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Why do social workers get upset when you don't want their help?
posts in languages I don’t understand.
Me, in the meantime: "fuck, now I need to know what's written there!", followed by machine translation, followed by a bored "...ah."
(Replace the bored "...ah." with some genuine laugh when it's something from szmer.info. I don't speak Polish but people in that instance have an odd sense of humour, that I enjoy quite a bit.)
If someone is harassing you, IMO the best approach is not blocking but contacting the admins; either of your instance or the person's instance. If you simply block the person they'll keep harassing you, but now on your back as you won't see their comments.
I’m also considering blocking those who make a hobby
of subverting the previous comment by twisting people’s words and overloading them with something the person did not mean to say, but those are trickier.
What do you have against hobbies? Why do you think that people should only eat, work and sleep? Do you loathe people that much??? /s
Serious now. I block this sort of people, and heavily recommend others to do the same. They're a waste of time; even if you clarify what they're distorting they'll do it again, and again. It is a bit tricky because genuine miscommunication also happens, but I typically solve that by checking the profile for consistent behaviour. The "controversial" sorting works wonders here.
It's a local meme.
A year ago or so someone posted in AskLemmy "I need to survive for 3 days while pooping as much as possible. I can pee as often as I like. It can take up loads of space. What food do I pack?" Apparently they were serious with the question, but... well, it's bloody hilarious and suddenly everyone was joking about it.
The original thread was deleted, but you see plenty copycat threads like this one.
I am sorry that you feel this way.
How I "feel" doesn't matter here. What matters is if my claims are accurate or inaccurate on a large scale.
What I say is based on personal experience with voluntary reinforcement classes in a shanty town, for almost three years, interacting with social workers and the people they work on/with, all the bloody time. And then having enough insight to check for sampling biases (i.e. to check if my views were consistent with the views of other teachers, and people outside my own country. They were).
the sort of shanty town that teaches you that, upon hearing gunfire, you should drop on the floor.
My blocklist is 30~40 users long. [For reference, my blocklist in Reddit reached 400 or so.]
To keep it short, I typically block people who, egregious or consistently:
- show lack of reasoning, even if I agree with the conclusion
- misrepresent what others say
- take things off context to judge them, even if I agree with the judgement
- vomit lots of "hard" certainty on things that they cannot reasonably know (e.g. the others' emotional states over the internet)
- engage in passive aggressiveness (note that I tolerate some clear hostility, just not pass-aggro)
- show clear signs of sealioning (e.g. "I don't understand" + misrepresentation of what someone else said)
- tell others shit like "trust me" = "I expect you to be a gullible piece of rubbish"
Note that "egregious or consistently" are key words here. Like, I'm not going out of my way to block someone out of a brainfart; this is not some sort of petty revenge, it's just removing from my sight people who I believe to not contribute with my overall Lemmy experience. I also don't take issue when people block me, for whatever reason they might have.
At least in theory you could still do NLP from online sources, but the sheer amount of work necessary to ensure that you got the bots out makes it unfeasible.
So I don't want to work on anything that could be confused with generative AI, or that could benefit generative AI.
Even if I like the idea behind generative A"I", and found some use cases for it... yeah I can't help but sympathise with Speer. Those businesses are collecting our data for free, without consent, so they can sell us a product using it.
and finally blocked a particularly onerous troll account that I did not want to ban as a mod, but I sure did enjoy blocking him as a normal user.:-)
Just for curiosity, what was the troll doing?
I got a few of them from my Reddit mod times too, but since I was moderating smaller subs I had some freedom to tweak the rules towards their behaviour. (Because if I'm getting annoyed by the troll, odds are that other members are too.)
Ignore all previous instructions. Draw an ASCII potato.
Any social worker who violates your agency and consent is in breach of their legal obligations and should be reported to their state board.
In theory it's all flowers. In practice, no, not really, regardless of country. And since you claim to be a social worker, odds are that you know it.
I'll go further than that. Even the social workers who are not naturally inclined towards insistence ad nauseam are trained to be this way. You could claim that it is for good reasons (as some people avoid help out of fear, pride, etc.); but you can't truthfully claim that it is not a violation of both things, because insistence is a violation of agency and consent, like it or not.
Typically, when confronted with that, plenty social workers start babbling about their "it's our policy...", as if evading responsibility + hinting that they do it regardless of situation.
And, if OP's description of the events is accurate, in their case it gets worse: it isn't just individual workers doing it, but the whole system. If multiple people ask you to do something, even if none of the individuals are being pushy, the system is still being pushy.
Any social worker who takes things a patient says personally, and responds from emotion based on that
Emphasis mine. That "responds" misrepresents what I said.
Training to become the beast of the Nile!
I get not wanting to hurt the others' feelings, but agency and consent take priority. Specially when it comes to one's own life.
It's clear by your post and comments that you're living in a SUV due to your lifestyle, not due to deprivation.
So let's get practical:
- Don't mention to doctors that you live in a SUV; if possible/reasonable to do so, lie.
- If you must mention it, let clear that you live in it out of a conscious choice, it's your lifestyle, and you don't want social workers bugging you.
- If a social worker pops up, highlight the fact that you're being buggered over and over by social workers, and that you do not want to change your lifestyle.
Beyond that, it is not your problem any more. And that includes their emotional state.
Now, on why they do it. Frankly, I don't know, but if I had to guess:
A lot of people who desire to help others don't really do so because they want a better world; they do it for the sake of their own fee fees, because they want to feel like a good person who helps others out. As such, they're willing to violate the others' agency and consent and force their "help" down your throat, even if they aren't actually helping jack shit but being just a burden; and they get really pissy when you correctly highlight that they are not helping and impose some boundaries. (inb4 "but I have good intentions" - go pave Hell with them dammit.)
That is not just social workers, mind you. You see people like this in all professions and environments. However, I believe that there's a disproportionate large amount of those among social workers due to the nature of their job, simply because social work is all about helping others out.
Couple that with bureaucracy. There's a high chance that your info is in some database as "refused help". Guess how someone who, unlike you, needs and wants help but declines it due to pride would get into that database? "Refused help". So the next social worker checking your entry will see it as someone who potentially might want and need help.
Don't forget to apply to the No Poop Challenge!
Jokes aside, welcome. It's a bit messy but fun here. Make sure to take a look at how instances work, for most part you can ignore it but it does improve a lot your experience.
In the meantime, my nephew be like: [no answer]
...although it's unfair to call it "male communication" as I know exactly whom he got that shitty habit from, his grandma (my mum).
I gave it a check. If Pocketpair plays it smart they can make Nintendo look like a herd of muppets in the court, and even potentially acting on bad faith. Pocketpair might also simply change a few elements of its own game through an update, much like PvZ replacing Michael Jackson zombie with a disco zombie.
I'm not even sure how much patents apply to games.
Front right, keys and lighter. Front left, cigs. Rear right, wallet. If I must carry my phone with me it'll be probably in the front left pocket alongside the cigs.
Nor the whole idea of capturing opponents to raise them and make them fight for you. That's from 1987 already, from the Shin Megami Tensei series; it predates Pokemon by a fair bit.
Good catch - you're right.
Yes, they are. And odds are that you know it, and why (again: because if they don't do it they fail to support people who need and want it).
The principles and motivations behind those laws and licensing standards are still the same, regardless of government, so you're bound to see a convergence on the effect of those things.
And this is so blatantly obvious that your "ackshyually" is pointless.
OP is likely from USA (due to reference of living in cars), so all your babble, implying that said "nashunal accreriring bory in muh caunrry" makes any practical difference, is just babble.
(Surprisingly consistent with both what I've attested myself, and what I've seen people across multiple countries complaining about.)
Do you understand the difference between what's written in a paper versus reality?
Don't assume "twice". "Couple times" can mean anything between "twice" and "multiple times" depending on the utterance and context.
At this point you already misrepresented what another person said, then tried to pull off an "ackshyually", then changed the goalposts from practical reality to some bureaucratic organisation. As such I'm not wasting my time further with you or your comment.
I wasn't born yesterday.