Good lord I can't imagine having had browsed reddit without an account. The default subs were always so awful/toxic. It was nice having a curated list of hobby subs and cat pics and such
ADHD Brains are different - so some advice that works for non-ADHD brains may or may not work.
In general, being present and meditation (in whatever way that works for you, but, generally the practice of observing your thoughts as they go by but not reacting to them) are helpful for 'strengthening' your thought patterns. Becoming aware of things and building up that muscle is how you can have more of that willpower.
Habits can be very difficult to build, don't get discouraged. Find things that work for you and ways to incentivize or motivate yourself.
I used KBin first, the interface was great but (at least a monthish ago) the federation and community syncing was pretty rough on the instance I was on. Swapped to Lemmy and it's goin great. Wouldn't really consider tilde or rabble or the others - too small community and no chance to grow due to being in their own little closed off garden
I'd volunteer to be a technical troubleshooter - very familiar with docker/javascript/SQL, not super familiar with rust - but I'm sure yall also have an abundance of nerds to lend a hand.
I'm genuinely confused - I made my Lemmy account a few weeks ago but wasn't the sign up just "email", "password", captcha, click email link, done? Isn't that the exact sign up of reddit and most websites?
Sure - some instances have gated signups and require some questions / prompts - but a bunch don't ? What am I missing? I've seen the "confusing sign up" comment a few times
A lot of cuisine that is lauded all around the world embraces all three of those, or at least the original dishes they came from did. A lot of really fancy food today and in the last 50 years is just "peasant food". Sometimes just with fresher ingredients and more butter
Lots of stumbling. Thinking I liked something, learning things in life, try other things. Eventually I found something that I really liked.