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19 year old me was dirt poor and thought everything was expensive. Now I spend more on my mortgage than he made in a month. 🥲

The short version is that my father was both a victim and perpetrator of the cycle of abuse. When I was a kid, he was an angry man who would often explode in a violent rage. I ran away from home when I graduated from high school because I hated him and didn't want to be around him anymore.

Eventually I learned that he wasn't a bad person at his core. He genuinely wanted to do the right thing. He never had much of a chance. His own father destroyed him. Some of the stories he told me about his dad, when I was a kid, are horrible and sad. I think realizing that he was just a very broken man made it easier to forgive him.

We've talked about it a lot over the years. He is genuinely sorry for the way he treated me and my siblings and has lots of regrets. He's not perfect but he is a good "Papa" to my kids and we get along pretty well nowadays.

I am more like my dad than my 19 year old self probably thought I would ever be. But I managed to mostly hang on to the good parts and get rid of the bad ones. My kids will never learn to fear me the way I feared my dad.

P.S. The time I called him a dick to his face.

I was in my mid 20's. I called him on the phone to confront him about something he had done. All of a sudden, he blurts out, "why don't any of my kids want anything to do with me?" At this point, I was very angry with him and didn't care what his response was. I said, "Dad, we want to have a relationship with you but you make it really hard when you're being a dick all the time."

When I was a kid I would have paid dearly for saying something like that to him. The beating would have been fierce and merciless. When I said that he kind of just stopped and I could tell he was considering what I had said. I don't know why but I think he actually took it to heart.

"Whoa. You actually talk to and get along with Dad? I can't stand him. He's such a huge dick."

Yeah. Your going to call him that to his face at some point in a few years. It goes over better than you'd expect.

Got permission from my [uphill] neighbor to install a catch basin underneath one of her downspouts that always floods our yard when it rains. Dug a shallow trench about 20ft. to an existing storm drain and tied it in.

No more flooding my yard.

That's a tough one. There's not a ton of great options for personal accounting apps, much less self hosted ones. I used Pocket Smith (subscription based) for years which actually does what your looking for. Decent product overall. I switched from them to Quicken mostly because I'm an anal retentive personal accounting nerd and the fact that they couldn't produce a conventional income statement or balance sheet was a long running frustration of mine.

If I had to choose another platform again, I would go with spreadsheets since it can be as simple or complex as you want to make it. I know that's not really what youre looking for. Wish I had a better suggestion.

They were going for "super intelligence" and instead they got Cliff Clavin from Cheers.

"It’s a little-known fact that the tan became popular in what is known as the Bronze Age."

Tried using Copilot on a few C# projects. I didn't find it to be any better than Resharper. If anything it was worse because it would give me auto complete samples that were not even close to what I wanted. Not all the time but not infrequently either.

I've been groped by women on two separate occasions. Granted, I'm a reasonably well built dude and I didn't feel threatened. But those experiences were not wanted or asked for. Thankfully they were quickly resolved with a terse "Don't do that again."

I completely understand that women are often on the lower end of the power dynamic and have a harder time either saying "No" or providing their own enforcement so there's theoretically a good chance that M -> F assaults are more prevalent. But the idea that women never engage in this kind of behavior is complete and utter horseshit.

People don't harass or assault someone because of their [the assaulters] gender. They do it because they lack respect for others.

"Gambling is illegal at Bushwood sir, and I never slice."

Bad form and swinging at it like it's a baseball instead of making a chip shot.

First golfer in history to finish 18 holes in 15 strokes.

No. I did one once. It felt incredibly degrading. I decided then that I would never do one again. I am a person. Not fucking cattle at the county fair. If a company feels my time is worth less than theirs and I'm just supposed to trot on out and look pretty so they can gawk at me and decide if they think I'm worth a chance at the "grand prize", without including me in the conversation, then we are NOT going to be a good fit.

[Not] fun fact: US dropped 7.6 million tons of bombs on Vietnam. So damned close.

Purgatory.

If I die and find myself at the pearly gates soup counter, only to be told, "No soup for you! You come back one year five hundred years!" I'm going to be pissed that the Catholics were right the whole damn time.

I would not call the thing that you are describing "traditional news." You want high quality journalism? Read a newspaper. YMMV based on the publication but as a general rule, traditional newsprint is still where the good investigative reporting and writing takes place.

I don't have a lot of money to spend on subscriptions but I do pay for two newspapers. My local paper and the statewide business paper. Both weekly publications. Both delivered to my mailbox (although they have online versions). Both good quality publications overall. I think it costs me $220 a year between the two of them and they are well worth it.

"Full Stack Dev" AKA Backend Dev who knows just enough about CSS to be dangerous.

Most organizations in the US don't value cybersecurity as anything more than an abstract concept. The reasons for that can be numerous but in my experience it's usually a combination of cost + survivorship bias.

Lack of serious consequences is another factor. Had a breach? Pay a small fine and an even smaller settlement (or should I say your insurance pays) and then it's back to business as usual. Even in situations where the breach is due to gross negligence, the consequences are minimal (see Equifax).

Real talk: I wish more orgs place a high value on QA. A good QA team is worth it's weight in gold and helps prevent a lot of stupid mistakes.

If they ever file for Chapter 7, I will be deeply disappointed if the headline doesn't read, "Hooters Goes Tits Up".