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  • Maybe you need to find a warm group of Cantonese speakers (native or otherwise) that could help you make healthy bonds with your mother tongue. It would be a shame to lose fluency in it because of your trauma. But it's understandable to feel the way you feel.

  • Well put. And let's not forget that society is in many ways against us and expectations are high. Are you fit? Do you have good hair and teeth? Do you already have children? Are you in finance? Etc etc. And this is true in apps and irl. So the only thing you have control of, is accepting yourself, loving yourself, and growing for sake of yourself. With some luck, you grow into someone that someone else also loves.

    I almost rejected someone that was truly into who I was as a person. I almost shrugged it off as them just being horny all the time. It's almost scary to find someone that actually likes us and all our weird quirks.

  • I think apps and websites where you can see everyone without limits or algorithms are fine. Apps like those still exist. They are just like social networks with no gamification.

    So I don't think it's the apps, friends. If it hurts no matter where you touch, maybe it's your finger that's broken...

  • I think apps and websites where you can see everyone without limits or algorithms are fine. Apps like those still exist. They are just like social networks with no gamification.

    So I don't think it's the apps, friends. If it hurts no matter where you touch, maybe it's your finger that's broken...