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Caveat lector: I'm not a native speaker, so take what I'm saying with a grain of salt.

This exception seems to be a case of right-edge deletion - you're generating the sentence as if you were to utter the adverbial/prepositional complement, but then you chop the sentence just before the element. This can be shown by the following:

1. I put some flowers on the table. // OK, complete sentence. Typically including a falling tone near the end.
2. I put some flowers... // "on the table" is on the right edge, so it can be deleted.
3. I put some flowers on the table for decoration. // OK
4. [?] I put some flowers for decoration. // Weird, probably agrammatical.

No for most people because "put" would require two complements - the object and the place. (It's a lot like a ditransitive verb, even not being one.) And in this case the place is missing, you'd expect it to be at most replaced with an adverb (e.g. "now I put the cheese there").

Socks. If I'm at home you'll never see me wearing socks, not even if it's -5°C out there. But got to use them while wearing shoes, I guess.

He is being a dick, so turn yourself into a bigger dick?

Fighting back is not being a dick.

Document all interactions? Wtf kinda bullshit is this.

Documenting all interactions gives OP the necessary resources to transform this into a legal matter, if OP so desires.

Having and nurturing a grudge against that guy does not help you in any way.

Not fighting back will likely end with OP feeling like shit, with a bigger grudge towards the bully and himself for not acting.

Ignore him and live your own life happily. Not worth wasting your time and happiness like that.

Did you even read the OP??? This shit has been going for TEN YEARS. OP already tried to ignore him, it did not work; OP already tried to contact him in a friendly way (congratulating him for the grad), and it did not work either. Odds are that this shit will go on until someone forces the moron to stop.

That what you naive pacifists don't get - "just walk away lol! how hard it is lmao!" does not always work. It won't make the bullying "magically" stop, nor "magically" prevent the psychological damage to the person.

Of course there are moral limits on what OP should do in this situation; that is a given. "Ruin his life and make him wish he was never born", in this context, is being used to hyperbolically convey "don't passively accept this shit, stand your ground and fight back".

note how none of the actions that I suggested OP taking would be undue retribution to his former friend's actions.

So were there many Roman citizens in Britannia, or was it a pretty small ratio of Romans to locals?

Relevant detail: this changed a lot in 212.

Before that date, Roman citizenship basically implied Roman culture, language and lifestyle; but in that year Caracalla passed an edict granting citizenship to all free men in the Empire, so a lot of non-Latin-speaking locals were to be considered Roman citizens. (And taxed as such).

That said, I'd estimate the ratio of Latin speakers in the province to be 3~6% in the 4th century, based on a few Wikipedia numbers:

• Roman army, family, dependents: 125k people. Likely 100% Latin speakers. You also get a few bureaucrats but they're numerically insignificant.
• Urban population: 240k people, including the above. The others were likely a mix of Brittonic and Latin speakers.
• Total population: 3.6 million people. Unless urban, likely to be Brittonic speakers.

Did the Roman soldiers give commands to the local elites, who would then tell the locals what to do?

Not quite. The army was responsible for the enforcement of the rules, but the ones commanding the local elites and the army were former consuls appointed as governors.

And would you say that life changed much for the locals under the new rule?

I'm not sure at all. But I guess that, for both the slaves and the general working class, there was barely a difference. You still work to the bone, and die an ungrateful death, no matter if you're doing it for the sake of a local tribal chief or for some "imperator" in the middle of nowhere.

waaAAAH watch the tone! It hurts my precious, OH SO PRECIOUS, fee fees! I behave like a clown, but dontcha dare to call me a clown!

I know that you've been banned, but damn, I hope that you're aware that you've become a laughing stock.

Troll harder. And preferably in Reddit dammit.

It's kind of funny how users here post off-topic content, effectively littering communities, and then complain when someone cleans it up. This thread is an excellent example of that - even if the moron's complain about censorship was somehow valid (it isn't), this is a community about privacy!

And "here" I mean the internet. It is not exclusive to Lemmy. Or forum sites. Or social media. Fuck, I bet that we could even find offline examples of this.

Hope you feel better soon!

Thank you! Frankly, I'm already far better than when I wrote that, 19h ago.

(And now I can say that even a catoblepas wished me health!)

Like, what the hell did I do to deserve that? I don’t know why I let it even bother me because of how obviously immature he is being.

Odds are that you did nothing. He's clearly an emotional vulture, he probably does it towards everyone around him.

I don't recommend framing it as immaturity, as it might give you the false hope that he'll "grow up" and get better over time. Perhaps he gets better, but odds are that he won't.

Some people might say "let it go", or "vengeance is never good, it kills the soul and poisons it". I'm almost 40 and I got something to say about this pacifist discourse:

Screw this masochistic shit. When you turn the other face you are not saying "I'm better than him"; you're saying "he's right in treating me as trash, as I am trash". You want to ruin his life and make him regret existing.

So, here's what I'd do:

• Document every single time that he contacts you, including the contents. Record calls, save e-mails, take screenshots.
• He's likely doing this with other people too, contact them. Former friends and any ex-SO are a good start. Ideally they should do the same as you (document it) and you should act in unison. Do not let him notice that you're acting together though, be as stealthy as possible.

I couldn’t take it anymore, so I blocked him on everything I could think of. [...] This quote was a part of what he commented on my Instagram picture of one of my tools yesterday:

That's actually great for you. It means that he kept contacting you after showed clear desire to not be contacted further. Depending on the local laws this gives you grounds for legal action.

And since the guy is a fucking idiot flaunting the fact that he's an engineer, you might also contact his business. Be polite towards them, but highlight the fact that one of their employees is harassing you. Even if he doesn't get fired, it'll put him in a poor position later on.

He deserves to be put in his place. I don’t know if that’s possible though without me becoming just as petty as he is.

The difference between "being petty" and "standing your ground" is why. You are in a position to screw him up without being petty.

You'll also want to ruin the psychological "kick" that he gets from harassing you. Ignoring him on the surface (while documenting it) is a good approach, because he'll feel unsatisfied but he'll try a bit harder.

Also shield yourself psychologically. Remember - you are not the problem, he is the problem.

Vengeance is not a dish to be served cold. You warm it in the blood of your enemies.

I'm one of those monsters that don't usually eat oreos.

Never saw the appeal - I prefer sweeter, chocolate or strawberry-flavoured sandwich cookies instead. (Kind of weird given that I tend to gravitate towards bitter food.)

For me the painful part is to not babble manga spoilers in this sort of discussion. Like, I know what's going to happen and I'm excited to talk about it, but... got to wait until the right episode to do so!

That's a good analogy - specially because LLMs don't handle language on a conceptual level, like we do; only the surface, like taxidermy. Demons work a bit different in this aspect because they show cognitive comprehension of what is said, but Frieren herself highlights that they're just mimicking human behaviour.

Episodes like this are why I love this series so much.

Graf acting as a reasonable person in power. Stark being afraid, but still willing to fight. Stark and Fern planning shit out. Fern inheriting her fighting style from Frieren. Flamme protecting a sapling on a whim. All of that so well tied together, in a simple good vs. evil struggle.

not caring about things that don’t affect you is more acceptable there

This, too. So much this.

In Reddit you're either "waaah you evil!!11one" or you have strong opinions about every fucking thing. And what a coincidence - those strong opinions happen to coincide with the ones of most other subreddit users! It also pisses me off.

That's a good counterpoint - in Reddit, large subs often work as containment cages for the morons; Lemmy is simply not large enough to have this distinction yet. And perhaps the topic also has some influence, I feel like people in Lemmy are emotionally more strongly attached to their political views than in Reddit, this is not bad per se but people often get irrational when they're emotionally attached to a subject.

As @GreyShuck@feddit.uk correctly highlighted, it wasn't even Latin that displaced so much of the local language. It was the Germanic tribals invading the islands later on. So I'll focus specifically on the Roman role.

The Roman process of Latinisation was rather slow. For reference: Gallia was conquered in 58-50 BCE, but odds are that Gaulish survived until the ~sixth? century of the common era, 600 years later. That's because the Romans didn't really give much of a fuck about what rural local folks spoke - if they rebel you kill them and done, problem solved.

Instead they were actively placing colonies in the conquered regions (to give land to Roman citizens) and converting the local elites to Roman habits and customs, because unlike the farmers the elites could be actually dangerous if rebellious.

The same applies to Britannia. Except that it was conquered ~a century after Gallia, it's a fucking island in the middle of nowhere with harder access, it doesn't grow grapes or olives, grain production in the Empire was mostly in Africa and Egypt so odds are that they couldn't reliably grow their wheat variety there either... really, the island was mostly a tin mining outpost.

Another factor to consider is the distribution of the Roman settlements in the area:
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For me it was great. I've been trying to leave that shithole for years; Lemmy got enough content quantity and diversity to keep me entertained.

I do miss a few niche subs; mostly r/conlangs, game-specific subs, and a few subs for anime/manga/LN series. But I don't really feel missing out.

I also miss behaving like a shit-flinging monkey and chimping out. I don't do this here in Lemmy, but I did it all the time in Reddit. I guess that I contributed to what you call "hateful people"? Perhaps not, you don't look like the sort of user that I'd chew on.

The issue I have with Reddit - it’s full of hateful people and most content is just bots karma farming.

My issue with Reddit is also the userbase. But it's on another level: the local culture of Reddit encourages braindeadness, disingenuousness, entitlement, and circlejerking.

It is both things - statistics on random events. Einstein would argue that God doesn't play dice with the universe, but it seems that the gods play poker with living things instead.

One older female named Marlene, for instance, outlived her eldest, a male named Dolphy, with whom she was very close [...] she took up a solitary existence and moved away into the northern part of their territory. [...] Marlene would show up within 15 minutes, begging for meat. Even into her very old age, she'd almost always get meat.

And then Marlene shares half of her meat with a bunch of servals. And spends most of her day cleaning serval poop around her. (I'm joking.)

Serious now, here's a link for further info on the reproductive conflict hypothesis. It's mostly used for humans, but it might be partially true for chimps acc. to the text from the OP - specially due to the female dispersal.

There are two key elements here:

• Resource scarcity: trying to raise too many children at the same time, in a given clan, puts at risk the likelihood of all those children to survive until adulthood.
• Asymmetric relatedness: the children of an older female, in a chimp clan, are mostly unrelated to the incoming females (they're basically in-laws). However, those children of the incoming young females are likely related to the older female (they're likely her grandchildren).

Because of those two things, it might be advantageous to keep the older female alive, gathering resources for children, but not having children of her own. ...that's what menopause does.