Exactly. For me it was relatively clear the older I got, as my father had to give me pocket money and pay for my extracuricullars on top of child support. I was not eating much (smallish, lean, not really sport oriented) and was getting some new clothes maybe twice a year, one time mostly as part of my birthday present.
Actually this question comes in handy for me. I really need to acknowledge my efforts more. So let's see:
Called in sick today. Did not risk that for more than a year, because of anxiety to loose my job. Acknowledged today that atm I need this physically and mentally, could literally not work because of exhaustion.
Made some really nice progress in therapy in the last few months.
Even if I am under (in my eyes) a lot of pressure I march on.
Other than work I take mostly good care of my health.
My mother telling me I should not think that she makes any money with me. (Backstory: Was living with her, dad paid alimony child support). I was baffled, because even when I lowkey suspected that, it was not even a relevant thing for our conversation at this time.
A few years later, when I wanted to move out for studying it was suddendly a problem, because she could not make the full payments for her house without the alimony child supprt from my dad. So I stayed.
Some more years down the line I finally wanted to move out, as I had a full time job in sight and wanted to live with my boyfriend. I was in my mid-twenties. Basically the conversation was the same as before, she could not pay for her house without me. She could not answer my question how she thought this would work out. Was she expecting me to live with her until she paid for the house? Because this would be up until my forties, maybe longer.
The house is not big enough for two families, so it was never an option for me and my bf to move in. Of course I moved out.
I keep back any feelings in arguments, most interactions and also intense situations. Makes me loose a lot of arguments because I almost freeze and I appear as a person which distances from others. On the other hand I am able to keep calm in a lot of professional situations and act deescalating.
The lord of Chaos ist going to buy some more plants, even more concert tickets, a big coffee and will soon be confused where all of his money went because he surely lives responsible.
Doing sport, regullary. It keeps me fit, healthy and sane. It gave me some pride in my achievements and more power in the long run. Even if it sometimes stressy to fit time for it in my schedule, it is worth it. It also taught me that I am able to do more than I thought, a very valuable lesson for me.
This is so cute, I will definitely try to put that in some slides of mine. Everything that makes statistics a bit more fun is Welcome.