase production without increasing wage expenditure then the money from the higher prices just goes to the shareholders.
If it's something for which there is no domestic production, it's just a tax, and it should become a question of what does money from the tariffs get used for... probably taxcuts for the rich.
A woman at a party hoping to bag a dying rich husband retains the right not to be groped/assaulted or raped.
I actually wouldn't be surprised if the modeling industry as a whole was proved to be a sex abuse conspiracy from the get go. Like create this image in the media of beautiful women becoming glamorous successful models that marry dying billionaires, tell them that they have to network at fancy parties where the industry moguls are, convince them to ingratiate themselves to the moguls however they can....
Yeah, the percentage of the population that's trans is about 1%. The percentage of trans men that oppose reasonable abortion access is surely vanishingly small (because of largely overlapping bodily autonomy rights concerns).
My dad was doing some family tree genealogy, he discovered that one of our predecessors died of 'dementia' at the age of 28. He discovered that a historian had written a paper (thesis?) on a spike in the number of poisonings that happened in the area (Glasgow I think) at that time (mid-late 1800's I think). Dad reached out to the historian and she thought it was a likely case.
So my N-th great-grandma (or her beau) probably got away with murdering my N-th great-grandpa.
Her son moved to Canada, (Toronto) went to Winnipeg for work, leaving his pregnant wife in Toronto. Then he joined the army for WWI, and died in Flanders.
Allegedly when his wife (Toronto) went to claim the pension it was already being claimed by his 'widow' in Winnipeg.
The baby from the pregnant Toronto wife was my great great grandmother, so he was my GGG grandfather so N=4.
I said allegedly with respect to the pension because it's a family legend only attested to by my great-grandmother, who may have been a pathological liar. The rest of the story is reasonably verified.