latenightnoir @ latenightnoir @lemmy.world

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As long as I'm the first one through, the rest is set dressing.

Moon.

Yep, seems to me to hold up in the metaphorical sense as well.

Not arguing against the genetically inherited traits, even beyond the purely aesthetic/structural ones, like inclinations toward certain ways of processing information, nor do I ignore the fact that they're not 100% heritable. But even as such, nurture (which I view from the belief that the entire village shapes the person) can generate a completely divergent personality, and the breadth of development is directly proportional to the breadth of exposure samples (at least to my mind).

And let's not neglect the more practical similarities as well! Different types of flora require differently sized "privacy bubbles," areas of earth reserved exclusively for their individual sustenance, otherwise they'd essentially choke each other out. We can see something very similar in the development of children who are too closely bound to their family through mechanisms of excessive control, their potential ends up being smothered.

Edit: disclaimer, I'm working with 12th grade Biology and a Bachelor's in Theatre Acting as my sociology background, so I actually expect to have botched something up in what I said. Salt is advised.

Had doubts about the Kākāpō, but then I reached the "mostly foliage" part and knew I'd found the match.

Oh, I type out a full list every time on my phone, check it about 3-4 times when starting, then I get cocky as "of course I remember what's on the list, I read it 5 minutes ago..." and proceed to forget about that one thing.

I usually forget to buy something while grocery shopping, whether it be in person, or ordering. There's no pattern behind it, the items are completely unrelated to a theme (eg. coffee, soap, mouthwash, bread, milk, eggs, potatoes, salt, etc.) as far as I can tell, I just forget to buy something.

As a guy who used to have long hair, this. If it's long enough, you could also tuck it underneath your shirt collar in a pinch.

Eh. Makes sense from the perspective of protecting profits, I guess, because the actual thing which bothers them is the volume of lost potential customers....

So, piracy is legal if you don't distribute? What the fuck is Zuck smoking?

Eeeey, I'm in this one! Happy Today, everyone!

Because we're compassionate.

We know that the resulting shockwave would annihilate a couple of blocks of stuff and people, so it is strictly forbidden by the Code of Shine to go through The Clashing on mortal lands.

This is the way.

Edit: can we also give'em tiny cyberpunk shades and stuff?

Back to pen and paper it is! Start feeding the pigeons, everyone!

Sso... like my already existing smartphone. Only larger.

See, that's just it, I already do that with my standard phone... At this point, they're all basically phablets, Nexus 6 was right all along (although it still did it better, save for the weird speaker system...). Multi-window splits have also been a thing for a good while now, I honestly don't see the point for more screen on my pocket device... Heck, I even mainline it as a secondary PC, use it to have YT/movies in the background while doing stuff on the big dude.

Wake me up when the quadfold drops. Heck, quilt me a smartphone/picnic blanket, then we can talk.

Edit: I'm sorry if this comes off as too snarky, I just don't get the trend... I thought we were heading directly away from large form stuff with this whole smartphone thing. I mean, didn't we already see this not working with tablets, and how they kinda' ended up repurposed as quasi-laptops?

Oh, my god, don't do this to me, my eyes are useless...

G'mornin'!

I actually got this and now I feel terribly old. Thanks...

Disclaimer: I'm midway through my coffee, so I apologise if this ends up meandering toward a point.

First off, I'm sorry you're going through depression, it's draining and it sure seems to have done a number on you.

Secondly, yeah, it's a pretty bad sign... But it's a bad sign which can serve as a wake-up call, depending on how you look at it and how you choose to react.

I can understand how frustrated and spent one can feel while going through it. It drains not only social batteries, but emotional ones as well, making it really easy to lash out at others out of pain. Your example seems to fit. But there are other ways to go about it. I know it's hard to make an extra push when all you seem to be doing is pushing that boulder uphill all day long, but you have to realise that, unless your friends are toxic and abusive (which they don't seem to be from what you've offered) thus basically one of the reasons which keep you stuck in depression, they're not to blame for it (and if they are, you should be reconsidering your friendship with them in the first place).

As such, it's unfair to react aggressively toward them for trying to socialise with you. They're just trying to do what friends do, to connect and be with you. In this case specifically, it sounds to me that you had an expectation about how your friends should approach these attempts at interacting with you, but you've not said anything about communicating it to your friends before reacting to a perceived disrespect of said expectation. What your friend did is a pretty natural and normal reaction when faced with random hostility from others. They are not obligated to just sit there and take it because you're friends, it's quite the opposite of what a friendship is supposed to be.

So, now it's up to you to choose how to deal with it. If you'd want to try to salvage the friendship and maintain it from now on, my advice for this would be really taking some time for yourself for a week or two, disconnect from socials and try to do some digging around how you're feeling and why, to put things in perspective for yourself. And keep it contained, give yourself a set deadline, because isolation and depression are best friends...

Before that, though, I'd recommend writing out a short and sincere apology letter to the one who blocked you. If you have no way of otherwise reaching out to her digitally, make it a physical letter and actually deliver it. Tell her how you've been feeling - be honest and open about it, really - and inform her of your planning to take some time for yourself and be specific about the amount. Even if you'll end up needing more time for yourself, it's better to communicate an extension than to leave it vague from the start.

The most important aspect of the above is not expecting a reconciliation. Apologise for the sake of it if you do feel inclined to apologise, but your friend is now fully within her right to decide for herself whether or not she wants to give you a second chance. And regardless of what happens with this friendship, try to keep in mind what I said about people not being to blame for how depression makes us feel, and I mean with everyone. Again, if they're toxic, the priority should be establishing boundaries and increasing the distance between you, but that's a different situation.

Also, always keep in mind that human beings absolutely suck at mind reading, so you'll need to communicate expectations from the start. You really don't need to feel bad about setting expectations, because relationships are a two-player game at a minimum and the other person can always choose their own reaction. But it's important that you contextualise yourself for them, tell them what works and what doesn't work for you, what you need and don't need, the works. And it's 100% ok if you need some space, or some time to yourself, or you're not in the mood to chat right then and there, or you have other things going, but it's essential that you communicate that. The only type of bad texter is the texter who doesn't communicate their pattern (or lack thereof). A short "can't talk now, will drop a line when able" is more than enough to call a break.

As a side note, the other end isn't much better in terms of maintaining relationships, and I'm referring to the vanishing act. That's the one I used to pull back in my early twenties when dragging myself through depression, I'd just vanish off social media and would not respond to anyone for months. They even used to joke that they were placing bets on whether or not I was still alive "this time," which is just as cruel a thing to do to people who are invested in your wellbeing...

You messed up. And it's ok that you did, seriously. It's how we calibrate ourselves to the world around us. The important thing is what we learn from messing up and how we apply the lesson moving forward.

I genuinely hope you'll be able to find some inner peace and clarity! And don't hesitate to ask strangers for their perspective, seriously. If you're not clear about an aspect of what you're going through, drop a post on one of the mental health boards, or relationship advice communities. And try to be honest about it with yourself first and foremost, give yourself some grace and compassion. Human life is a collective learning experience, literally not a single person who has ever lived on this planet has ever had it all figured out.

Just don't, y'know... like, doxx yourself, or something:)) And try to take everything with a grain of salt, actually think about how much sense one piece of advice makes when taken in the context of who you know yourself to be.