look, maybe it was a little autistic of me to bring up that it was an important day to me too, given that I don't explicitly celebrate easter and I was invited to a simple close family gathering of just my parents, siblings (well, sister, my brother disowned them and moved a thousand miles away) and I. It's just us 5 as family up here. I'm tired and I'm just going to say I disagree with you on this for at least this circumstance.
I do know when to make the day special, I did go to my brothers wedding 2 years ago and made it all about him and his wife, I even gave a moving speech. I've gone to christmas and simply enjoyed the day and gave presents without mentioning I am a pagan and it's "ackshually a pagan solstice holiday."
On this instance I was just intending to highlight that day also ended up being an awareness day, for something directly tied to my identity, and that was as far as I ever intended for it to go.
That's what really threw us for a loop too. They don't act highly religious, I know they used to be but it's been becoming more spiritual for them over time. We thought they were taking some religious high road over us being "degenerate."
I think it may have been a miscommunication and them just saying they were planning on an easter dinner and thought we had explicit plans to observe a day of trans visibility. I'm at least going to go, and I'll let my partner know so she can make her own choice given the clarification I got from a phone call.
Well it is called the trans day of ignoring trans people after all, oh wait, it's the trans day of visibility. I don't think just mentioning it's an awareness day is that big of a deal, would it also be a bad thing if a solar eclipse or something was happening on that day and I mentioned that? Unless there was a misunderstanding between us, the only possible explanation is social war bull.
Family involves interpersonal relationships, conversations, and discussions of importance to each other. You are missing the point of family if you think I have to put up and shut up. Chosen families exist because of the fact there are families where shutting up is the rule.
that's all of the context my partner and I had last night before bed, we spent an hour talking about it and how it was very confusing and hurtful. Only got 4 hours of sleep due to that, and an earlier game night we had with someone else that went on for longer than expected.
We're sleep deprived and stressed af with our lease ending and seeing a new apt. The following conversation I had over text this morning seemed like non apologies (they looked at first like those, "sorry you got offended" type things) and walking back without giving a clear explanation. I re-read it and maybe your first assumption is what she thought too it was right before they would have gone to bed. I'm going to call and get some clarification voice to voice. Text and lack of sleep maybe screwed some things up and I may have you to think for clearing up a miscommunication.. That's what I want it to turn out being at least.
I'll give an update once I am able to call and sort things out.
TBH tho I usually just use recent activity, but having genres, mechanics, and "vibes" helps me find the game I'm in the mood to install and play. Some of the catagories are essentially useless tho as most people who tag games have no clue what certain genre's actually are, so I have to curate some of these I care about, I have too many games to do it without steam tags though.
"Of course they don't stop progress... you'll just be stuck grinding for way way longer with our patented unfuntm systems unless you pay, peasant valued consumer"
A lot of shitty things are done under the guise of, "It makes me feel uncomfortable"
Trans people especially, anything to do with them really, Oh I make you uncomfortable, guess we will just magically stop existing.
And for the uncomfortable people out there, most times the "stop existing" thing, comes in the form of unaliving because we aren't cis like everyone else.. that's kinda the whole thing
like, you can get a new one though to be fair, I just got a brand new one, granted it was after legally changing my name but I'm certain you can just have one reprinted without a name change, I don't even think it costs anything.
I also don't understand carrying it around, my partner does, but I just have my number memorized, and the card itself is kept safe, for the few times in my life I will need the actual physical card.
That would be a great thing but I also had another idea, why can't a test be devised and codified into law, to tie minimum wage to. I know the main reasons why, obstructionist capitalists, but a test to find a living wage, average rent costs tied with other bill expenses and grocery costs. The companies raising costs feel free but the minimum wage will rise. Could something like this work? Tie wages and service/goods costs together to incentivize either livable/thrivable wages or lower costs. either way we need one of those two things, more buying power, or... more buying power.
Something to stop the decages long stagnation of worker compensation.
Kaity @ Kyatto @leminal.space Posts 2Comments 208Joined 2 yr. ago
Thank you for helping me see things from another angle, I've cleared things up for the most part <3