Kind of a big topic so I'm not sure where to focus.
A friend of mine has ADHD and we were talking about it. Specifically about why she always has dishes in her sink. She said what happens is she goes to do the dishes. She'll wash one. Realize it's the dish she had popcorn in, and she needs to clean the popcorn machine. She puts down the dish, and goes over to the popcorn machine. She goes to unplug it, and realizes the power strip it's plugged into is kind of shitty. She's looking up new power strips online, and no dishes are washed.
Contrary, I do my dishes. I wash one. I realize it's the one I had popcorn in. I note I should clean that, too, later. I wash the next dish. I wash the next dish. I continue until the dishes are clean. I'm thinking about stuff but I'm still on task.
Oh, I personally agree. I want my players engaged and adding flavor to the world. If I didn't, I'd be better off writing a book.
But I used to be more of a "you're having fun wrong" jerk in my youth, so I make extra effort now to be clear that something might not be for me, it's okay if you're all having harmless fun with it. ( I still struggle when people tell me about their game of modern day vampires doing political intrigue run in D&D 5e instead of Vampire, but we all have our foibles. )
I discovered a couple years ago that some players hate being given any creative control over the setting. They're extremely passive and want to be told a story. that's a valid way to play, but very alien to me.
When I had a wizard character mention his wizard school I let him color in a lot of details. I'd intervene if it was badly breaking established canon (eg: we said it's in a remote desert and now you want it to be in a coastal city), but generally it's great.
I really hope we get through this, and all the people who supported trump are convicted of crimes against humanity or something. We can't just keep letting conservatism break out every couple decades like a herpes infection.
For many of then, if they were capable of looking at the world and drawing good conclusions, they wouldn't be conservative to begin with.
I wouldn't say it's hopeless, but something as basic as "facts" and "evidence" isn't going to be enough to reach someone who's a fragile, terrified, ego wrapped in a thick blanket of emotions and lies.
When Jesus heard this, he said to him, “You still lack one thing. Sell everything you have and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. Then come, follow me.”
That's not a metaphor. The camel thing was a colorful metaphor to demonstrate the point.
That's luke 18:22
Most people who call themselves Christians do a piss poor job of it. Some of them then go "oh well I'll be forgiven it's okay". That's not really following the intent. That's trying to take advantage of someone's kindness.
I'm ~40, so I don't date or spend much time with people in their 20s.
I have seen the occasional profile demanding a certain height, but I just skip on it immediately.
I wonder if it correlates with other attributes? I'm also very left wing so I don't interact with conservatives much, for example. Maybe "I need a tall man and I'll say it out loud" happens more there?
Republicans shouldn't be allowed to hold office. Every one of their ideas is bad. Someone saying "I'm a republican" should get responses akin to someone saying "I eat paste" or "I kick puppies." Stupid or cruel, it doesn't matter, they're bad people.
Well, better late than never. The question is if they're going to connect the dots and realize everything else the right wing says is nonsense and projections.
Musk is a deeply ignorant and stupid man. There are whole galaxies of things he doesn't know, and things he doesn't know he doesn't know, and then on top of that he puts together the little he does know in foolish ways.
“A lot of people will tell me, ‘oh, I wish I could be polyamorous or a relationship anarchist, but I just get too jealous.’ And it’s like, well, I get jealous too. I’m not void of that emotion. I also experience jealousy. If my partner is talking to somebody new, I feel threatened by that. But the way to deal with that is not to make some rule about how your partner is engaging with other people. It’s to figure out what you need to do for yourself,” they say. “It’s really fucking hard, actually.”
This is a good point. It's one of my peeves when people are like "oh i'm too jealous" and leave it at that. That's a flaw and time bomb you can work on.
A friend of mine told me about how a guy in her friend group broke up with his girlfriend because he didn't like that she was dancing at a concert. He just leapt all the way to the idea that she was cheating on him. The insecurity would be laughable if I wasn't low grade worried he's going to do violence to a woman in the future. Just chill out, my guy.
In college I was dating someone, and she was like "What would you do if I made out with a guy at a party??" I thought about it for a while, and asked "Are you going to come back to me after? We'll still be together?". She was like, "Yeah." I thought about it some more and went, "OK. So long as you show up for our plans, and are safe, it's not a problem for me. I want you to be happy." She didn't like that answer.
I think the dating apps are all trash, though, and are making everything worse. It creates the illusion that they're a means to meet people you'll like, but their incentives are only engagement and subscriptions. Actually introducing you to people you'll get along with is a secondary concern at best. Some of them have options to specify monogamy or not, but none of them are especially good at it.
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Sparse areas have other costs. Like, you can't get anywhere without a car, there's fewer jobs, less social stuff. Cities have much higher potential on most metrics that matter.
Not to my face. But as someone else said, it's rare for you to be told the rejection reason (for early dating). There are a lot of reasons for this, but part of it is people kind of suck at taking rejection. And on top of that, a significant portion of men are dangerous.
No one wants to risk the man flipping out, spewing cruelty, or worse. A gentler letdown seems safer.
Kind of a big topic so I'm not sure where to focus.
A friend of mine has ADHD and we were talking about it. Specifically about why she always has dishes in her sink. She said what happens is she goes to do the dishes. She'll wash one. Realize it's the dish she had popcorn in, and she needs to clean the popcorn machine. She puts down the dish, and goes over to the popcorn machine. She goes to unplug it, and realizes the power strip it's plugged into is kind of shitty. She's looking up new power strips online, and no dishes are washed.
Contrary, I do my dishes. I wash one. I realize it's the one I had popcorn in. I note I should clean that, too, later. I wash the next dish. I wash the next dish. I continue until the dishes are clean. I'm thinking about stuff but I'm still on task.
I don't know if her experience is representative.