Ugh I hate this. It's a huge problem and rooted in discriminatory attitudes.
One thing though, that's quite useful that it can at least be framed as a marriage equality issue over there.
Here in New Zealand, legislatively there is equality for people who don't even get married (common law/de facto couples automatically have the same legal status and rights as married couples, across the board).
The downside of that is that we have a similar situation only you just have to be seen as a couple for 2 years. Like this:
If you marry someone who is making even $40,000, that’s enough money for the government to say you married someone who can take care of you completely.
but without the marrying part. Social welfare just has to decide you're together (sometimes through horrifying ways like getting hold of your nudes). And, if you try to hide your relationship then your partner is legally jointly liable for fraud if you're caught.
It's like they don't want disabled people to be in relationships at all.
I also see it as a feminist issue since I have completely separate finances yet my SO is somehow supposed to be paying for me like I'm a pet or a child.
That sounds like the famous GSnow comment, also known as "Grief comes in waves". I find that incredibly helpful and comforting. Here's a non reddit link in case you or @Flyinx@beehaw.org want to read it.
I think also AFAB women's heart attacks often don't present the same as men's, and a lot of knowledge about what a heart attach looks/feels like is based around what a man's heart attack looks like.
Then there's the way women's expressions of pain are more likely to be discounted.
It's Canadian research, is the situation in Canada re: suing each other the same as in the US? I don't know much about that aspect.
Would be interesting to see similar research somewhere with few personal injury lawsuits (like NZ, where anyone injured by CPR is already covered by universal no-fault accident insurance).
Sorry, the title I gave that link is misleading. It's not about nutrition, it's about how stressors associated with low socioeconomic status affect brain chemistry.
We assessed parent-reported family income, parent education, occupational prestige, neighborhood risk, food insecurity, and household chaos for 12-month-old infants (N=90) and 3.5-year-old children (N=91).
It's not the only finding like this, I've seen several over the years about the effects the stress of poverty has on brain chemistry.
Further to your suggestion about food banks, I'd suggest making cash donations so that the food bank staff can buy what's needed and most practical. No one thinks of pads and tampons for example.
I just want to say, I am so so so sorry you had to see that.
I accidentally saw some CSAM in the 1990s and you are right, it is burnt into your mind. It's the real limit case of "what has been seen cannot be unseen" - all I could do was learn to avoid accessing those memories.
If you can access counselling for this, that might be a good option. Vicarious trauma is a real phenomenon.
Darn it why is the delete button so close to the edit buttn? This has happened to me 3x now. I need better fine motor skills.